DD is now 4 months old and is a lovely, placid child. MIL has offered to look after her 2 days a week when I go back to work in a month. We said yes because financially it would be the best thing for us and I thought at the time that I would rather have DD looked after by someone who loves her.
But.. MIL does not seem to have any interest in her. When she comes to visit us or we go to her quite often she does not even hold DD and even when I've asked her if she wants to.hold her she might have her for 2mins and then pass her someone else. This is even worse when her 1yr old grandson is about, she just fawns over him and barely looks at DD. She takes photos and videos of him and none of DD. I have even given her some photos of DD but she has not framed then but has about 3 up of her grandson.
When DD was 6 weeks old me and DD had a conversation with her about this and DH told her that we wouldn't be comfortable with leaving DD with her unless she becomes closer to her. MIL said that she will be ok with her when she is on her own with her. But I have no evidence of this, and she's still the same with her now she's 4 months.
Also if she feels uncomfortable with me or DH around, I really haven't done anything to warrent this. I relish all the help I can get because its hard work looking after a 4 month old, and I have told her that. But still she doesn't seem to have interest in DD and I am due back to work very soon.. stressed..
Or maybe its me overreacting?