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AIBU to go on holiday without 10mo DS?

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bettydraperswardrobeelf · 12/05/2011 09:16

I have been offered the chance to go away with my best friend for a week to Turkey in September. The accommodation is free as the apartment belongs to another friend so will just be paying for flights and spending money. My PFB DS will be 10 months when I plan to go. DH is fine with it and is encouraging me to go, my Mum is going to help out with the childcare and work have given me the time off. The next step is to book the flights. However, I am starting to have a massive crisis of conscience. the idea of a week lying by a pool reading a book with no demands from anyone seems like absolute bliss but I am really worried about leaving DS for that long. I haven't been away from him for more than a night yet, but will be going back to work full time in July so will be a bit more used to it by Sepetember. Am going to miss him like crazy and have started wondering if my plans make me a really bad mother. Basically I want to know if you were offered this opportuinity would you take it or would you be a good Mum and stay at home and care for your child? I feel bad for even wanting to go!

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HeadfirstForHalos · 13/05/2011 14:17

If it were both you and dh going I would say yabu, but as he is still being looked after by one of his parents, with a hand from your mum I think that is reasonable.

Enjoy your holiday!

PatriciaHolm · 13/05/2011 14:41

You're leaving him with his Dad and a loving Grandma, not throwing him at the nearest random relative and running off slamming the door behind you Grin He'll be fine, you'll be fine, it'll be a lovely few days break.

sunshineandbooks · 13/05/2011 14:43

Go for it. If your DH had written your post, no one would bat an eyelid and he would probably get a unanimous YANBU. There is no law that says because you're the mother you have to give up things in a way the father doesn't.

Your DS will be cared for by his father (i.e. his other parent), and 10-months on from giving birth and coping with the first 6 months of sleep deprivation and endless baby-related things, I daresay your body and mind could do with the break.

You will undoubtedly miss your DS, but you can phone your DH daily for updates and to talk in DS's ear so he can hear your voice. You will come back restored and refreshed which can only make you an even better mother.

I'm very jealous! Now go and enjoy yourself!

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