Crying toddler and whiny neighbour - what to do?

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Right i have a 2mo DS and a 2.6yr DS. Now DS1 had a miserable time teething and did wake him up and he complained which was not surprising although there isn't much we could do about it. Now DS1 has a summer cold and has been waking up but nowhere near as much as last time and it's only been 4 nights in the past two weeks.

It turns out thaty neighbour phoned my DH to complain that DS1 was keeping them awake at night and it was affecting their work. I am a bit surprised not least that they did not speak to me who is at home most of the time. Also I'm not sure what they are expecting since we live in a terraced house and have another DC and they haven't suggested anythig we could do either. TBH I am surprised at this since they have a DC of their own although she is 18.

So AIBU to not do anything on top of what we are doing? We do not leave DS1 to cry in case you are wondering.

Not saying she can solve the problem completely, of course. Just saying that she should try and do what she can, which if she's looking at soundproofing, she is. My posts not particularly directed at OP, more at those charmers who said things like the neighbours were "cunts" for complaining and should be completely ignored.

The thread is nearly three years old being my point.

Aaaaah how did I miss the zombie?

Sorry I am with your dh these things can easily escalate next thing there wil be phoning ss on you or the council

My hairdresser had to move because of a issue like this her daughter was leaning to walk and get falling down they lived up stairs and had wood flooring the down stairs an ambulance driver was always moaning about the banging he asked them to buy carpet and they did not being stubborn instead

Things got out of hand council called out umpteen times her oh and they guy nearly coming to blows ECt other neighbours getting involved it was a living hell for her in the end she moved I love my hairdresser but she should of just brought some carpet at the start of it all

FFS a 3 year old thread?

Sorry I do realise this is an ancient thread but Drk's "my wide and I" posted today has made me snurk.

Some people have very short memories of what its like to have young children and I would say to your neighbour that if she could come up with any useful advice on dealing with a child thats teething and one thats unwell then it would be much appreciated otherwise shut the fuck up!

I'm sorry but neighbours have a right to their sleep. It's one thing for babies to disturb parents but quite another for them to disturb neighbours.

Yes - work with neighbours to solve the problem but don't give them the "babies cry put up with it" line. If your property is such that baby will disturb neighbours put up sound proofing or move.

Don't forget that neighbours may have health issues or noise sensitivity making crying baby particularly stressful. Having children is a lifestyle choice, health problems and noise sensitivity aren't.

To be honest, I think the OP has been very reasonable and is clearly thinking of the neighbours at least. That's good enough for me. It's people like Eggsandwich that have no interest in others from the outset that get on my nerves. There just seems to be no thought for anyone's needs other than her own little world.

Anyway, I think I've said my price. I'm out.

kids howl at night. No fun for the parents either.

annoying yappy dogs can be shot, inconsiderate partying and music can be stopped, but anyone who doesn't want to risk howling kids needs to move to a detached house. That's life.

Special - why should someone have to spend considerably more so that they can live in a detached house simply because they are sensitive to noise?

DH and I always said we would put up sound proofing to avoid disturbing the neighbours (we decided not to have children but that's another story). It's common courtesy if sound travels easily.

How would those of you who feel that neighbours should have to put up with your DCs' crying feel in a few years time if their school bus crashed due to driver having been kept awake by next door's baby????