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To Hope My Neighbours Boss Has Given Him the Holiday Tomorrow

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xstitch · 28/04/2011 09:27

I know I am being selfish but not sure if I am being unreasonable.

Neighbour gets a lift to work at 5am. Every morning when his lift turns up the driver gets his attention by going toot toot toot toot toooooooooooooooooot. When he doesn't come out right away he does it again. Some mornings even 3 times. When my neighbour does leave he slams the close door really loudly. I mean really loud because he is not my immediate neighbour but the next block down.

I am working tomorrow but back shift so would like some sleep first. I know dd will probably wake me early but she can usually manage until 7,7:30 if not disturbed which is a more humane time to get up than 5am.

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AnnieLobeseder · 28/04/2011 09:28

Who the hell sounds their car horn at 5am?!?!?! WTF!

Have you complained? I certainly would.

YANBU, btw....

ChaoticAngelofchocolateeggs · 28/04/2011 09:30

YANBU Selfish the pair of them. Isn't there some law against sounding the horn at that time in the morning?

I have to admit, I'm not a morning person and 5am doesn't exist unless I haven't been to bed the night before.

pjmama · 28/04/2011 09:30

Bloody hell! Honking horns at 5am is bang out of order, can't he watch out of the window for his lift like a normal person? In your position I'd be having a word, that's not on. YADNBU, inconsiderate sods.

Hammy02 · 28/04/2011 09:30

You aren't being selfish at all. No-one should be tooting their horn to get the attention of someone indoors at any time of the day. That is against the highway code. At 5am I would be absolutely livid with the driver. What an utterly disrespectful twat.

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xstitch · 28/04/2011 09:30

I'm wary of complaining in case they deliberately make more noise out of spite.

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RoyalFucker · 28/04/2011 09:31

I would speak to this selfish pair

My DH liftshares and the other bloke used to do this at 6am, slam the car doors and rev his engine

I had to sort it

purplepidjin · 28/04/2011 09:32

Sounding the horn from a stationary vehicle is illegal

Sounding the horn before (i think) 6am is illegal

Hammy02 · 28/04/2011 09:32

From the highway code:
You MUST NOT use your horn:
-while stationary on the road
-when driving in a built up area between the hours of 11.30 pm and 7.00 am

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xstitch · 28/04/2011 09:32

If I was getting a lift I would be looking out for them with a back up plan of them letting my mobile ring once or twice to alert me. Oh and i wouldn't slam the close door. In fact I don't when I get back from work at 11pm some nights, I actually creep in Blush

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dickcheeseandthecrackers · 28/04/2011 09:32

Are you on speaking terms with your neighbour? Surely you could just ask politely for him to stop. Poor you, that would send me over the edge.

Flisspaps · 28/04/2011 09:32

I'd be the one hanging out of my window shouting something like 'Shut the fuck up, you inconsiderate cunt, people are trying to sleep here, beeping your fucking horn every morning and waking up the whole street'...

...and actually waking up the whole street and teaching their children new words in the process [cblush]

pjmama · 28/04/2011 09:33

If they deliberately "make more noise out of spite" then I'd be contacting the council. There must be some law against this - if you can call the police for noise pollution after 11pm, then there must be an early morning limit too. Get advice.

worraliberty · 28/04/2011 09:33

You really need to have a polite word with him. Why would he do it out of spite? Is there some sort of back history between the two of you?

My DH gets picked up for work at 5.30am and the guy would never dream of sounding his horn. DH just makes sure he's ready for 5.20am and keeps looking out of the window. If his lift arrives early, the driver rings his mobile.

Stricnine · 28/04/2011 09:34

Show him the Highway Code (assuming you're in the UK):-

112
The horn. Use only while your vehicle is moving and you need to warn other road users of your presence. Never sound your horn aggressively. You MUST NOT use your horn

?while stationary on the road
?when driving in a built-up area between the hours of 11.30 pm and 7.00 am
except when another road user poses a danger.

Good luck!

AnnieLobeseder · 28/04/2011 09:34

I'm amazed the entire neighbourhood hasn't been out there with flaming torches and pitchforks! How long has this been going on?

Would it be worth calling the police to ask if anything can be done if it's illegal? Though I suppose the first step is to ask them to be more considerate.

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xstitch · 28/04/2011 09:34

I have only lived here a month. A lot of the neighbours don't seem to like me much because the previous resident (I have since discovered thanks to the police at the door) was a trouble maker. They seem to assume I am the same Angry

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Hammy02 · 28/04/2011 09:35

I get the feeling that some people on here use their horn in this way during the day and think that is OK but not OK at 5am?

QuelleLeJeff · 28/04/2011 09:35

Flisspaps! haha - yeah do that one xstitch.

I nearly had a blue fit when the builders started fruiting about with a neighbours drive at 8am on a Saturday morning. I didn't go out shouting but I gave them a very dirty look when I went to fetch the milk.

MinnieBar · 28/04/2011 09:36

A police officer once pulled my mum over for beeping her horn after 11pm and said 'You do know Madam that it's against the law to sound your horn in a residential area between the hours of 11pm and 7am don't you?!' Er, well, obviously not.
I think you're also not meant to beep your horn except in the case of an emergency so they are wrong, wrong, and selfish. Can you anonymously call your local community plod?

AnnieLobeseder · 28/04/2011 09:37

How odd. If I had an awful neighbour who left, I'd love the new neighbour for simply not being the old awful neighbour!!! Perhaps you should throw a street party tomorrow!

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xstitch · 28/04/2011 09:38

That would be fun Annie but got to go to work in the afternoon.

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worraliberty · 28/04/2011 09:43

Before calling the Police or doing anything like that, just have a word with him. He might be really nice for all you know...just inconsiderate.

onadifferentplanettoday · 28/04/2011 09:46

Xstitch I know how you feel nobody talked to me when I first moved in as the previous family had been trouble makers and were waging an ongoing battle with the neighbours. The man next door wanders round his garden in the middle of the night and throws stones onto my flower beds and lumps of mud onto the patio, I never said anything but really wished I had as a year later he is still doing it. Only recently discovered what the previous tenant was like as it's taken this long for people to realise I am not a trouble maker too and I now get on really well with them . Oh and they also thought I was a snob because ds1 goes to private school (full bursary) and on my first day here a friend sent me a grocery shop as a house warming gift from Waitrose!!

plusRoyalisteQuUneEmigree · 28/04/2011 10:31

My mind boggles at the idea that the previous occupant of your house was considered a "troublemaker" compared to a twat whose daily lift beeps and slams and behaves like a bastard!

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xstitch · 28/04/2011 10:32

One neighbour called me junkie scum the other week :(. Just because the previous residents were drug users. I don't even drink alcohol FFS. It really annoys me because I won't be nasty to someone unless they give me good reason and it takes a lot as I try and be nice.

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