Uh-oh... Hairfullofsnakes... I think we have a temporary parting of the ways. 
Some parents Mothers go many steps further than protecting their children and they come across as a bit ridiculous. As parents, it's our job to fit our children to take their place in society, with society accepting our offspring as the valuable members they should be. That old adage, "It takes a village to bring up a child", it's perfectly true. It's no good demanding consideration for your feelings as a Mum if you have no consideration for the feelings of others and in the end, it's the child that misses out.
I agree with the posters who've mentioned the elderly ladies.... I think it's really only them who have a particular fondness for babies, perhaps thinking of their own children. I think it's sad for them to be treated as some kind of torture that must be endured or worse, rejected, but maybe it's a sign of the times. Just remember that one day, hopefully, you'll be old.
Nobody has to let their children be touched if they don't want to, but they don't need to make a performance out of it and they don't need to make the 'toucher' feel as if they've commited some cardinal sin. Be dignified about it, not a hysterical banshee. Your child's a person in its own right, not your possession.