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to complain to the school about this unfair treatment of ds3 and his friends.

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 06/05/2011 19:23

Every year the dses senior school has something called 'Activities Week' for all the pupils in S1, S2 and S2 (the Scottish equivalent of years 8, 9 and 10). This is actually three days of activities of various sorts - some residential, including foreign trips, and other activities that are either day trips out or activities in the school. The costs of these activities range from nothing to several hundred pounds, but there is plenty of choice at the lower end, imo.

The children opt for one or other of the various activity packages, each package lasting the three days of Activity week.

Ds3, who is in S2, has come home and said that a number of the activity packages have been cancelled - either because not enough children have signed up for them, or because they can't get teachers to supervise them.

There were some vacancies for other activity packages (the less popular ones, I assume), but the children in S3 were given priority for these, as it was their last 'go' at activity week, and there are now no vacancies on any of the activities, so there are some tens of children who have nothing planned for them in those three days.

None of this has been communicated directly to the parents - a letter would have been nice, and this lack of communication is one of my complaints, but the main issue is what the school is planning to do for these children who are, through no fault of their own, being excluded from Activities Week - which is sweet FA!!

The children have been told it is a normal school day, and they will be expected to be in school as usual, where they will be sent to a classroom to revise or to do nothing at all. The only other time that children spend days like this is if they are in internal exclusion - basically all-day detention!!

So am I being unreasonable to think that this is bloody unfair on the children involved? It isn't their fault that they haven't got an activity for those three days, and basically it feels as if they are being punished.

Three days of sitting in a classroom either revising or doing nothing, when the rest of your year, and all of the year above and below are going to Barcelona, Italy, Villareal or London, or on outdoor activities like climbing, dry-slope skiing, horseriding, fishing or golf, or Theatre Production, or Accessorize (beading, jewellery making, silk painting and a photography day based on their creations).

So would I be unreasonable to write to the school and complain about this unfairness?

Tbh, I am seriously considering letting him stay home for those three days, and telling the school he is sick.

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Acanthus · 10/05/2011 10:55

I'd make him go, at least to start with. The member of staff running the project will surely be sensitive to the position of the kids and try to make it a laugh. Your DS won't know unless he tries it, it might be fun. But after day 2, if it's not, I might let him take the last day off. Wouldn't say that in advance, though. Things normally work out ok if you let them, I think?

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 10/05/2011 11:00

I think you are right, Acanthus - and I suspect that ds3 is definitely taking a pessimistic view of this activity - he knows nothing about it, but has made plenty of assumptions about it, all of which 'prove' how terrible and boring it is going to be.

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Acanthus · 10/05/2011 11:02

He's a teenager, though, isn't heGrin And he's disappointed. He might come round a bit in a week or two.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 10/05/2011 11:05

Ohhh yes - he's definitely the most teenager-y of the three of them, too! Grin

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igggi · 10/05/2011 18:43

I think your swimming/cooking activity sounds ace, maybe the school should offer that instead!
The competition does sound educational rather than fun, but maybe the entry involves making a video, or a model or something - and maybe the prize is £, or a trip? You never know.
It is a pita when parents undermine an activity week by agreeing to take kids out, as your children's friends are claiming. But I know it happens.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 10/05/2011 18:53

Thankfully the school seem to have sorted out some better options, and we'll know tomorrow morning if ds3 has got a place on the activity he chose from those available.

I did think that the competition might be more fun than ds3 thought it was - it might have involved a trip out for research - but it looks as if the problems have been sorted out.

And I do agree with you about parents undermining the school - and I also suspect that fewer of ds3's friends' parents were going to let them stay away than he was making out, if you see what I mean.

He managed to summon up a monumentally un enthusiastic 'yeah, it's OK' when he told me what the teacher in charge had offered - like I said, he's by far the most teenager-y of the three!! Grin

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