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AIBU?

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To request that friends take their DCs doingses away with them?

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ViviPru · 03/05/2011 19:15

I keep finding full nappy sacks in the bins around my home. We don't have children yet, but welcome regular visits from friends who do. Our general refuse is only collected fortnightly, so our dogs deposits are twice-weekly taken to the dog do bin in the village, a chore we put up with grudgingly as responsible pet owners. These days I'm finding that such trips are having to be taken daily especially in the summer months as more friends start having babies and visiting and feeling free to fill up my waste paper baskets. Particularly irksome is when they don't alert me and it may go unnoticed for a few days if we don't use that room.

I wouldn't dream of leaving a full dog poo bag in a friends house, if our dog defecates in someones garden we take the offending article with us, so is it wrong to expect parents to do the same?

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HecateQueenOfTheNight · 03/05/2011 19:18

Why don't you just say to them "Please remember to take the nappies down to the bin, thanks"

I really don't think you can reasonably ask them to pack them all up and take them home with them! But it is reasonable to ask them to take them to the main bin outside the house.

ginmakesitallok · 03/05/2011 19:18

So you'd take a full dog poo bag home with you then??

maGicGift · 03/05/2011 19:18

YANBU eeeww thats horrible, I wouldnt dream of leaving a dirty nappy in someones bin - always take it away with me.

CareyFakes · 03/05/2011 19:18

Ah precious life before kids...

yama · 03/05/2011 19:19

I would say YABU. However, your friends should let you know that they have put a nappy sack in your bin. In fact, they should offer to put it in your outside bin.

bittersweetvictory · 03/05/2011 19:19

this made me laugh but given the situation YANBU,

lynehamrose · 03/05/2011 19:19

YANBU , thats disgusting to just leave it in a waste paper basket around your house! But surely you're aware they are going off to change a nappy? I don't know why you don't realise til days later that there are dirty nappies.

yoshiLunk · 03/05/2011 19:20

You are not being unreasonable at all. In the nappy days when visiting anyone, even my sister, I would put the nappy sack outside and took it with me as I left to go home.

Totally out of order to put it in an indoor bin and not even tell you

Hardhatonamission · 03/05/2011 19:20

YANBU at the very least they could put them in the outside bins.

CareyFakes · 03/05/2011 19:20

Seems odd for that many people (you have a lot of visiting friends) to leave nappies everywhere in bins. I don't know if any of my 'mum' friends would do anything like that, I know I haven't. I always ask where I can dispose of the offending article.

Newgolddream · 03/05/2011 19:21

Well YANBU if the nappy sacks are in bins in rooms in the house, if it was me I would always point it out to the person I was visiting and give it to them to put in the main bin outside. But I think you are being VU if you expect them to take them home with them!

Supermoo · 03/05/2011 19:22

They aren't dogs though. YABU.

Check the bins when your friends leave, put offending articles in wheelie bin, move on.

The poo is in a nappy in a bag in a bin, it won't hurt you. You could ask friends politely if they'd put nappy bags directly in the outdoor bin. It's not the same as picking up dog poo at all, it's not like they are leaving shitty nappies on your kitchen worktop or anything.

holderness · 03/05/2011 19:22

Take the waste paper bins away when nappies may be in the offing :o

Beamur · 03/05/2011 19:22

I think its fair enough to ask friends not to use a waste paper basket for nappies, but I'd just put them in the bin, fortnightly collection or not.
I have a dog, a child (no longer in nappies) and a collection the same as yours and quite happily put dog poo bags and dirty nappies into it.

mooloo · 03/05/2011 19:22

YANBU as its not hard for them to put it in the outside bin

Southwestwhippet · 03/05/2011 19:23

ditto CareyFakes, sounds very odd to me.

I always ask where I can put a nappy and will stress that it is dirty if an inside bin is offered. Woudln't take issue with putting them in an outside bin though.

nethunsreject · 03/05/2011 19:23

yanbu.

who leaves a dirty nappy in someone else's house, fgs!

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ViviPru · 03/05/2011 19:23

Yes I do take full dog poo bags with us, treble bagged in Tescos bags, put in the boot ready to be dropped in the village bin.

Asking them to put them in the main outside wheelie bin won't work firstly the bin men won't take anything not in a big black bin bag, besides, I can't have the bin fill of poo for potentially two weeks

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CareyFakes · 03/05/2011 19:24

Gather the nappies up, and return them on their next visit.

NettieSpaghetti · 03/05/2011 19:27

All my friends ask if it's ok to put it in such and such a bin! Depending on whether bin is due for emptying or not I advise them accordingly! I have deposited my fair share of dirty nappies too.

Not without asking if there is a best place to put them first.

I would not ask people to take them home with them.

smokinaces · 03/05/2011 19:28

YANBU. I have had 2 kids in nappies and I still hate other people putting stinky nappies in my bin! With DS1 I used cloth, and with DS2 I used a special wrapper bin to avoid smells. If people had asked I would accomodate them - but I get so fed up of going to put something in the kitchen bin only to open it and be stunk out by a child's nappy.

RobynLou · 03/05/2011 19:28

but it's not 'full of poo' though is it really? a child getting through more than 2 nappies in a visit would be exceptional, and most nappies are just wee when you get past the first 8 weeks of a babies life...

Bearcrumble · 03/05/2011 19:29

They shouldn't leave nappy sacks in wastepaper baskets. I don't mind the kitchen bin being used because it's got a lid (does that make me awful?) and is taken out regularly.

Toughasoldboots · 03/05/2011 19:29

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ViviPru · 03/05/2011 19:30

LOL @ Careyfakes. It hadn't bothered me so much up to now, I just managed it as others have suggested. I think it's having all these bank holidays and lots of visitors and finding bags in the bin in the home office (closest bin to the garden where we've been entertaining) then not coming across it till starting back at work today that has tipped me over the edge. Most of my friends are new parents so probably, like me, have no idea of the etiquette. Perhaps I should feel complimented that they feel so relaxed at my home!

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