My first time on here, please be gentle!
I've just got home, having taken a bus. I got on and it was busy, a few spare seats dotted around. I had my twins in a pushchair (aged 8months) and my DS 2.11 with me. I folded up the buggy as it was only light and there was a lady with a newborn in the buggy area. I am now noticeably pregnant too, in just under 4 months. I sat down on one seat with the twins hugged close to my bump on each leg and DS kind of perched in between my legs with my bag behind my feet. DTD2 was bawling but after a while she fell asleep. After 3-4 stops the bus is full and people are standing.
A woman gets on with her son, who looked about 11 and walks up to me and says really aggressively, 'You're in his seat, you've got to move, he's got autism.' At this point I felt a bit nauseous, would have had to moved someone else's pushchair to get to DTDs' and still had about 30mins left of my journey. I said to the woman, verbatim, 'I am very sorry but I'm pregnant, I've got three small children and it will be very difficult for me to move now' as negotiating the twins + DS + my bag to the pushchair rack to stand it up, while the bus was moving would have been near impossible! And even if I'd taken someone else's seat getting up would have woken DTD1 who would have cried for the rest of the journey. A gentleman opposite me said her son could have his seat (I think he was just glad DTD2 was finally quiet!) and several people made similar gestures. I won't lie if the woman had asked me in a nicer manner I might have been more likely to move but she she opened so aggressively!
After the man offered his seat she said, 'why aren't you moving yet?' and I explained again I couldn't really move. At this point she told me I was disgusting getting so close to my face she spat in it and then said to DS 'your mummy is a lazy cow, I hope you have autism so she gets a dose of her own medicine' making him cry.
She then got off the bus throwing her coffee down so it spilled everywhere still ranting. Throughout all of this her son was rocking slightly and chewing his cuff but he didn't look anything other than very marginly distressed!
AIBU in thinking she's not doing her son any favours? She's getting people's hackles up from he get go and making mountains out of molehills, I don't think she's making his life any easier! Maybe I should have moved and stood with my children and I'm sure she had had a tough day but surely that's no excuse for her behaviour?