I keep on top of mine mostly and it gets a weekly" bottoming" but floors are vacuumed and mopped everyday because of the dogs.
I work , DH works and we have no kids that live at home however come 5pm they forget and not a day goes by without them "forgetting" they dont live here any more and help themselves to whatever is in the cupboards fridge etc . Sometimes they wash up after themselves , sometimes they just throw it in the dishwasher.Usually they have the grandkids with them too .OH the joy!!
My DH is a prolific hoarder and it has taken me the 9 years I have known him to drag him into the 21st century and to turn the house into a more minimalist look. His hoardy stuff is banished to the attic ,shed and his photography room now.
When I met him the kitchen extension looked more like an extension to his beloved shed.
When I met him in 2002 I cleared his wardrobe of old clothes and he got very upset when he saw me put a particular item in a bin liner for the charity shop, I looked at him with a 
and said " S. its a fucking shell suit, a purple and silver shiney shell suit ffs!!) last worn probably in the early 80s !!! He was mortified !
I find when I am angry my house is cleaner as I go about the cleaning like a martyr on phets when I am angry.
I actually found it easier to keep my home clean when my children were little, probably because I had to be more organised and I taught them to take plates to sink and stack, put left overs in bin, tidy toys away before bedtime,. By the time they were 12 they could all cook a sunday lunch , bake and could iron , use a vacuum and clean windows properly so I guess as OP says , its about cooperation.
I must add these are skills they appear to have lost sometimes when they invite themselves here 
There are lots of memory marks in my home...... no need to clean or fix them , they just bring a smile with the memory they evoke .