Hi. So i'm 6 months pregnant with my second kid and I could never fathom doing to my kids what my sister did to hers. She walked out on them, and her youngest daugter was hit the hardest. She went into depression for 10 years, all of her childhood basically, had recurring dreams about her mum's funeral, was bullied etc. She seemed to get things back on track- I live in Leicester and she's at university, so I tend to keep track of her via my ex brother in law (her father). Recently I found out that during the summer she miscarried. Now, why she was even pregnant at 18 is beyond me! Anyway, the miscarriage apparently hit her hard, and despite hiding the pain, I know she must be feeling all the crap she felt when her mum walked out. Anyway, recently, as in this year, she had a major health scare and she sunk into a short but sharp depression, and she was told that she could intercalate, but for her, being at university symbolised her victory over her mother, and that she has beaten the odds. She has a few people she can talk to, and I spoke with her the other day for the first time in ages, and I can't help but feel that behind the smile, the pain she feels is still there. Does anyone know how I get through to her on a personal, emotional level. I mean, I've had a student come to me after their mum died recently, but this is very different. Any ideas people? And do I have a right to pass judgement on my sister for this?