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AIBU?

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Original poster

To want to push someone else's child over....

82 replies

Mummaroo · 20/05/2011 12:56

Whilst having a mosey around a supermarket with my DS [20months] in his trike, chatting about what we could see and what we should buy I notice a boy of about 3 at most 4 but not in school uniform and it would have been the right time for school children looking at DS and following us around. No idea where his parents were as I was mulling over something for a while in this aisle and saw no sign of them. He then went up to DS and pushed his head and chest out [like men do when they're being aggressive and asking for a fight] then he flicked his hand up very quickly, not sure if it was the right finger but the intention was definitely there, I then asked him what he was doing and he ran round the corner, but still kept looking back round at DS. I was so cross I didn't know what to do, thought I should find his parents and tell them... but when I went and saw his Dad, I realised that he was a traveller and therefore may not necessarily be bothered by this behaviour, as it is often their culture for children to copy adult behaviours plus I did not want to go and approach him when I was on my own. My DS bless him, just looked at this older boy quite innocently and then a bit confused as he was acting so strangely towards him, it was me who felt like steam was coming out of my ears I was that bloody angry!!!

OP posts:

tomhardyismydh · 20/05/2011 16:12

fluer

ballstoit · 20/05/2011 16:24

beertricks - people choose to parent in different ways, doesn't mean their inadequate.

You think travellers parent badly, travellers often think non travellers parent badly and, tbh, I think people who allow their DC to ride their bikes round a supermarket parent badly. However, none of us should be so angered by this that we wish to push a pre-school child over.

Pictish · 20/05/2011 17:55

Personally I can't wait for the day when someone wants to push over YOUR kid for being an obnoxious little snot....as trust me, this WILL happen. Probably when he bashes into someone's legs on his trike in the supermarket.

Get a grip OP - you sound frightfully snooty. Wait till it's your turn to be judged as an ineffectual parent. You might think you're above all that....but trust me - you're not.

doley · 20/05/2011 18:13

I think it just shocked you ?

You will need to get used to other little kids quirks though ...quickly ! :)

Congratulations btw .

Goblinchild · 20/05/2011 18:21

You are going to need to deal with those aggressive impulses OP, the child was 3 at most 4 and you were furious with him?
He didn't hurt your child and you wanted to assault him?
What will you do to a child who actually harms your PFB?
Dismemberment? Even if they are still an infant themselves? FFS.

BeerTricksPotter · 20/05/2011 18:49

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GandTiceandaslice · 20/05/2011 18:53

You are a silly mare.

LiliesandVeuve · 20/05/2011 18:58

You big meanie
you're horrible you

hairylights · 20/05/2011 18:58

"I didn't mean to be discriminative towards travellers, I apologise on all counts that people have taken my comments the wrong way, I shouldn't have put that, I was just shocked and upset by the behaviour as I would be mortified if my child acted so adultly. I know that children copy adults, but there are behaviours that we don't do in front of children surely? I just know that their culture hides little from the children and although I do not wish to give them a 'rum deal' was simply trying to understand the child a bit more. "

You haven't actually redeemed yourself at all here, op. You sound stick up and anal.

MillyR · 20/05/2011 19:11

I am very annoyed by Americanisms in the UK, and so do not take kindly to people sticking up one finger rather than two.

But perhaps the child was sticking his finger up for some non-confrontational reason?

I don't think a child should be riding a trike in a supermaket though, but perhaps it was one of those with the parent poles and the Op's child was being pushed on it rather than riding it down aisles full of bleach bottles etc.

Pagwatch · 20/05/2011 19:15

I do like a bit of Cher though.

lljkk · 20/05/2011 19:16

We are not travellers.
DSs will approach random stranger children and say aggressive things and gesture in aggresive ways.
I can't comment on fingers up, didn't even sound like OP could see that clearly. But little boys posturing at others?... tis as old as the hills.

merrywidow · 20/05/2011 19:30

I only had to read the thread title to understand what was coming....

Mammaroo, It is quite usual for a newbie like yourself to post something quite outrageously stupid and get flambayed

I would imagine you are sitting in front of the screen, reading and feeling all hot and prickly.

I predict you will namechange, lurk about for a time and return triumphantly in your new incarnation a lot wiser and with the knowledge you have been through the initiation and have the odd hot flush just thinking about this thread.

Welcome

merrywidow · 20/05/2011 19:32

and yes YABVU

MumblingRagDoll · 20/05/2011 19:34

Wait till your DS start school! There are tonnes of mean kids....some of them are travellers and some aren't! You can't push them all over.

allbie · 20/05/2011 21:09

She said sorry! Give her a break, eh?

ballstoit · 20/05/2011 21:33

Didn't give him the finger though did he? He flapped his hand and op over reacted. I maintain that getting this cross is over the top and not great parenting either!

pollypopsocks · 20/05/2011 21:36

I think this thread could possibly be a joke

FunnysInTheGarden · 20/05/2011 22:32

Is Cher a gypsy? Fecking pikeys giving us all that gypsy contralto nonsense

A1980 · 21/05/2011 00:09

So you wanted to push over a child who was about 3 years old who didn't know any better? He didn't hurt your son so what's the problem.

In fact your own son was in more danger of hurting another child or adult given that you let him ride a trike in a shop. I trust you'd find it entirely reasonable if youR DS had rode into another child and the parents wanted to push your DS off his trike.

YABVU

duchesse · 21/05/2011 00:23

OP Bizarre reaction. You wanted to push over a toddler? Are you quite insane?

DiddlyBiddly · 21/05/2011 00:36

Why would you expect a 3 yo be in school uniform?

You do sound like you're making a faff over a very small boy flapping his hand at your bemused and entirely unaffected DS.

ZZZenAgain · 21/05/2011 13:08

thought Cher was Indian - as in Native American

ManicAnnie · 21/05/2011 13:11

Oh FGS, get over it, OP. It sounds like a piffling little occurrence in the scheme of things, not something to get on your high horse about and use as a thinly veiled excuse for having a pop at Travellers.

ZZZenAgain · 21/05/2011 13:11

Cher was born Cherilyn Sarkisian ... Her father, John Paul Sarkisian, was Armenian American and worked as a truck driver Her mother, Georgia Holt ... an aspiring actress.., is of Melungeon, Cherokee, English, and French descent.

thanks to Wiki. Not central to thread but still

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