Nasty nasty

[dadsgetshitaswell]

As above I could go through what happened to me but its in the past but the man bashing that goes on here is disgusting (especially people that tell other people to take all the money out of joint accounts etc) some of the comments I have seen on here are just so vicious please confine yourself to what this was designed for

Mumsnet is an equal stereotyping forum. Just check out the benefits threads. We all like a good slaaaaaaag orf. Personally, I have a wonderful husband so have no need to run away in the night for fear that he'll murder me. Some women are not so lucky.

Now come on ladies, there's really no need to be so shrill.

I for one am relieved that a man has come along to take charge.

Let's not get hysterical and please, remember what we're all here for, hmm?

Better trot off now and remove my pinny before the Man of the House arises.

Are Dads For Justice allowed on here?

I am a great fan of antimacassars, although in my college days I was pro-macassar. Thankfully since my wedding I have seen the error of my ways and the back of the Chaise is stained no longer.

Ok. First of all, you have no power or authority here and don't get to give us orders on how we conduct ourselves and what we may discuss and how we may use this site.

You are irrelevent and your orders carry no weight here. So stop that. We will not obey you.

If you want to discuss issues, the issue of separating parents and fairness. great. that's a fantastic discussion to have.

But don't you dare pitch up here and try to order us around.

How disappointing. I hoped a thread called Nasty Nasty was about ... you know ... nasty

If you dont like it you could always leave - no one is making you stay

or

Eff the eff off.

Tondelayo, I too thought we were talking the horizontal mumba. Disappointing.

Dad you should be grateful - its the venting here that allows the DP/Dh's to get a light ear bashing.

Seriously though people on threads are usually ones who have experienced similar and can give good advice.

My ex-p has been called allsorts from irresponsible to a cunt by MNers . Usally after I ask a simple aibu? He doesn't pay or see DS 'as its too difficult/ when would he go out?' etc. Go on dad defend him.

Maybe netmums would be more to your taste.

oh, and perhaps when feckless men stop walking away from their families never to be seen again, and when couples do split the feckless men don't do everything in their power to never pay for their children again, or think 50% of raising a child is £5 a week and begrudge even that, then perhaps women who have suffered because of those men wouldn't feel so much anger, eh?

I assume that you see your children loads and that you pay 50% of raising each of your children. That's 50% of everything they need - roof over their head, food, clothes, trips, holidays, etc. Good. At least you don't think that £5 or £10 or £20 a week is a reasonable contribution to your children.

But until feckless men realise that splitting from their partner does not mean walking away from the children, does not mean that the children can live on fresh air, and realise that their financial obligations are hundreds each month, not tens, then things will not change. Women are angry because these men have behaved disgustingly. You think that a woman would be angry in the event of a nice, amicable split where the man didn't abandon his children, quit his job so he didn't have to pay for them? refuse to see them? let them down? chuck the odd tenner at her and think that made him a star? Really?

[disclaimed - not all men. many men are great and don't walk away from their children. I am talking about the feckless variety]

Oh. and I am married. for 13 years. to the father of my children. before you make assumptions.

ah, yes, of course. silly me.

hec excellent cross posts with me - and you put it so much more eloquently.

I remember the day I told my Ex-p he had been promoted to a cunt - by MNers.

what Hec said

There are a lot of threads by women complaining their DH/P's don't pull their weight around the house. If those DH/P's weren't such selfish, lazy twats and did do their fair share of housework/childcare then these threads wouldn't exist so really it's the men's fault that these threads exist.

Then there are the selfish ones that Hecate has already wrote about so eloquently.

So OP when you see these threads think about what the men have done for their DW/P's to be complaining about them.

Frankly I'm amazed that there is someone who agrees with this semi literate loser.

He's probably some disgruntled thicko of an XP.

Trot on, OP...

dadsgetshitaswell its banter. Its not designed to men.

IMHO theres nothing worse than someone who remains bitter and twisted years after an event. I've had female friends who've had to pay small fortunes to cheating husbands on divorce. It works both ways.

Far better to behave as well as you can in the circumstances, hold your head up high, and rise above it. Nobody likes whingers. In the end, even people who sympathise with them get fed up with it.

I always leave a shit in the toilet so DH knows who's boss :o

didnt you know that vicbec is far more important than Kate-well she thinks so.

op is probably a bit scared at reading mn and seeing that men dont all get away with twatishness especially when the women have mn to support them.

I think this is the link for you.