to think my friend's DD would be better off at her father's?

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My best friend loves her DD but has no patience. She feeds the kid mc donalds nearly every night, screams at her for wanting a cuddle, and told her DD that it was her fault that he and her OH split up. Her DD's therapist suggested that she stay with her dad for a month. It is working great for the little girl. My friend says she wouldn't mind it being permanant as long as she could still get her maitenance. Her DD will be 4 at the end of August. Right now she has her DD every wednesday and every other weekend. I told my friend that she should keep this schedule because her DD is doing sooooooo much better.

Mrspoc babyhammock is right.

You know what DH (the step dad) is brilliant. Men like him deserve rights because he is an amazing father and to deprive him in dc life,or the baby we are currently having right now life, would be unfair to his them as yes he that good. I suspect you are too (but of course how do I know)

DC dad deserves no rights at all, because to do so would be agaisnt her rights to be safe and I make no apologies for this. Believe me Mr.Spoc if ever had the unfortunate luck to meet this man you would agree.

But cocoflower - you have to agree that some men (like your DC's dad) are crap fathers AND some women, such as the OP's friend are crap mothers.
It seems to be the assumption that the crap parent will be the dad, when it isn't always that simple.
Each case needs to be taken on its own merits I think.

But I have said earlier, after listening to snorbs that the argument not about mothers vs fathers

I pondered if it was infact not a father/mother right issue but absent (or immoral?) parent issue.

I do not think any parent has automatic rights, they earn them and for those who prove to be a threat to a child's wellbeing somehow seem to keep getting their rights on a plate over the 'good' parent and child themselves.

This is sick.

Cocoflower did make it clear that it wasn't mothers vs fathers.

I also agree with her that parents earn their rights.

How can a parent that has shown zero caring and done nothing towards the welfare and upbringing of a child have equal rights to the parent that has been there 100%.

As for the child's right. Don't they have a right to genuine stability and good parents and role models around them. I believe crap parents do so much damage to children in the long run.

Your so right babyhammock.

Why cant the courts just not see that having contact can atcually be bad. They seemed determined any parent should have contact but seem rather wholly on the justification if the other parent is genuinely a destruction.

She came over last night with her DD. DH was playing with her and our DC while we visited. She must have told off her DD 15times for nothing at all really. She moves to her dad's 1/6