Now MIL's at it....

[OohIsThatAFlake]

My PILs are lovely people (if a little overbearing at times) and are very much in the 'leave the babies asleep upstairs while we get roaring drunk party downstairs' style of parenting.
Last month FIL made an inappropriate comment about getting to play with my baby daughter 'not sexually, of course!' then called her a tart and a prossie (!) when we were all out for a meal with my parents too.
I've just picked her up from MIL who started going on about her sexy legs in sexy hold-ups. Baby's woolly tights were falling down.

I find all this a bit creepy and do not like it!

So, go on then, am I?

Nope, they both sound weird and sexually obsessed. I wouldnt be leaving her alone with them.

Now I will get flamed for over reacting!

How in god's name did a conversation arise where a baby girl could be called a "tart and a prossie" by her Grandfather?

If it was me, I would just say "ewww, what a horrible thing to say about a baby!" and hope they realise how utterly bizarre their comments are.

What the fuck?

She was a tart and a prossie because she was sitting in her highchair at the table next to me wearing a fake-fur gilet (Gap present from BIL) and a string of my pearls.

Obviously.

Something along the lines of "Calling a baby and tart and a prossie is really inappropriate but I'm sure you didn't mean to offend did you?" may work. Obviously you'll have to adapt the wording to suit the comment.

I did just say to MIL before I left quickly that 'sexy' is not a word that I like or think appropriate when used in relation to a baby.

She said oh well whatever..

That is very strange (and even that is an understatement)

Yes, that's awful, yuk, how horrid!

And I was smarting earlier this week when I sent my PIL a lovely photo of my DS looking right into the camera with a wide eyed cute smile and FILs comment was "Look mummy, I can make my eyes go funny".

I drafted and deleted about 10 emails in response and then chickened out and didn't say anything!

But if he had said "Your baby looks like a whore", I would have responded.....

Yikes.

I remember your earlier thread.

YANBU.

I would be running in the other direction so fast.

What does your DH say?

Is there ANY way it could be innocent? Or just naive/stupid?

I am really sorry. They are quite disturbing.

Very odd. We've had to have the 'not sexy please' chat with MIL and SIL (again). But never comments about a tart or a prossie, that's really, really off.

What the actual fuck?

How does that happen? "ooh I love you little baby you prossie"?

Have re-read your OP, and you say you find it creepy.

Go with your instincts on this one. It IS ceepy.

Okay, so what next? Clearly you have to limit their unsupervised time with your baby.

which brings me back to 'what does your DH say?'

Seems to be a lot of barmy PILs on MN atm

Yes I remember your thread from before OP, and now the MIL has started!
Its very disturbing and it has got to stop. Yuk!

That is creepy. Horrible.

I've seen this before on here, MNers FIL referring to her DD has a tart because she was enjoying nappy off time. It is bizarre though. Having said that a woman from a baby group used to refer to my DS as a 'sexy little dude'. I honestly don't get it. I don't think it's even vaguely appropriate to use the term 'sexy' in reference to a child!

I sometimes say my DS will be 'a heartbreaker'. (he has gorgeous blue eyes) and I know some poeple on MN find saying things like that distrubing, but that is said in a proud, PFB way.

What the Op describes is a bit frightening tbh.

I can see "Nora Batty" if the tights were falling down or wrinkled - but tart and prossie - not nice. Depends on tone of voice how sexy was used -imho

They sound very wierd...dont think I have ever heard anyone make comments like that about a baby!!! Strange

Fucking disgusting and inappropriate IMO

thats is just not appropriate at all, go with your gut instinct.

That is total boak that the word sexy would be used for a baby.

Thanks everyone. At least I know it's not just me!

The tart and prossie comment started off as ooh look at babyflake in her fur coat and pearls...

to which FIL responded 'she's a tart! A prossie!' etc

Both DH and I do say something to them (admittedly, I am more vociferous than DH) but it tends to get glossed over like this mornings 'oh, well, whatever...' or DH is told by MIL not to be so sensitive.

DH is a very lovely very non-confrontational man so most often he'll try to excuse it by saying his parents are just getting old.

They're in their late sixties/early seventies. Very bright, active and sociable.

My dad is 67 with Alzheimers and doesn't come out with this rubbish.

Looking for a good excuse to get out of going round on Monday actually so I think this just might do it!