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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to think my sister is stealing my limelight

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LooloosMummy · 27/04/2011 11:00

i've not posted on here before but i'm not sure if i'm BU. we'll here goes long story short.
i've been talking to DH for about 18months about having DC2, we got married, moved to a bigger house and were going to start trying in August once we had finished sorting finacially and other bits.
my sister split up with her DS1 dad about 3 months ago saying she wanted to be with someone else, they got back together 2 months ago and she has just annouced she's pregnant and they have been trying for their second child (sister still lives at home with parents).
AIBU to think she's just done it to spite me or AIBU in general. it hit a soft spot and i have lost all judgement since she told me!

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QuelleLeJeff · 27/04/2011 11:00

YABU

FabbyChic · 27/04/2011 11:01

Yabu

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 27/04/2011 11:01

YABU!!!! I cant imagine your sisters life is a bed of roses at the moment and I'm sure she didnt get pg to spite you.

Think you need to take a step back, deep breath, count to ten!

BluddyMoFo · 27/04/2011 11:02

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LaurieFairyCake · 27/04/2011 11:02

only an idiot would have a child to spite someone else

if she's that idiot good luck to her

you are not upstaged you daft ninny, you have your shit together - she lives with her parents - she is not someone to envious so don't be silly

LaurieFairyCake · 27/04/2011 11:03

envy not envious

ILoveYouToo · 27/04/2011 11:03

Er....YABU....why is everything about you?

ConnorTraceptive · 27/04/2011 11:03

Grow up!!!

DramaInPyjamas · 27/04/2011 11:04

YABU.
Jealous much?

sims2fan · 27/04/2011 11:04

Well to me it sounds like she just tried to get pregnant as a way to keep their relationship together after they broke up. Or, she got pregnant by the other guy and is telling her husband it's his. I doubt it's anything to do with you trying for a baby.

NinkyNonker · 27/04/2011 11:05

Errrr, yabu...or did I miss the memo that informed me the world now revolved around you?

TragicallyHip · 27/04/2011 11:06

Wft?? Or course you are being U!!

ChaosTrulyReigns · 27/04/2011 11:07

I would imagine coincidence.

Very few people would have a child to "spite" someone.

And you're not having another child for the "limelight" really now are you?

Please put these unnecessary thoughts aside and concentrate on making a lovely life for you and your family, who will be lucky to have the pleasure of close in age cousins.

Morloth · 27/04/2011 11:10

To quote ShirleyKnot

What the actual fuck?

Ragwort · 27/04/2011 11:15

I can't understand why on earth you would be having these 'big discussions' about when to have a baby with anyone apart from your DH - surely it is of no one else's concern when/if you have a baby?

YABU - how old are you - you sound as though you think the world revolves around you.

I wouldn't have dreamt of telling anyone when we were 'planning' to have a baby - perhaps I am just incredibly old fashioned.

TinyPeopleWhoLiveInMyComputer · 27/04/2011 11:16

YABVVU

hairylights · 27/04/2011 11:17

Grow the hell up you silly, silly woman.

GypsyMoth · 27/04/2011 11:17

lol...yabu

AnnieLobePassoverSeder · 27/04/2011 11:18

So you have babies for the limelight? The poor children....

And YABVU.

GreenToes · 27/04/2011 11:18

So you're not even pregnant yet...? This would be a pretty strange way to try and spite someone, especially because I doubt anyone would ever imagine that their sister would react so unpleasantly to such happy news!

TheReturnoftheSmartArse · 27/04/2011 11:20

Errrrrr .... it isn't always that easy to conceive at a particular time anyway. It might take you months to get pregnant and what is she supposed to do in the meantime if she wants to expand her family? You are being daft, and you know it!

Anyway, you'll be pregnant yourself soon and she might think you're stealing her thunder.

(And, like Ragwort, I think telling other people you are "planning a baby" is a little odd, to be honest. No-one's business/problem, other than yours and your DH's.)

animula · 27/04/2011 11:23

LauriefairyCakes has said anything I might say.

I think what you may be feeling is a slight anxiety, maybe? Impatience to be getting on with your life, slight worries, maybe even a frustration that you plan, and organise, and your sister just rushes in? and perhaps you're vocalising anxious thoughts as this because you know it's a bit silly - makes those worries easier to dismiss if they're turned into something else.

Who knows.

Anyway - you sound as though you know all that really.

Wishing you all the best that your plans work out.

Original poster

LooloosMummy · 27/04/2011 11:27

animula i think you are right thank you :) i really needed a telling off, knew i was BU but had to be told. think it was her rushing in a and doing it just kinda freaked me out! think i needed a wet fish round my face!

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ChaoticAngelofchocolateeggs · 27/04/2011 11:35

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LooloosMummy · 27/04/2011 11:36

thats exactly what i needed lol thanks chaotic!

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