To be cross with DP?

[mumof2teenboys]

Bit of a back story to this.

MIL is staying with us while her kitchen is being refitted. She has been here for 10 days.

We don't have the best relationship, she doesn't really approve of me and has said several things over the years that let me know how she feels. DP has not heard any of this, she is quite clever at saying things when its just her and me. He thinks that I over-react to the things she says when I tell him.

The last 10 days have been extremely difficult for me, I struggle to interact with her, partly because of the things she has said in the past and partly because she can ignore me for 7-8 hours at a time. If I ask her a direct question, she will respond but thats about the total of our communication.

She doesn't really enjoy any of the meals I cook, and will eat the smallest amount but make a big issue out of it iyswim.

So, to the issue in hand. AIBU to want to rip his head off shout at him for going out on the piss tonight, its a 'boys' night out so I'm not invited.

He knows how much I'm struggling with her and he's gone out. He told me to 'let her get on with her own thing' but she hasn't spoken to me since he left at 6pm. She is sitting in my lounge wrapped in a blanket because I won't put the heating on.

I don't know whether to laugh, cry or drink all the

So, wise mumsnet, AIBU?

Well, if you're already the devil incarnate etc. what does it matter if you sit around in your pjs? It won't alter her opinion of you if you think it's already that bad.

Do what you want in your own home.

I'm in the midlands, we have the window and patio doors open. Sieze the remote from her grasp. Put whatever you want on the TV. Pour yourself another glass and simply ignore her. It's your home, your DP can follow his rules when he is home but right now it's your home so your rules. If he wants his mum pandered to then that is what he should be doing.

OP when you say you are 'expected' to do x y z, who 'expects' this?

If DP, he can bugger off, he left you alone with her.

If her...

Go turn the heating on now, tell her you have done so (leave the bedroom window in your room open from now if it will make you too cold to get to sleep). Put your PJs on (screw her). Then go and make polite small talk with her for half an hour, ask if she wants anything else, then go to bed with your laptop.

I have to say you both sound pretty grudging, curmudgeonly and miserable!

Make her a mug of hot tea/coffee/Ovaltine/Horlicks. Offer her a hot bath and tell her that you'll put a hot water bottle in her bed?

First ring your dh tell him " to come home quick your mother is wrapped in a blanket, she must be coming down with something. I'll have to put the heat on, I'm really worried"
...then go and put your PJ'S on.

Rebel a bit..whats the worst she can do? ignore you for wearing your pjs!!

You should count your blessings and be glad you dont actually live with her....