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AIBU?

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To request that friends take their DCs doingses away with them?

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ViviPru · 03/05/2011 19:15

I keep finding full nappy sacks in the bins around my home. We don't have children yet, but welcome regular visits from friends who do. Our general refuse is only collected fortnightly, so our dogs deposits are twice-weekly taken to the dog do bin in the village, a chore we put up with grudgingly as responsible pet owners. These days I'm finding that such trips are having to be taken daily especially in the summer months as more friends start having babies and visiting and feeling free to fill up my waste paper baskets. Particularly irksome is when they don't alert me and it may go unnoticed for a few days if we don't use that room.

I wouldn't dream of leaving a full dog poo bag in a friends house, if our dog defecates in someones garden we take the offending article with us, so is it wrong to expect parents to do the same?

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MummyDoIt · 03/05/2011 19:30

How do you think people with babies and fortnightly bin collections manage? The nappies have to sit in their bins for up to two weeks. As long as they are adequately bagged, there is no health risk and no smell.

If you have to put things in a black bag in your wheelie bin, ask your visitors to put the nappy in the black bag you are currently using (or whichever bin gets emptied into a black bag).

kerala · 03/05/2011 19:33

You dont have this issue if you use reusable nappies

PrettyCandles · 03/05/2011 19:34

As your guests may well also have fortnightly bin collections it is ieviyable that poo-filled disposable nappies may have to sit for two weeks in an outside bin. So there is no reason why it shouldn't be your bin.

Personally, I would not expect to have to take 'my' poo home with me, but whenever I changed my dc's nappies at a house where I did not know the protocol, I would ask "where should I put the nappy?", not just dump it in a wastepaper basket.

I think the best thing for you to do would be to ask your guest - before they change to baby - to bag up the nappy and give it to you for disposal. Then you double-bag it if you're worried and put it inthe outside bin. If the guest doesn't have nappy-sacks then give them a dog-poo bag.

TidyDancer · 03/05/2011 19:35

YANBU. Although it's better than my friend who likes to leave her DD's offerings on my living room carpet. She always rolls up the nappies though, and on special occasions, uses a nappy bag. She's a keeper.

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ViviPru · 03/05/2011 19:35

Well it's certainly interesting to see such polarised responses

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Supermoo · 03/05/2011 19:36

It is odd that they don't ask you where to dispose of the nappies. If asked, would you tell them to take it home?!

lynehamrose · 03/05/2011 19:39

I totally get you op- I always took my boys' nappies home, it would not occur to me' to leave them in other peoples houses

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ViviPru · 03/05/2011 19:41

Supermoo - to answer your question, I genuinely don't know! That's why I started the thread...

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IgnoringTheChildren · 03/05/2011 19:50

YANBU - I always ask where I can put the dirty nappy (tightly sealed in a nappy sack!) and have on occasion taken them away with me when friends wheelie bins have been full. I also expect friends visiting me to ask and not leave nappies in random places wastepaper baskets and they mostly do.

RoseC · 03/05/2011 20:10

Our friends have children and we don't. They offered (first time) to take them to the main bin for our block of flats but we said as long as we knew they were in the bathroom bin (which has a lid) then we'd do it. Why don't you suggest something similar?

BsshBossh · 03/05/2011 20:22

Wow, YANBU. I always double-wrapped my DD's nappies and put them in the outside bin immediately when visiting people (even those who had their own babies). But some to think of it, none of my friends or NCT people did this in my home either and if they did I would hate it (I can only tolerate the smell of my own DD's poo ). I think you need to be clear with your friends that it's a no no for you.

greencaveman · 03/05/2011 20:26

I always took my kids' nappies home with me, unless visiting family when I could directly ask them where they wanted it put.

Actually, even though I have kids (who are both out of nappies), I would like people visiting with nappy wearing kids to ask me where to put them. I would want them in the bin that is lined and lidded.

BsshBossh · 03/05/2011 20:27

I don't blame you regarding the outside bin issue. Our bin is emptied every week but still smells because of DD's nappies. Nothing any parent can do about that, I'm afraid. Perhaps you should ask friends to triple wrap before dumping and provide them with plastic shopping bags for this purpose.

blindmelon · 03/05/2011 20:38

We put nappies in a nappy bag in the kitchen bin. Doesn't stink out the bin, but then I guess with a family of 4 it gets changed quite often.

I would never ask someone to take a nappy home with them but I also wouldn't like it put in the wastepaper bin either!

blindmelon · 03/05/2011 20:38

We put nappies in a nappy bag in the kitchen bin. Doesn't stink out the bin, but then I guess with a family of 4 it gets changed quite often.

I would never ask someone to take a nappy home with them but I also wouldn't like it put in the wastepaper bin either!

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