Having family live at a distance is the pits, every single holiday, bank or otherwise, seems to be taken up within seeing to PIL needs, we both work full time and would like our lives back!
Arghhh, back from a weekend will the MIL and needed to get this little lot off my chest? you can tell me I am being unreasonable ? but good god, how can one person be so bleeding annoying?!
1 ? My baby doesn?t like her ? she is 9 months old and won?t be held by her, screams when she sees her, doesn?t like her pushing her pram? a good friend of mine said, well you know that babies are a good judge of character, like dogs ha, and given the MIL doesn?t hold back in terms of being nasty with me, it?s highly likely my baby feels this nastiness seeping through her every pore
2 ? She is loud, rude, in your face and likes everyone to hear her when we are out? example from the weekend, having a lovely lunch in a nice restaurant with extended family, poor underpaid waitress brings the wrong dish to the table, she goes BALLISTIC ?we didn?t order THAT, take it back, we don?t want it? said with a poe faced sour nastiness? when a ?we didn?t order the lamb my dear, we ordered the chicken? would have sufficed
3 ? When we arrived, having not seen baby for 3 months, did she fuss over her or her son for that matter? nah, she asked DH to look at her printer/scanner? go figure, loving mother huh?
4 ? Having driven 400 miles to see her, paid to stay in a hotel as there is no room at the inn for crap (another story), did she offer us a bite to eat like any civil person would? no? we had not eaten since lunch, she lives in a remote area, we had a 10 pm mcdonalds on the road, not exactly nutritious
5 ? Every single effing time I go to breastfeed my baby, she follows me around going ?good feed mmm?? ? she hates me breastfeeding
6 ? She doesn?t call me mum or mummy to my baby ? rather uses the term the ?dinner lady? in homage to my breastfeeding, and also a little dig I feel that my baby is only clingy to me as I provide food, nothing to do with love, affection
7 ? As soon as I get the pram out of the car she runs off with baby, baby usually crying as baby doesn?t like her, won?t let me push my own child in her pram ? I work full time, I get very little time with my child as it is, does she not think I might like to push her out occasionally, baby starts hysterically crying as she wants mummy, as soon as mummy quieten?s baby, MIL bangs her face right up to baby, scares the living daylights out of her, tears again
8 ? She dished up lunch on Monday, and gave me the tiniest portion of roast dinner known to man, and this I was to ?share? with my blw baby? my DH however had a food mountain on his plate, and I got 2 snarled looking, full of eyes roast potatoes on mine as some kind of gift of sourness!! I am no twiggy, in fact, I know I am still carrying baby weight, but I don?t need her enforcing diets on me ? it?s the same every time we stay, I always go home lightheaded and full of a headache due to lack of food intake!
9 ? When I try to get baby to sleep, I get a audience ? what baby has ever gone to sleep when it has a mooning daft face peering at it, trying to wake it up? she stands are stares at me rocking her, waiting desperately for it not to work
10 ? She?s been in the loft, and got a nasty snarled old toy out from 30 years ago? it smells of sick, she boils it in water, it still smells of sick... and she likes to put her fingers in my baby?s mouth ? this I cannot abide, mine fine, but not hers
11 ? Baby has blue eyes, none of DH family have, I have? ?let me think, where does she get those blue eyes from, I?ll remember in a bit, its coming to me, oh great great great grandpa? ? not her effing mother then?!?! She looks like everyone, but me, my baby is the image of my brother when he was a baby, looks nothing like the miniature gargoyle?s on DH?s side, to say a baby is ugly is not a nice thing, but the baby?s on DH?s side are challenging aesthetically!
Maybe it?s me, perhaps I am too sensitive, but good lord, what happens to women when they reach a certain age, when she is pushing the pram and mooning, she is thinking ?look at me, and my baby? when all anyone sees is an old crusty hag living out a fantasy, it?s my grandchild this, my grandchild that, let?s go and visit Mrs whatever in the whatever shop who doesn?t know you, but who I can moon over you in front of while your all in tears and wanting milk from the ?dinner lady? ? AGHHH, its off my chest now!
Surely I am not the only one???