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To say goodbye to Mumsnet?

80 replies

LoveTheWayYouLie · 17/05/2011 15:51

I've not been on here in a while but gosh are people quick to make others feel shit.

Whatever happened to being nice to people? Offering advice?

Just because you're seperated by a computer screen you think you can say what you want and it wont matter? I hope I never come face to face with any of those people.

OP posts:
thisisyesterday · 17/05/2011 15:52

no yanbu, you're free to say goodbye whenever you want.

there IS a flouncer's corner for this though, you may want to repost this there.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 17/05/2011 15:52

We haven't had a decent flounce in ages

Flisspaps · 17/05/2011 15:53

YABU

There are lots of lovely posters on here, who offer fab advice.

JessicaDrew · 17/05/2011 15:53

take anyfucker!!!!!!

sausagesandmarmelade · 17/05/2011 15:54

Goodbye!

MsToni · 17/05/2011 15:54

Oh boy, that's not right.

I'm sorry for whatever you went through. If being on here is not helpful or healthy for you, by all means, give it a break, go away from it all. Its online, anonymous and some people exploit it to hurt others without thinking of the effect on the person concerned.

It's real to you and you've been hurt. I'm sorry about that.

Take care and all the best.

carminaburana · 17/05/2011 15:55

What's happened? (( nosy ))

BitOfFun · 17/05/2011 15:55

Lots of people feel the same- I must have read this thread almost daily. Maybe there's a website where they all congregate and are really really nice to each other all the live long day.

Where, oh where can that place be?

GooseyLoosey · 17/05/2011 15:56

I have been here many years and never knowingly made anyone feel shit and try and offer advice. If you post in AIBU people shoot from the hip. If you post in parenting, you get more advice.

No one has ever been particularly unpleasant to me but I guess my posting persona does not invite this.

Post in the manner you want people to respond in and keep out of AIBU and you will get lots of advice and yes.. YABU based on my experience of the site.

wannaBe · 17/05/2011 15:56

ibu to think these flounce posts are just attention seeking and self indulgent?

you posted in ibu, the consensus was that you were. Nobody was nasty to you on that thread. I'm no fan of people getting a kicking on ibu but your thread was tame in comparison.

so if you're that upset by the goings on on a website then perhaps it's time to step away.

Dogsby · 17/05/2011 15:58

take your linen trousers with you

tallulahxhunny · 17/05/2011 15:58

you dont meet nice people in everyday life unless they are all liars.

i can never understand people who ask a question then cannot take the answer. Do people really prefer to be lied too?

Northernlurker · 17/05/2011 15:58

I think you need a tougher skin. I've very rarely seen outright unpleasantness. I've seen firm opinions but personally I don't say anything on here that I wouldn't say in RL - warts and all. Some posters do things that are unpleasant, foolish and cruel. I'm not in to dressing that up as something else.

There is a huge amount of good advice on this site - it's absolute nonsense to say otherwise. As far being nice - this year I lost my bil to cancer. In some pretty dark and sad moments posters on this site treated me with great kindness and really, really helped. I hope in my years here I have done the same and will continue to do so. If you don't stick around you'll never know whether any of this is true of course.....

piratecat · 17/05/2011 15:59

it's hard to see what some people write. some people are so scathing and pissy, it's like a bloody competition on here sometimes to push it and be a cowbag.

rise above i say!!!

GypsyMoth · 17/05/2011 16:01

link to the thread??

GwendolineMaryLacey · 17/05/2011 16:02

I haven't seen your thread but should I assume you posted an AIBU and everyone told you that you were?

tallulahxhunny · 17/05/2011 16:02

it the ditching friend thread

stickytoffeepud · 17/05/2011 16:03

oh shove off OP

lol Wink

PuppyMonkey · 17/05/2011 16:03

I flounced months ago and I don't think anyone noticed. Have had an occasional visit back to spy, but not posted much. I think I'm over MN. Shock

GwendolineMaryLacey · 17/05/2011 16:04

Oh bloody hell, it was you with the labrador. Well if you take offence over a daft friend then it stands to reason you'd take offence over being told you were a twit. Here you go, this place will probably suit you better, they have fluffy tickers and call each other hun. Byeeee!

theglove · 17/05/2011 16:05

Why go?
Just namechange if you want, see how things are around here and don't take things so personally.
I thought you had some nice replies on your thread and some harsh ones, about average for AIBU I think.

I actually cried a bit last night because I thought someone was being harsh and had misinterpreted what I meant, and it was well mild! Can't believe I was so sensitive. It must have been other stuff and probably is the same with you, especially if you're pg.
I considered a flounce, but thought fuck it and stayedSmile

JanMorrow · 17/05/2011 16:06

send us a postcard!

bupcakesandcunting · 17/05/2011 16:09

Is this a thread about a thread?

I mean well when I say this and I DON'T want to patronise you but I think you may be a teeny bit hormonal. Understandable, completely. Why not step away from MN for a bit, eat some chocolate/have a lie down and come back tomorrow? If you still feel the same tomorrow then feel free to flounce leave.

MN can be harsh but at least we're not a load of suck-arses. What would be the point of asking if you are BU, then people lying and telling you YANBU if you are? That's the only thing I don't get about this place. If someone is being unnecessarily harsh, just tell them to kindly STFU :)

takethisonehereforastart · 17/05/2011 16:09

There's a flouncer's corner?

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