AIBU To be annoyed of at people who take kids with chickenpox into nursery?!

[dingdongmrs]

Took my eldest to nursery this morning and one of the mums had her boy in a pushchair and pushed him into the nursery, only for a few minutes while she spoke to the teachers, i wondered why he wasnt staying at nursery today until she bought him back out and he was smothered in chickenpox, not scabbed over, but still oozing and weeping and looking very sore.

Im guessing she went in to tell them he wouldnt be in nursery today but could she not have phoned?! and i know they were contagious because i was walking behind her on the way home and a friend of hers went upto her and she said asked if he was contagious and she said yes! so why take him in a nursery building where other kids are??!

If my two girls get chickenpox now i know who is to blame, i know kids will get chickenpox at some point and my eldest if nearly 4yrs old so she would be ok with it, ie would let me treat her and cover her in lotion but my youngest is only 18 months and i really didnt want her to get it yet!

Sorry for ranting, im just annoyed.

But, Cote you were not aware that your child had CP any more than I was a couple of days before my DD came out in spots. I don't think that's really the issue it's the people who do it knowingly that I object to.
My DD could have infected loads of people before the spots came out, but I didn't know she had chickenpox at that point or would have kept her in.

And I do disagree with people not being idiots, because I'm afraid some are. We had someone at school recently who brought her son to school whilst dropping off her other two children even though her DH works from home. When another mother offered to take her DD's to school for her until he was better she refused, saying that she could have left him with her DH but that he was bored at home so wanted him to get out and about. THAT, to me, is the issue.

Megatron Tue 26-Apr-11 14:13:05
I really object to someone else deciding that it's OK for my child to get CP a that particular time. As with any infectious disease, NO ONE should take a child to where they can knowingly infect others, it's just selfish and irresponsible.

This is, for me, the heart of the matter. It is not OK, not OK at all, for someone to effectively perform a risk assessment for others and decide that it is fine for those other people to be exposed to an infectious disease.

There are a million and one reasons why someone might not want to be exposed to CP, some trivial, perhaps, some much more serious.

It's the same old story as so many other aspects of our lives these days - no-one ever seems to think "this is my problem to deal with". There is a massive tendency for people to think "well, why should I suffer?" instead.

As far as I am concerned, the bottom line is that if I want to do something that has the potential to negatively affect those around me, then it is for me to sort myself out or take steps to ensure that others are not affected. it is not for other random members of the public to take evasive action because I want to parade around doing exactly what I like.

Wrt taking kids to school if sibling has chicken pox - at our school they suggest a drop off 15mins late/pick up a little early.

Alternatively, if child with pox can fit in pushchair, then that with a rain cover is quite effective since pox is airborne.

YANBU- My two dc have recently had chicken pox one after the other-I was literally stuck inside for a month.

Obviously I couldn't keep them from crèche until I realised they had chicken pox but as soon as I saw the first spot they did not attend. I didn't take the children to the shops or park or anything else apart from a visit to the granny's when they were feeling up to it. This was because chicken pox is dangerous for pregnant women or very young babies.

I think it is really irresponsible to bring your child to nursery school if you know they have the infection, they are still infectious until the last spot dries up.