To think my friend shouldn't encourage her dd to kiss other children on the lips?
Piggyleroux · 13/05/2011 21:36
My friend encourages her 14 mo dd to kiss other children on the lips. She thinks it's cute.
I saw her yesterday and her dd was really snotty. She was egging her on to kiss my ds and before I could stop her, her dd had kissed my ds full on leaving a slimy trail all over hls lips and chin.
It really grosses me out. Wibu to tell her it's horrible and she should stop encouraging her dd?
thisisyesterday · 13/05/2011 21:40
does she actually tell her daughter to kiss other children on the lips? or does she just tell her to give someone a kiss, and she does it on the lips?
because, if the former then yes, i think that's slightly strange
if the latter... it's normal and harmless! and i wouldn't try and stop a 14 yr old doing it becasue they wouldn't understand
that said, if a child is poorly/snotty then it's not very nice to encourage them to kiss anyone anywhere!
MadamDeathstare · 13/05/2011 21:46
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Liliesandveuve · 13/05/2011 21:48
I think the world is divided on this. Half think kissing on the lips is fine, the other half thinks it's weird/gross. I think it depends on your own experience. IMO kissing on the lips is fine with little ones and I would be offended if you asked me to stop my child kissing yours. It's a natural way for them to show affection.
LaTourEiffel · 13/05/2011 21:55
Well, my DS2 (now 18mths) kisses with an open mouth - sometimes on my nose (:-) ) but mostly on my mouth. I can re-assure you that I certainly have NOT taught him to kiss like this. However, I have taught him that kisses are natural and pleasant....as his mum I can't resist smothering him in kisses.
I think to state that a mum has 'obviously' taught something is a very odd (and judgemental) suggestion.
Small children naturally kiss on the lips, I think it must be because they are kissing with their lips, IYSWIM.
LaTourEiffel · 13/05/2011 21:59
I've been drinking - when I said 'I think to state that a mum has 'obviously' taught something is a very odd (and judgemental) suggestion.' What I'm referring to it surely can't be 'obvious' from a child behaviour what has been 'taught' as the little monkeys darlings will do their best to show you up at every opportunity!
AgentZigzag · 13/05/2011 22:01
But she is as cute as a button Piggy, your friend is just showing off her marvelousness to the world.
Sounds a bit like you're itching to take her down a peg or two for some reason.
Yeah, like lill says, tell her how you feel so she can get the measure of what you think of her cute germ spreading ways.
MillyR · 13/05/2011 22:04
Many people don't think it is acceptable to kiss on the lips unless the other person is in a sexual relationship with you; many other people think it is acceptable if you are in a sexual relationship or you are related to the person.
If you want to have physical contact with someone else, the onus is on you to make sure the other person finds that acceptable (or in this case the onus is on the parent]. It is clearly not on to go around kissing people without asking, or encouraging your child to do so, when you must be aware that many people do not like such physical contact.
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