Really had it with my neighbour, I just spoke to her husband

[nightime]

I have posted about her before, not sure how to link but if you search my name you will see. if someone can tell me how to link a thread I will.

A couple of months ago she accused me of grassing her up to her employers about being off sick when she wasn't. News to me. I couldnt give a flying fuck what she does, I dont like being accused of something I havn't done though.

Spoke to her at the time and she said, ok I believe it wasn't you ect but since then me and my kids can't go in our garden without getting evil looks from her either at the window or at her back door, my cat just doesn't know whats going on as she used to encourage him to go in their house and put water out for him, now he shits himself when she opens the door.

I have not spoken to her about it since as I still feel that she owes me an apology for accusing me and when we have been in our gardens at the same time she ignores me and she has not accused any of our other neighbours.

It has been getting me down as both myself and the kids do not feel comfortable in the garden anymore as she is either at the window giving us evils or at her back door with a face like a slapped arse.

Tonight I was in my garage when her husband came home so I decided to ask him why she was still being an arse with us, he knew nothing about her accusing me, he had a totally different story to her about her work stuff, he said he will speak to her,

He seemed totally surprised that there was a problem at all,

Was I being unreasonble by talking to him?

ok one last try

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i give up , im just not computer savvy.

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Proabably no help

So maybe she's just doing what you asked and keeping your cat away from her house so he doesn't go out front? And the only way she's found to do that is to growl at him every time she sees him.

I would do as MadamDeath said and sit out more than normal, nobody's going to go to the length of glaring at someone reading for hours on end.

And then try and talk to her.

What have you got to lose?

She'll either blank you, be rude, or be glad you've broken the ice because she needs to talk to someone with a friendly ear.

An update on the situation if anyone is interested lol

I hadn't seen my neighbour since the other night when I spoke to her husband but was aware this morning that she was calling my cat when he was outside, progress I thought.

I went to the shop a little while ago the back way and when I came back she was at her back door and she said hello, I returned the greeting.

Ive been chatting over the fence for the last half an hour, hope all is sorted now, we talked about the cat, the fence, I explained that I felt I needed to speak to her husband as she was ignoring me. I think she does believe me now.

I hope it is sorted as I don't wanna fall out with my neighbours, only time will tell.

That sounds good, just keep it to a friendly hello & goodbye from now
on a keep your distance

A= and

Oh that's good news! I must admit I didn't think it would end well!

When you feel that she is glaring at you just smile and wave and say a breezy hiya

A = and, what do you mean by that elmofan

I meant to write "and keep your distance" but for some
reason my phone just typed the a.

nightime, it does sound to me as if she has mental health issues and is maybe a bit paranoid? Best not to take anything she says personally.

I do wonder if she has some sort of mental health problems as her behaviour sounds a bit strange and paranoid?? Do you know if any other neighbours have had problems with her? Now that you have spoken to the husband (well done, btw) I think you will just have to ignore her and her filthy glares. Use the garden as much as poss and take no notice. Is there a fence? Could you raise it??

Some neighbours are just crazy, don't be fooled into thinking only those in psychiatric wards are! Last month my neighbour knocked on our door, she is nicknamed by other neighbours "news of the world" for obvious reasons........

Anyway to cut a long story short, she had lost her car keys and seemed convinced dh or myself had taken them......! She had placed them on her recycling bin for a minute and gone in, when she came out two minutes later they were gone.

At the said time, we were actually in bed! I was in my dressing gown and slippers trying to convince this woman we had no idea what had happened to her keys. She left in the end.

40 mins later, we hear another knock on the door, it's her again, come to tell us she just found her keys underneath her cat!

Did I mention she actually called the police......they ignored her.

Some people's behaviour is just bizarre, most times they have deep rooted issues and it manifests in this weird way, it may be to get attention, who knows, but I pray they get help.