To be nosey and ask about your social life...

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DH have a fair few friends but we only really get together on birthdays, christenings, weddings etc....always an occasion rather than a "just because" type scenario...

I am not too fussed about this either way as we seem to be always on the go with 3 young DC but just wanted to nose and ask are you a constant social animal, dinner parties and such like or do you wish you saw more of your friends but never organise or find the time?

I am usually out once or twice a week in the evenings, but usually low key stuff like going to a friend's for drinks or a church meeting. I only go out with DH once every couple of months at most as our youngest is not sleeping reliably enough for a babysitter except the grandmas, but I hope this will change soon. We usually have a friend round for dinner once a week and then see friends at the weekend when we can. It's getting better, slowly.

i see all my mum friends for lunch on mondays and we often week up during the week to do stuff with the babies. i see uni friends for weekend visits a few times a year and work friends (not at work atm) about the same amount. i keep in touch with school and travel friends on fb and meet up with them when i can.

I don't work straight 9- 5 hours. I often work evenings and weekends and I often go away on residentials.

I have a few friends and I would love to see more of them!
I have a male friend that I go caving with once a fortnight
I have a female friend that I go cycling with 3x a week early in the morning, we sometimes go out for lunch.
I have a circle of 9 friends who I never get to see at the same time, there is always at least 2 of us that can't make an event.
I have a friend that I have known for 27 years and we meet up at least once a month for a walk and she comes in and out of the circle of friends mentioned above.

I have a weekend away twice a year with the male friend and we are trying to get a week away in Novemeber.
I like to have a weekend away with the large circle of friends at least once a year- we generally go to Malmassion.

DH and I go to gigs several times a month.Sometimes he will come out on a 'girls' night if we go to a Tapas bar or something.
If he is going on a lads night sometimes I will pop in and have a quick with them on my way home from work.
I like to go to the pictures in the city by myself a couple of times a month.

I like to go out for a meal with DS once a month

We try to have one good night out together every couple of months, I probably go out more often (once a month) with my friends, usually to each other's houses.

This year though I have a very hectic showbiz calander, lots of weddings, lots of 'big' birthday bashes, and so far (touch wood) no funerals... I didn't do anything last year but attend funerals so I'm liking this year MUCH more so far.

We have got together with a bunch of our 'old school' mates to arrange night's out and weekends away 'just because'... I've always been a social animal really, we have quite a few different circles of friends so even if we're out every other week there are long periods of time between seeing one set of friends.

Things were pretty slow on the 'going out' front for 7 years, we couldn't find a babysitter, my folks moved away (gee thanks!) so now we have a brilliant babysitter we're keen to use her and are making up for lost time. I actually didn't mind being a social hermit for so long, but I'm ready to polish my dancing shoes onces again, only now, I've forgotten how to walk in them

All our close friends moved away from our home town over the last five years. We try to get together every few months.

We moved a short distance away from our home town last year and haven't made any new friends in the new area so far. I joined the community group but it hasn't helped me to make any friends.

DH and I both miss having a mate we can just go out for a drink and a chat with once in a while.

Dh and I have reasonable social lives but jus tnot together, that bit is something we need to work on.

I have a group of friends that meet every couple of weeks for drinkies in the evening,
I have friends that I see during the day
I have a different group of friends who go away for the weekend twice a year

DH has friends he goes out with about once a month
He is part of a quiz team that meets fortnightly

together we see our mutual friends once or twice a year which doesn't feel enough.
together we go away for the weekend together a couple of times a year.

I want to increase the time DH and I spend with our friends.

DP and I go out about once a week together or with our best friends (also a couple) when my dc are at their Dads.
I have quite a lot of female friends and I go out with them about twice a month and other friends who I see for dinner every few months.
I think the reasons I have a good social life are 1) because I have every other weekend free while the dc are with their dad and 2) because I still live in the town where I grew up and still have the same friends I had at school

We have a good social life. DH and I play badminton together twice a week (does that count as socialising?) and we usually have people over friday and saturday nights..........have to say though, most of our socialising is done with our friends who have kids so the kids get together and play in one room and as adults socialise in the other!

Actually, our social life is much better than before DS I reckon!

This thread has motivated me to email some of my close friends, who I only see once a year, for a meet up. All my friends are so spread out (often in different countries) so I tend to socialise with DH (!) and family really. But I need to make more of an effort as I am a natural loner and despite this even I know that life is more interesting when there are more people in it!

I'm more social than dp I do a zumba class with my best friend every tuesday and then bingo with a wider circle of friends on a friday, we also go clubbing every other month or so.

I see my friends a fair bit although not as much as I would like. I do put a lot of effort into organising get togethers which I found spurred others on to do the same. So I just send out a quick text saying lets have a girls night out/BBQ/couples night or whatever and everyone always says yes. People are often too disorganised to set things up even though they do want to see their friends so you should take the initiative. When kiddies come along it is very easy to get so involved in family life that you make no time for anything else but it is so important that I make sure we all make time for it!

We see friends on a weekly basis, usually with children in tow, but sometimes we manage to escape!

We've not really got any friends that we socialise with together - he has mates, I have mates, sometimes they intertwine if we have a gathering at our house like a BBQ or party.

Dh works a LOT and long hours so we go out rarely but love it when we do - we are more likely to go out for a meal out as a family when he is off.

I go out every 6 weeks with a book club I belong to - I like that because it's a guaranteed night out , I always try to go to that.

Every month or so I meet up with a good friend for a pub lunch and we catch up with each other - I would love to see her more but we don't live close enough to do it more often.

I usually have coffee with friends at least once a week, and on a Tuesday I get together with a friend who works but finishes early on that day, so we have a chin wag and kids play together.

At least once a month/6 weeks I try and have a girly night out or take away.

I value my friendships a lot and try and invest as much time as I can into them, it's far too easy to lose touch with people.

We don't tend to go out at all. Apart from living 15km away from the city with a dreadful bus or train service, I couldn't get back from the station after 22.00.
DH goes to the sauna on a friday night and we occasionally have a BBQ on a lunchtime at the weekend. Babysitters are another problem, I don't want to get a dutch speaking one and the english speakers are pupils of DH.
I am hoping my social life picks up once we move.

Gosh I'm slightly at some of your social lives!
OH and I do not live near our parents(hours away)-no family near us at all actually.
Newish to the area so although I know people(not many mind you)not on 'friends' terms where we would babysit for each other etc.
Can count on one hand how many times OH and I have been out together since birth of our 2 dc(eldest is nearly 3).
Had a babysitter recently OH paid her £35 for just over 3 hours.
He said he didn't want to appear 'stingy' as he knows her df and would hate people to talk about him!!

Well jimmy people will be talking about him after paying her that much!!! Do you live in London? I used to have to pay £8 an hr for a babysitter but even at that rate your dh has been overly generous! Now I pay £3 per hour - one of the joys of moving to the country

Valium-so happy you agree that's alot of dosh.
I'm a SAHM because I can't afford to go back to work and I would love to babysit(or rather watch tv with lovely food while dc are already in dreamland upstairs)for that ammount
OH was saying I was being tight!
I live right on the outskirts of London.Wow £3 per hour!I'm jealous.

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