to go lay down in the road and await a bus to squish me flat

[FurKnickersAndNoCoat]

as of 12.00 am this evening/morning i am officially 30. i am officially single. officially a single parent AGAIN and officially moving 300 miles away after 7 years. woo hoo. bring on that bus. anybody own a monster truck? (yes of course i am attention seeking). i also think i cant spell officialy but its my birthday so bite me.

happy birthday?

thanks

nah....far too messy. think of the poor street cleaners.

oh and happy birthday. 30 is but a baby. single means you have no one else to please, no one to keep you awake snoring, no body elses dirty undies to pick up of the bathroom floor, and i would love to move and start all over again! new opportunities!

think positive!

You are being melodramatic,love:o.(I am just cos i wish I was 30 again!)

I know i am being melodramatic it's just all the other "things" that are happening now is pushing me towards monster truck in the main road. (again - attention seeking/venting).

On the up side I have a bottle of pre mixed margaritas (sp?!) in the fridge for tomorrow that I shall drink on sofa once brat dc is in bed and he is safely in the pub knocking back the pints. bastard.

i saw a post mortem after a bus had run over two people. it aint a pretty sight.

the buses drive slow past my house. they may just squish me into a size 10. failing that, as above, margaritas

sounds hideous,Vicar.Never been to a PM but did once see somebody exsanguinate horribly,does this count?

(Sorry fur knickers,trying to stop you chucking yourself under a bus,get the Margaritas in and celebrate your youth,lol)

Can't drink it until tomorrow. Well I could open it now but that would be a whole different thread. What the hell does exsanguinate mean.

It means bleed out,as in bleed to death.(sorry am nurse)

get the margaritas in and enjoy 30!!!!

ugh Mavis i am trying to enjoy a margarita here none for you

(as if I would share anyway).

:o i thoughtthe post mortem stuff sounded worse!!

thirty is a good age!Wait til you get to near 40!

i know i know it is just all the other crap that is coming at the same time.

oh dear,spill,if you need tox

Ah it's all the same BS isn't it. Been with him 7 years, moved 300 miles with my daughter to be here and now he doesn't love me. CARES i might add but doesn't love me and feels he cannot "waste my life". He has spent the last 2 years living a single mans life (pub every night mon to fri until at least half ten, football at the weekends and "working" on his mates house extension) so really I have been pushed but hurts a lot to have to uproot myself and dd and go "home". After all this time AND a failed marriage in the background to boot! Be reet! MARGARITA :-(

Oh sweetie xxx

Right,what can I say?

1)It will all look better in a years time,even though it doesn't feel like it now

(Widowede almost a year ago,thought i wouldn't get through it,have 2 dcs,yes still much pain,but I'm here and moving on slowly,(no men in my case,miss the man stuff!but new socuial circs but hey,im progressing!!)I know its not the same but,You WILL get there.

2)Think of your children.At the end of the day,whatever happens,and nevermind how much they drive you mad on occasion (mine did tonight!) they will get you through

3)Hopefully "home" includes supportive family/friends,yeah you made a mistake,don't we all?BUT family are there,or friends.Don't feel bad,hopefully they are there and they love you.

Hard work but see it as a new beginning,life begins at 30!!enjoy the margaritas

Thank you.

Yes home is my parents, and my older sister and her family and "old friends" who hopefully haven't moved on too much in 7 years!

I am very sorry to hear you are widowed and thanks for your support.

i should just say it wasnt the bus drivers fault...

furknickers - sorry to hear that - he clearly does not deserve you. why are men such knobs? enjoy those margaritas and enjoy the start of the rest of your life. 30 is a good age to be.

yep,ditch the bastard.I have that song by Beyonce where shes telling him to chuck all his stuff to the left lol running through my head (hey im nearly 40 and still down wiv the kids,lolol!)

i thought i was down wiv da kids until stepson (now 20 almost 21) moved in. I apparently am not down wiv da kids. (i thought i was da kids?!)

(oh and he is ditched/dumped/kicked to the curb (or is it kerb?) it is just the interim period of getting the new place and being stuck here being called a liar and a (intake of breath) cunt).

OMG fur coat.deffo get out!!!that is totally not on x

I hated turning 30, had 4 kids, one failed marriage and a failed relationship, no job, felt like crap and cried.buckets ............But honestly , looking back I can genuinely say my thirty's were probably the best days of my younger years, I learned more about allowing myself to be myself, about enjoying the daft stuff ,not sweating the small stuff and found my inner child but also relished my independence
and then turning 40 was fabulous!!!!!...... had a job I loved, kids were pretty much unscathed from such chaotic beginnings , I was independent, still didnt have a lot financially but emotionally and serenity wise I was loaded.
Turned 55 now , got with my DH 9 years ago , married him 2 years ago and he is a star.