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or is my husband re babysitting tonight?

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 16:58

We have just been let down at 4 o clock by our babysitter. Tonight is the rugby club end of season dinner dance. DH has virtually organised the whole thing.

I have tried everyone I can think of and the only solution is to take kids (4 and 14 months) round to DH's brothers house and their hired from a company babysitter babysit my two and we go back and stay after do.

I have said I am not happy leaving them/I will stay home. Husband has just beem very rude on the phone to me, saying "fine if you don't want to have fun thats your decision" and "that I am not v good with change".

So (my first) AIBU - I have about 30 mins to make decision? Who is BU?

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exoticfruits · 14/05/2011 17:13

What have you decided? Do hope that you are going-a professional babysitter can cope! If the kids are unsettled she will settle them and I'm sure that she will go out of her way to be friendly!

ConsuelaBananahammock · 14/05/2011 17:14

I think she's going out Wine Envy

exoticfruits · 14/05/2011 17:15

When I was 16yrs old I sat for a 4yr old and a 20month old, the younger one always woke and cried. I played with her and put her back to bed when she was ready-it really isn't a problem-unless you make it one!

exoticfruits · 14/05/2011 17:16

Wine Good!

Original poster
sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 17:16

we are discussing it in the kitchen

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CurrySpice · 14/05/2011 17:20

fuggles, best not let them out of your sight till they're 18, just in case :o

Is it a discussion or a DISCUSSION!!??

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 17:34

just a discussion

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ratspeaker · 14/05/2011 17:37

Is the hired babysitter Ok with having 2 extra kids to look after?

vmcd28 · 14/05/2011 17:46

Id be fuming if my dad let us down at 4pm re babysitting, tbh Grin. Sorry, this was a AIBU thread that was actually sticking to the point - I had to steer it off track slightly.

Oh, yabu.

shesparkles · 14/05/2011 17:49

Go and have a good night, the kids will be fine, your husband needs your support!

cat64 · 14/05/2011 17:56

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izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 14/05/2011 18:04

On the subject of housework Quentin Crisp's observation is particularly pertinent as I don't know of anyone whose dying words were 'I should have done more cleaning'.

Housework is way down on my to-do list and, when I have the time, I'm usually too knackered to hunt down the Dyson or the dusters.

I've got cobwebs that would be the envy of Miss Havisham, but the shower gets a regular workout, clothes are clean, the dishwasher's in constant use, and the bedlinen's changed regularly.

No visitor to my home has yet expired of dust inhalation, or broken their neck falling over assorted clutter, and if wearing judgey pants inhibits any guest from fully enjoying the warmth and wit and laughter that accompanies lively debates around my kitchen or dining room tables they're under no obligation to visit again.

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 14/05/2011 18:06

o fuck drat.

take no notice of the above; I'll try to do a better job of multi-tasking next time.

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sunshineandshowers · 14/05/2011 18:08

OK! I have just done some crazy packing and am now virtually dolled up in pink dress. Thanks for the reassurance! We have compromised a bit, husband will stay on for 1/2 hour till kids asleep/settled and bs will txt hourly (I know I amd insane!)

Thanks thanks thanks

PS> Yes I am pissed off with my dad. What can you do tho??

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exoticfruits · 15/05/2011 08:27

How did it go?

ChippingIn · 15/05/2011 08:58

You made the babysitter text every hour - what on earth for? I can understand you not wanting to leave them with a stranger, but having done so, what is to be gained by a text every hour? She was hardly likely to tell you she was drinking vodka, while shagging the bf & had locked the kids in the bathroom was she Grin

You need to have a chat with your DH though, the way he spoke to you was pretty crap. Having only a few minutes to decide if you want to leave your kids with a stranger for the first time is a bit stressful for most mums, him being less than understanding is not great.

I hope you all had a good night.

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sunshineandshowers · 15/05/2011 11:51

Hello!

We had a great night! I am a bit jaded this morning. DH stayed with baby till she was asleep and DS was put to bed by his older cousin at 8.30ish, which he loved. They were both up at 6.15, little cherubs!

The evening was brilliant and everyone was v complimentary to DH.

She never txted every hour and we never asked her to. I was having a nutter moment and realised the error of my nuttiness quite quickly.

Yes - he shouldn't have spoken like that and I will tell him today.

Thanks for all the help and hope everyone has a great Sunday!

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ChippingIn · 15/05/2011 12:00

~I'm glad you had a good night & that it went well for DH :)

I guess he was probably a bit worried about it & took it out on you a bit... but even so...

Well done for realising the error of your ways and not asking the bs to ring you hourly!

It's times like this you wish kids had a 'delay start' button like washing machines Grin

exoticfruits · 15/05/2011 13:35

Well done-I knew it would be fine!
It should be read by all those women who don't think that a professional babysitter can possibly cope and are glued to their DCs!

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