Is 5 yrs too old to still be wearing daytime nappies?

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I know of this happening. I know bedwetting is pretty common, but I thought that 5 was quite old to still be wearing a daytime nappy?

Too much stealth. Not enough facts.

Well, my 7 year old is still in nappies day and night, but he does have SN (attends a SN school) and we are hoping to toilet train him soon. We've made a couple of attempts and he seems almost ready.

I did see an episode of Super Nanny recently (sorry!) where both parents were intelligent professionals, although Mum was now a SAHM and their 3 year old twins were still in nappies and the 5 year old twins still in nappies at night, despite the fact the children thought they were for babies and didn't want to be. Their Mum said it was just easier. All the DC still had bottles of milk at bedtime and the 3 year olds had never eaten a non pureed meal and were still having jars of baby food. I found it quite shocking and the parents clearly weren't abusive as such, but there was some serious 'babying' going on.

I have seen that too midori .

. Midori, I work in SN school (sld/pmld). We have noticed that our pupils who start toilet training at 7-9yrs have a greater sucess rate than those who are tried earlier 4-6 yrs. Perhaps because of their corrected chronological age? Best of luck with toilet training.

I agree with others - too many vague or missing details.

another one getting irritated by this AIBU by stealth

If I were to tell you all what I know, I doubt I would be believed. Frankly I am sick to my back teeth of not being believed. Sometimes it's very hard to articulate things that hurt without sounding as though I am blaming someone else. Believe me, I have lived with it. Shit happens and it's godawful to see it happening all over again but worse. I am sorry I cannot give more details. This is not the place to give details anyway. Again, thank you for your thoughts and ideas. What some might call stealth, others might consider as the beginning of listening.
Enough said.

I knew a child who went to secondary school in 'nappies'.

A combination of special needs in both the child and, to a degree, the parents meant the potty training stage had just not happened/worked.

i think i can guess - IF i am correct then talk to someone about what happened to you and this child. talk to SS and/or childline, if it happened to you under the same supervision that is even more serious

sorry if i sounded flippant but you posted on a forum seeking advice and gave little information for people to advise, your last post is starting to make sense of the issue

make it known to the authorities - ALL of it

and you will be believed

if i am right then perhaps you could post in the Relationships topic, you will get some sound advice there.

Ds2 is still in nappies at the age of 5.5. He has severe autism, severe learning difficulties, no awareness of when he is going and shows no signs when he has gone. It is certainly not easy changing a 5.5 year old in the public toilets now he's too big for the changing tables. It is certainly not easy having to clean his room when he's decided to "decorate" it with the contents of his nappy. And it's certainly not easy having to change him on average 4 - 6 times a day no matter what.

dd is in nappies at 5 but she has sn.I am going to take a punt at training her over the summer hols.She still fits into size 6 nappies.

I would say it is unusual for a nt child to be in nappies at this age but don't know the whole story.

OP, how can you say you lived through it? You are damn right people won't believe you if you cannot explain yourself properly.

Either you know something for a fact (in which case spit it out, not to us but to the authorities) or you are just projecting your own experiences onto a situation you are only speculating about.

This is a timewasting AIBU.

SO your OP has really nothing to do with what you're asking. Becuase, by itself, there are many, many reasons that a 5 year old would be wearing nappies, and in and of itself, I don't see that it is cause for anyone else to be concerned. There is obviously a great deal more to this than the nappies.

It very much depends on the child. Some children have continence issues much later into childhood than is usual.

My 5 year old boy refuses to use the toilet. He is very strong willed, bright, shows normal development in every other area but just keeps saying nothing happens when he tries. He will go through the motions of standing by or sitting on the toilet but nothing happens. We have tried witholding nappies/pull-ups but he can go all day then we feel he might be suffering physically so let him wear a pull-up. We have tried everything and have read that in the toileting area, you just have to wait until they're ready although acutually he's been in control of his bowels since aged 2 and never had an accident and wears underpants outside of him using a pull-up. Stays dry during the night also. Lazy, phobic, we just dont know but come the school hols we are hoping to crack it, again. Dont feel pressured by anyone, whatever happens they'll get there in the end.

Yes it is old. But I would suspect either SN issues, which may not be apparent or even diagnosed, or neglect.

I had to toilet train siblings of 4,5 and 6, none of whom were toilet trained because of neglect i.e. the mother just couldn't be bothered. The children had been taken into care.

I think it is fine for the OP to raise this with SS. If the children are in nappies because of neglect or being very over babied, the issues won't just be apparent in them wearing nappies, but will be there in other aspects of their life as well.

For example the children I toilet trained who were neglected were under weight, poorly clothed, dirty, had very poor speech, didn't seem to know how to play, showed disturbed behaviour including self harm such as biting and according to neighbours were left alone for long periods of time.

If on the other hand the only real issue is the nappies, SS won't be interested. They will just assume the child is a late developer or has undiagnosed health or SN issues.