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to feel totally irritated by my friend who says ....

50 replies

clare40 · 26/05/2011 20:16

"my 4 yr old has never had to be told off as he is a complete angel". She didn't say it tongue in cheek by very seriously, whilst looking at my little "angel" throwing his food across the table!

Really, does anyone think their child is a total angel? can it be true that she never has had to tell him off at 4 yrs old?? Really?????

Or am I being totally unreasonable and a little bit jealous as I could NOT say them same for my kids!

OP posts:
HumphreyCobbler · 26/05/2011 20:18

I would be irritated by this too, perhaps he is very easy to manage but to share this with you at such a moment borders on the rude.

cjbartlett · 26/05/2011 20:18

Ha ha when he's five she's in for a shocker

LadyOfTheCuntryManor · 26/05/2011 20:19

I often call my child a little "bugger". For that is what he is.

An angel compared to some children though.

She isn't telling you about the fact he crayoned the bathroom wall this morning.

Dappylittlemomma · 26/05/2011 20:20

Definitely not unreasonable. That would really really annoy me, and cannot possibly be true, unless he is a very dull little boy with no imagination (or maybe I'm also a little bit jealous) My SIL often makes out her LOs are 'complete angels' and I cannot help feeling smug whenever they are less than perfect.

AgentZigzag · 26/05/2011 20:20

Oh dear, your poor deluded friend.

How did you manage to keep a straight face?

I can believe someone not telling their DC off, but I can't believe it results in angelic behaviour.

taylor74 · 26/05/2011 20:21

You need a new friend shes trying to say she's the perfect parent and you are not. Ditch her you dont need a bitch like that as a friend

SpeedyGonzalez · 26/05/2011 20:21

She's lying. Tell her off.

smudgethepuppydog · 26/05/2011 20:21

Ask her if the view is good from Cloud Cuckooland.

nickschick · 26/05/2011 20:21

I have 3 ds (one vv difficult one Smile ds3 is a gem (its not just because the other 2 have wore me down -other people say it and I know he is v easy) but I never never say he is,I always say he has his moments- just in case the person who I say it to is like me with ds1& 2 and im likely to get a slap Grin.

LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 26/05/2011 20:22

What?? Is it not normal to throw food around the table at meal times?

Shit. Nobody told me!!!

Oh don't get your knicks in a twist about a smug mother. I bet she was sipping tea from a bloody Cath Kidston spotty mug, whilst tossing back her perfectly highlighted locks as she watched her lovely child, dressed head to toe in uncreased clothes, drawing quietly...

Exactly why did she feel the need to say this? To make herself feel better at your expense?... Um......

Honestly. that's beyond ridiculous. If your kids go to bed secure that you love them, job done. Who cares if you have to tell them off when you need to!!! Yes - YADBU!!!!! There's more than one way to bring up kids and yours is perfectly good.

Have a cup of tea and bitch about her on here. Grin

AmazingBouncingFerret · 26/05/2011 20:23

Make sure you remember this then for when you witness her darling little angel doing anything remotely bad behaved. You can come out with the comment "ohhh they're such total angels arnt they" with a smug smile on your face.

LadyOfTheCuntryManor · 26/05/2011 20:23
SpeedyGonzalez · 26/05/2011 20:24

One thing springs to mind: you know how kids usually behave much better with their own parents than with people from outside the family? And they do so because they feel safer with their parents and therefore freer to be themselves? Exactly.

One in the eye for your deluded friend!

squeakytoy · 26/05/2011 20:24

She may well have never told him off, simply because she doesnt notice or pull him up on his bad behaviour.

No child on earth will behave impeccably 100% of the time.

You should say perhaps her expectations are much lower than yours. Wink

wowwowwubbzywubbzywubbzywowwow · 26/05/2011 20:24

Surely you've seen him misbehave? If you haven't then maybe he is an angel at all times? Not the time to mention it though I agree.

LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 26/05/2011 20:25

HAHAHA yes - I posted and THEN realised that it might be YOUR mug she was sipping from.

have a cup of tea and bitch about her AND me on here Grin

LadyOfTheCuntryManor · 26/05/2011 20:25

I am doing. You're just on the wrong thread. Grin

AgentZigzag · 26/05/2011 20:26
suzikettles · 26/05/2011 20:26

She may be one of those people with the memory of a goldfish, or at least one that selects from the good.

Not quite the same thing, but my friend is always waxing lyrical about her angelic nephew. Except for the 48hr period after he's come to stay and wrecked her flat/refused to eat the lovingly prepared food/play with the lovingly purchased educational toy. But after 48hrs he's the perfect paragon of childhood virtue again.

Just smile and nod (through gritted teeth)

LadyOfTheCuntryManor · 26/05/2011 20:27

Well I did it for the alchi-appreciation society your so fond of....

LadyOfTheCuntryManor · 26/05/2011 20:27

*you're

BluddyMoFo · 26/05/2011 20:27

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MumToTheBoy · 26/05/2011 20:28

Does she mean she has never told him off? I know loads of mums who don't say no, but they certainly need to at times!!

AgentZigzag · 26/05/2011 20:28

Oh, just looked at your profile LadyOfTheCuntryManor, you are LadyOfTheManor Grin

Thought you had a freaky stalker.

mistressploppy · 26/05/2011 20:29

Blush as am just browsing through this thread while drinking tea from a spotty Cath Kidston mug