to not wear a tutu this weekend?

[MrsFruitcake]

My BF has her hen weekend, starting tomorrow. 3 nights away - tomorrow night is 80s night and we've been asked to wear tutus, angel wings and deelyboppers. Sod that - I'm 35, far too old for that kind of thing, and I'm more of a dress n' heels kind of girl anyway.

I did buy a tutu but it looks awful and so instead I'm going to wear a strapless dress (red leopard print with ruffles on the hem), matching wings and deelyboppers as requested. The dress is kind of eighties in style.

I know my BF will be disappointed but I just can't bring myself to wear the tutu. AIBU?

YANBU

Oh I know, what the hell is it with tutus ?? My friends have been trying to shoe horn me out of my jeans and into one, why I don't know, i'm far too old to be playing dress up.

YANBU. Forced jollity is the least fun you can have.

YANBU and should do what makes you comfy, you're wearing the wings after all.

Though I am 37, and love dressing up, you are not to old and never will be, but if its not your thing its not your thing.

Strangely, though I love dressing up, I HATE Hen Night dressing up. Unless its a Nora Batty theme.

YA soooo NBU.

Hen Night dressing up is dreadful and humiliating, with the possible exception of my friend who organised a sumo wrestling party complete with fat suits

YANBU

Resist.

There are few sights more cringeworthy than a gang of "girleeez" out for Kirsty's hen-night down the local bar wearing tutus.

Agree with HengshanRoad.

Anyway I don't remember tutus in the 80's , t'was rara skirts

It just smells of desperation to me..... Oooohhhhhhhhhhhhhh, we're so outgoing and up for a larf

No, you look fucking stupid and you're getting on my nerves, now shut it before the glass starts to shatter

God that sounds grim.

If you look too much like a hen do you can get turned away from some of the nicer places - I've been to bars where the bouncers have refused hen parties entry where the girls are wearing lingerie/devil horns/L-plates/tutus/feather boas because they worry they'll wasted, get in fights and cause a rumpus.

I would go one further and insist nobody wears the bloody things , could you take a long a lighter ? They always look pretty flammable to me .

What else is planned for the weekend ?

Gah. For my hen night I told everybody that if I saw so much as a blown up johnny, an L plate or a feather boa I would be leaving them and going to a different pub on my own! thankfully they all agreed and we had a cracking time without all the cheesy "we're so zany and fun!" crap. OP, your dress sounds just the ticket, ignore the tutu pushers!

YANBU, and personally I wouldn't be wearing the wings either! How ridiculous. Anyway since when were tutus an 80s thing - I grew up in the 80s and don't remember anyone wearing them other than for ballet?

God, I hate hen nights.

Do you ever look at a group of women wearing pink stetsons and tutus and matching t-shirts and think "Wow, they're having so much fun, I wish I was on a hen night"? No, you don't.

Can you honestly say that any hen night you've ever been on would count as one of the Top 10 nights out you've ever had? No you can't.

Is there anything else in the world that you would rather spend a minimum of £100 on? Of course there is - loads of things.

I hate hen nights.

I bet you are doing a spa at some point over the weekend aren't you ?
Also my idea of hell , wandering around in a swim suit getting all wet and paying £££ for some one to put hot stones on your back . Meanwhile you just now they think you are a prat .

Why can't people just go out have dinner and drink a wee bit too much ?

now , that will be know then .

Best friend or not, there is nothing on this earth that would induce me to go on a hen night like this.

Agree with travellingwilbury, can't you just have a nice meal somewhere and drink too much wine?

And no, there were no tutus in the 80s. Is this the 21st century (pink obsessed) version of St Trinians costumes?

And the forced mixing. The school friends never get on with the work friends do they?

And the poor girl from the office who's really a pity invite who NO ONE speaks to. And she ends up in tears in the bog.

And the Grannies. Why would you go out for a night with your mother? Or your future MIL?? WHY????

And someone who never gets out always ends up making a fool of herself with a random bloke in the inevitable night club.

I wanted nothing like that for mine and thankfully neither did my best friend but if my best friend had asked me to do it for hers then I would.
Being different to the rest of the girls might single you out and make you the focus of some attention, that may annoy your BF, it's up to you if you want to run that risk.
If you've bought one you might as well wear it, it's one night.

hen nights are on my long list of reasons I don't want to marry my dp

Yes, Travelling, a spa features on Sunday morning.

I am going to the 80s weekend at Butlins, feel sick just thinking about it, having read so rather dodgy reviews.

I suppose I'll just have to roll with it - although BF texted me last night to ask me to reconsider wearing said tutu. Not a cat in hells chance of that happening! Still, I can't get out of the 'sexy army' costumes planned for Sat night!

Oooohh Butlins, that's just a big shag fest full of leering men leaning out of chalet windows looking more like animals caged animals than human beings.

I live in a town which seems to attract stag and hen dos and yes all everyone is thinking us "what a loads of cocks".

Why do we have to dress up for these things ffs?!

God. Horrific. I used pregnancy to get out of SIL's hen nights with henious weirdo harpies friend. Both times.

YABU, it's not about you, it's about her, who cares if you look like a twat! Especially if u are somewhere where you won't bump into anyone.

By not dressing up you will be setting yourself apart from the others, and giving the impression that you are 'above' them.

Make her happy and wear the tutu

Hmm, Pregnancy still seems a pretty extreme way to get out of a hen-night though! ha ha! xx