I would value opinions on this, TBH it should probably be somewhere else but I need quite a few in a short time.....
My MIL has always been fairly open in her contempt of me TBH I find her equally unpleasant and I'm sure she knows it. However I have always tried not to let it affect the children, she seems incapable of doing this I have had a thread on here about her poor behaviour towards the children which is longstanding but things have suddenly and recently got a lot worse.
we had to spend 3 days with my in laws and SIL BIL and neices and nephews (camping), events during that time included my MIL buying all SILs children new outfits and telling everyone with ears all about it (and how wonderful SIL children are), handing out chocolate to SIL children in front of mine and reducing 2 of my children to tears thinking they had nowhere to sleep.
I overheard her telling dc1 to 'stop doing that, get out and don't come back' (I suspect he may have been climbing a bunk bed!)
on the last day dc1 had been given a biscuit, she proceeded to snatch it off him and give it to SIL child dc1 got very upset and the biscuit was returned to it's rightful owner she went into the kitchen to complain to FIL I turned to my husband who had seen the whole thing to say you have to do something she just snatched a biscuit off dc1. I am not sure what he did (I can't remember) but the result was SIL, MIL and FIL in the kitchen with dc1 and SIL saying repeatedly and forcefully to dc1 that's not what happened, Granny didn't snatch it you have to say she didn't snatch it over and over. I told my husband to get dc1 out of the kitchen but he went in and joined the discussion so I walked in grabbed dc1 by the wrist and pulled him out of the room.
MIL followed me outside and was loudly and publically verbally abusive to me in front of all the children.
we left (were due to leave anyway)
dc is 7
I know a lot of the problem is my husband who has totally failed to deal with her behaviour towards his family but what do I do from here on?
what would you do?
Assume your/my husband is prepared to do little (as an example after this he stayed with his MIL/FIL/sister he says he was defending me but he didn't come over to me until packing the stuff to leave)