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Original poster

to leave him to sleep in his pram??

27 replies

ummwhattodo · 12/05/2011 20:09

OK I know probably not the right place but am now wondering if I'm doing the right thing.

I'm on my own with ds who is just shy of six months. He's normally a very happy baby and only had the odd times of colic which can be sorted fairly easy. But for the last two days he has been really upset, and refusing milk (I formula feed after failin at BF). He's dry and it doesn't seem to be colic (it's not his crying pain). So today I managed to get him off to sleep by firstly going for an hour long (he woke as soon as got home), then for a 20 min walk (asleep as soon as we got round the corner) and now again folowing a half hour walk. After the first walk, he did sleep well for a couple of hours. But in his pram Blush. he then finally had a good bottle of milk.

So after taking him out for his walk now, I've left him in his pram again. (i've only been home 10 mins). I've tried his normal routine, he had a bath but refused milk and wouldn't settle. half of me thinks well he needs the sleep and his pram goes flat but it's not one of those bassinet type things. The other half thinks I should get him out and try milk again or take him upstairs. I just feel like I'm losing perspective on whats ok to do.

So AIBU to leave him in there so at least he gets some sleep?

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squeakytoy · 12/05/2011 20:10

He will be fine sleeping in his pram for a bit.

iEmbarassedMyself · 12/05/2011 20:11

No Confused of course YANBU
Some prams are approved for overnight sleeping anyway. Why would it not be ok?

Original poster
ummwhattodo · 12/05/2011 20:13

My HV told me that it damages their backs if you leave them in it too long after I told her the other day about how he loves sleeping in his round the shops/on walks.

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EveryonesJealousOfGingers · 12/05/2011 20:14

Absolutely fine, don't worry about it! Sleep is the key, one of my friends had to drive up the motorway to get her DS to sleep and then leave him in the car on the drive, so a nap in the pram is nothing!

southeastastra · 12/05/2011 20:14

i used to leave my poor son in a car seat to sleep, his back is fine Grin

bad mummy

Graciescotland · 12/05/2011 20:14

I'm a big fan of whatever you need to do to make sure everybody gets some sleep but I wouldn't be tempted to leave him in a pram overnight. It's fine for a nap during the day though IMO

foreverondiet · 12/05/2011 20:16

At 6 months its fine even if not totally flat - you said its nearly flat, why would it not be okay?

IgnoringTheChildren · 12/05/2011 20:19

Well I'd definitely leave him to sleep! It's tricky when they get like this - all rules and routine go out the window. Take a break from it all and wait til he wakes up, hopefully by that point he'll be feeling better.

I'm having similar problems today too - 5.5 month old, inconsolable crying and refusing to feed. Got him to sleep for a bit by going for a drive and he's now feeding/falling asleep on me. Suspect that I will stay put and let him sleep on me for an easy evening! Only problem is his nappy will need changing at some point...

FoxyRevenger · 12/05/2011 20:20

It's how I get my best mumsnetting housework done Wink

bluepaws · 12/05/2011 20:20

lol

imagine what the HV would say when you say the baby sleeps in the bottom drawer

loiner45 · 12/05/2011 20:21

it's fine for him to sleep in the pram:-) first rule of surviving motherhood is "never wake a sleeping baby" - get some rest yourself, if he's going through an unsettled phase then you'll need it.

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ummwhattodo · 12/05/2011 20:25

Thank you Blush I just had this irrational fear of the bloody HV knocking on the door wagging her finger at me.

I've gone and checked up on him and he looks so peaceful. When he wakes up I'll quickly take him upstairs and hopefully he'll have a bottle and settle in his cot.

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saffy85 · 12/05/2011 20:26

YANBU at all. Your baby has to sleep and if his pram is where he's happiest, so be it. My DD had colic and constipation for the first 6 weeks or so before changing formulas and the only places she'd sleep was on my chest (not safe at all as the ADs I was on made me drouzy) and her baby bouncer. HV told me she was fine to sleep in that and to not worry about her. That isn't much different to a pram really except the bouncer didn't lie flat.

Hope baby feels loads better soon. Meanwhile, make the most of the quiet and put your feet up, you've earned it by the sound of it Smile

Mahraih · 12/05/2011 20:27

YANBU!

When DS stays asleep in his pram after we get home (rare), I cackle with glee and leave him to it. Grin

AgentZigzag · 12/05/2011 20:31

YES! YES! YES!

Leave him to kip.

Fuck Sod any routines, get your peace and quiet where you can.

They look so beautiful when they're sleeping.

Mollymax · 12/05/2011 20:39

Having three children I am definitley ok with leving him to sleep in the pram.
When my middle dd was a toddler she often fell asleep on the floor, and I left her to kip.

cassierosse · 12/05/2011 20:40

Well, if DC can let his DD sleep in a cardboard box.........Grin

ShuffleBallChange · 12/05/2011 20:40

DS1 slept in his car seat in his cot for a month at 5 months. Didn't do him any harm. DS2 now 5 months, I'm waiting and wondering where his strange preferred place to sleep will be! If he's sleeping, leave him. NEVER wake a sleeping baby, they really are little grotbags when tired.

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ummwhattodo · 12/05/2011 20:43

I suppose the one advantage to his not sleeping thing is I've probably walked about 8 miles today :)

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AgentZigzag · 12/05/2011 20:45

16 MO DD2 falls asleep in her highchair molly, usually at the weekend when we're having lunch.

We all just take photos of her cuteness (as well as trying to put a towel under her head so it's more comfy) Grin

osospecial · 12/05/2011 20:57

My DD is 20months now and has always done the same, she will settle+ sleep in cot in the night no problem but never during the day, she has always had her 'naps' in her pram (or car seat if we are out in car), she even goes to climb in pram herself when tired she just always seems to prefer it and its much easier for me2 as I can do other things while she naps like walk the dogs etc.
I agree with the other posts, if he's happy leave him sleep :)

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ummwhattodo · 12/05/2011 21:00

I just spoke to my dh and told him that it was ok. I read him out the post and he pointed out that I make it sound like he doesn't exist! Blush Blush

He's been working late and so will only be home around midnight and has to leave early again tomorrow so I'm on my own in terms of looking after ds but he is around. Sorry (I think I need some sleep!)

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LoveLeonardCohen · 12/05/2011 21:04

Of course YANBU!! I leave my baby to sleep in the pram when we go for walk. Prob not overnight, but I do transfer to the bed

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ummwhattodo · 12/05/2011 21:32

Phew just done the fastest transfer to bed I've ever done. Bless him only stirred a little - poor thing is shattered. Now time for some food :)

Thanks knew I could rely on MN to tell me I'm being silly :)

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Mollymax · 12/05/2011 21:40

agentzigzag we have som wonderful photos of the girls falling asleep in their dinner.Grin
Op. I hope you enjoy your supper.

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