To wish the gorgeous young thing next door would feck off?

[GrumpyEyeBags]

I've always thought I was reasonably confident about my appearance. But I'm the wrong side of 30 with some wobbly bits.

The house next door has recently been sold and a woman has moved in with her kiddies. She's single, v friendly and nice, but she's stunning; I mean like a model. She must be 6ft tall, is really slim with big bazookas, and is really pretty with big blue eyes and long blonde hair.

With the recent good weather she's been lying out in the garden whilst her children play, sunbathing in a bikini, and honestly, there's not a wobble on her. I'm not stalking her, honestly. Her garden is in full view of our bedroom window so I notice these things.

Anyway, I've mentioned to DH that she's v pretty and he just says 'yeah, she's nice, but she's not in your league'. Yeah yeah.... Maybe he means it, maybe he's just being nice, but for the first time in my life I feel really jealous of this woman and a bit insecure that my lovely DH MUST have noticed her too!

He's never given me any reason to suspect he'd lust after other people - so why am I getting my knickers in such a twist? Oh, and AIBU?

And yes I've name changed....

I think people who are very obviously attractive like that in a stereotypical way or very self-confident or very talented or very groomed etc just do make other people uncomfortable. I think it is reasonable to assume that men will have taken good note of her physical appearance but they are seeing beautiful women a lot anyway - film, magazines, work, driving around etc so try not to let it unsettle you too much.

Is she nice?

See, I worry more about the mousey ones. The stunners will always be way way out of DH's league

I'd remind myself every day how much I feel sorry for her having no husband. And I'd repeat it, mantra-like, every time I saw her bazookas.

are you blonde yourself? A lot of people have a type they are attracted to anyway. So if you are petite and dark for instance , she may well just not be his type.

everyone gets jealous sometimes he probabaly is genuine, you'd be surprised how many attached men would be like 'coor' look at her' really blatantly and disrespectfully infront of you especially if shes a like fhm material , he sounds like a decent bloke tbh.

b- jealousy is normal I'd probs be jealous and I'd be younger than her lol we lall have those moments

YABU, so what if your DH thinks shes a stunner too, theres a big difference between looking and touching.
U think she got that body cos she found it in a cornflake box? No she works bloody hard to be that way and from what u said u didnt!! Sorry but if u r that bothered then u go work bloody hard for it and spend the silly money on gyms n pretty hair etc otherwise be like the rest of us and dont bother!

YADNBU. It would be easier for you if she was a cow, but she's lovely.

Don't biscuit me 'cos I'm a right ugly mare but sometimes pretty ladies do get a hard time from other women cos they're worried about DH/P's. Make friends and enjoy her company, she's probably very lonely if she's new and it's just her and the littlies.

Don't worry about DH, I'm sure his love for you goes way beyond the aesthetic.

Sometimes you've just got to thank the lord that the neighbourhood nudist is a 70 year old woman!

Honestly. Your DH says he fancies you more than her and you still won't accept the compliment?

What's wrong with this culture, that women can't even hear someone saying something nice without wanting to twist it into feeling inferior about their appearance?

Some stunning people get more mundane the more you look at them/know them, and a lot of - at first sight - plain people get more interesting the more you know them. Also it's in the eye of the beholder. You need to become more secure in yourself and don't compare you to others.

Many moons ago I posted my picture on Hot or Not (yes, yes I know) and the reactions ranged from "Gosh - beautiful" to "Too Sloaney for me" "Scary - she looks like she eats babies!" (I assure you I don't eat babies - I may blow raspberries on their tummies a little too much though).

Yes she seems nice (though I've been a leettle bit guarded with her because she's so model-like, and yes I know that's horrible of me...)

And god this is going to sound terrible but I think part of my problem is that I've always been told I'm pretty and always got plenty of male attention in the past (ie before I was married). But over the last few months I've been dissecting myself in the mirror and noticing the start of wrinkles, baggy bits, etc and thinking maybe I'm starting to look older. So Miss Fecking perfect turning up now next door is really bad timing .

Yes I know I sound horrible and bitter. I probably am.

Get to know her. Then you'll probably forget what she looks like (you don't have to encourage DH to get to know her as well ;)).

I mean

totally agree with plantsitter.

Have a friend like this. Gorgeous. When dh met her (once) he was instantly besotted. so annoying. She lives a few hours away, if she moved next door to us I would move I think!

YANBU, but I think you need to namechange back, so we can judge you.

Bake her lots of neighbourly treats in the hopes she'll get more wobbly

hahah I'm just kidding,

Oh dear, and I was so looking forward to getting to know the nice couple next door

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we have one of "those women" a few doors down, she would look good in a bin bag, to make it worse she's lovely.

good looks dont mean you are good at relationships

look at all the zelebs who are gorgeous but rubbish at making something work

i dont think i have ever felt insecure about another woman being better than me in my life :)

Maybe your dh is like mine, women who tick all the boxes for conventional attractiveness just don't do it for him. If dh said that he preferred me to a woman such as you describe, I would believe him because I know his tastes which, thankfully for me, don't include ladies of the 'model' type .

I'm really sorry I've moved in next door, I've got to live somewhere!.

We all get a little of others, either by looks or lifestyle or money, perfectly normal but it ain't half annoying!

I get envious of beautiful women, those with Beauty, Figure AND nice personalities, argh, they are the worst. You can't not like them, that's the killer.

Personally, I like to slate the good figured ugly ones to satisfy the inner bitch in me.

"I'm really sorry I've moved in next door, I've got to live somewhere!. wink"

LOL

Viva beat me to it