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AIBU?

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Original poster

or is my husband re babysitting tonight?

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 16:58

We have just been let down at 4 o clock by our babysitter. Tonight is the rugby club end of season dinner dance. DH has virtually organised the whole thing.

I have tried everyone I can think of and the only solution is to take kids (4 and 14 months) round to DH's brothers house and their hired from a company babysitter babysit my two and we go back and stay after do.

I have said I am not happy leaving them/I will stay home. Husband has just beem very rude on the phone to me, saying "fine if you don't want to have fun thats your decision" and "that I am not v good with change".

So (my first) AIBU - I have about 30 mins to make decision? Who is BU?

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minibmw2010 · 14/05/2011 17:00

If you were happy to leave your DC with your babysitter, what is the difference of leaving them with a different babysitter? OK, you don't know this babysitter, but if they are hired through a company I assume they'll have been checked, etc.? I can see why your DH would be annoyed really as there is a solution right in front of you and this is obviously a big night for him.

Groovee · 14/05/2011 17:01

Take the kids to their uncles and enjoy the night. You could always leave earlier.

BluddyMoFo · 14/05/2011 17:03

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squeakytoy · 14/05/2011 17:03

I would say you are being a bit too over-cautious, but you say you found this solution, why are you not happy with that, it sounds perfectly reasonable to me.

mumblechum1 · 14/05/2011 17:04

I agree re. the babysitter - what's the differene? Get there early enough to get them settled, then go and have a good time.

BluddyMoFo · 14/05/2011 17:04

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CurrySpice · 14/05/2011 17:04

No excuse for him being chippy but I'd do what Grovee said and have a lovely evening!

minibmw2010 · 14/05/2011 17:05

I'm assuming because the hired sitter was hired by BIL first and they are now suggesting the hired sitter be shared by all the children ??

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 17:05

the original bs was my dad and I have never met teh new babysitter. The uncle and aunt are coming to same event.

Looks like its me that is BU!

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squeaver · 14/05/2011 17:05

You are.

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 17:06

yes the babysitter was hired by them first. they are helping us out.

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minibmw2010 · 14/05/2011 17:06

I would get ready, go around and chat with the babysitter to put your mind at ease and then go and have a good night.

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 17:06

thanks tee hee.

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Carrotsandcelery · 14/05/2011 17:06

I feel for your dh. He will have put a lot of effort into this evening, he will be very stressed about it and he obviously wants you there by his side.

I feel for you too sunshine. I would be anxious about leaving my children with a stranger too.

I assume that the babysitter will have been vetted thoroughly to be allowed to babysit for a company. You could ask about the qualifications required to do it. It might be they are better qualified and know first aid, child care rules and regulations etc whereas the average babysitter wouldn't. I also imagine that they have been disclosed too.

Has this particular babysitter babysat for your BIL before? Surely they wouldn't use a babysitter they were not happy with.

I imagine your dcs will have a great time with their cousin(s) too.

I do understand your anxiety however. Tough call.

I don't think either of you are being unreasonable.

applechutney · 14/05/2011 17:06

So that's settled then. Grin

GwendolineMaryLacey · 14/05/2011 17:07

YANBU. There is a difference between leaving the children with your dad and leaving them with professional sitter. I'd need more than half an hour to decide whether to leave them with a perfect stranger, checked or not.

5Foot5 · 14/05/2011 17:07

Enjoy your night out!

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 17:08

OK. thats it then. I will go. See you in the morning, with a sore head.

I have just never left them with someone I don't know before (family, friend, once - someone from nursery)

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ConsuelaBananahammock · 14/05/2011 17:08

nice of them to offer Smile

will your DCs settle at another house okay?

go out and have some fun and support your DH, it must be a big deal for him.

ChishAndFips · 14/05/2011 17:08

Are you worried that you don't know the new babysitter? BIL and SIL obviously trust them as they are leaving their kids with them so I'm sure they'll be fine.

EricNorthmansMistress · 14/05/2011 17:09

YABU! A professional sitter will be more than capable, and the opportunity is right there. Have fun!

ChishAndFips · 14/05/2011 17:09

Oops x-post.

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 17:09

blimey things move quick round here

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 17:10

their kids are older (10 and 13).

They will settle reasonably ok. the baby will be ok.

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fuggles1 · 14/05/2011 17:10

YANBU... the kids don't know this babysitter and the OP obviously is in a rush, what if the kids are unsettled by her or don't like her?

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