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To keep the children off school tomorrow

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 21:08

We got back home at 4am this morning from holiday. We landed at just turned 2am but there was a delay as the coach to the airport parking was full and we had to wait.

The holiday was booked before the royal wedding was announced. Tomorrow was originally an inset day but when the friday bank holiday was annouced the inset was cancelled and re-arranged to may so originally we thought they would have 2 days to recover.

Ds slept for a couple of hours on hte plane, dd only napped for about 30 mins. Ds was up at 8.30am although dd slept in til 10am.

They both went to bed at 7pm tonight but now at turned 9pm neither are asleep, ds has just been crying, dd is struggling to get to sleep.

They are 7 and 9.

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WMDinthekitchen · 25/04/2011 23:15

I'd send them to school. Learning to carry on even though you are tired is a good lesson! Am sure they will be fine - children have such energy and resilience. Hope you had a good holiday!

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 23:15

45 mins ballet 45 mins modern and 45 mins tap bonkers.

Then most of the children also stay for 45 mins musical theatre but 6.30pm is the latest I will let dd do on a school night excpet for a one off. Dd does muscial threatre on saturdays elsewhere

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startail · 25/04/2011 23:16

No one woke up the morning we got back from the states with similar aged DC's, rang the head to say sorry and he was perfectly fine. Said he'd much rather not have children falling a sleep in lessons [buwink]

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 23:19

It was a brilliant holiday thanks WMD. We don't usually go abroad but my parents took us and paid. The kids had an absolute ball but it was exhausting. dd liked to watch the shows (they did a saturday night fever rip off one night) so they were allowed to stay up late then they were supposed to have an early night but huge fireworks went off on good friday at 11.00pm waking them up. She was too tired to watch the dancing one night, she felt sick and dizzy during dinner so we made her go to bed at 9pm.

I had expected them to sleep during the flight but there was so much toing and froing and meals served etc etc. They got over excited. You have to realise I have only ever flown 5 times so I am not used to how it all works. If I had known how tiring it would be I would have written to the school before they broke up.

It was a holiday of a lifetime for them.

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 23:33

You know what though. I started off this thread genuily not knowing what to do for the best and keeping a mental tally of the opinions but as the thread went on and the tone of some of the postings made me feel on the defensive . Whether that is just how it comes across typed without vocal inflexions I donlt know but certainly it has put my back upo a little when I really wanted reasoned opinions.

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worraliberty · 25/04/2011 23:38

You asked a question and you've got your answer. Most people think YABU to keep them off.

They're your kids and it's up to you what you do. To be honest, I don't know why you wanted the opinions of complete strangers but since you asked...you got.

trixymalixy · 25/04/2011 23:42

You had obviously made your mind up before you asked. Dont get all upset because you didnt get the justification or whatever you needed Do what you feel is best.

seeker · 25/04/2011 23:47

What sor of ill do you get from being tired? The same sort of ill you get from going out with wet hair or sitting on cold surfaces? Or eating fresh bread or swallowing chewing gum?

Send them to school. They will be fine. And even if they are not, it won;t be a disaster.

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 23:48

No I hadn't trixy. In fact I still havn't decided.

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EttiKetti · 26/04/2011 04:48

Send them, mine are sim age and sometimes don't get to sleep early but still go....early night for DS at least tomorrow :)

Pancakeflipper · 26/04/2011 12:55

Soooooooooo - did they go? Or did they stay in bed?

Polgara2 · 26/04/2011 13:06

I'd send them in but then I sent mine in the same day that we got home at 3am Shock so I may not be the best person to ask!

NinkyNonker · 26/04/2011 13:07

I'd keep them home.

2rebecca · 26/04/2011 13:23

I'd send them, they had a whole day to recover. There's no sensible reason why they didn't go to bed and sleep at usual time last night. Kids often have a late night before school because they don't sleep for 1 reason or other. definitely no dancing if no school though.
My kids were at school yesterday and today.
This seems a fuss over nothing.

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elphabadefiesgravity · 26/04/2011 20:34

Well at 7.20am this morning they were both dead to the world. Ilet them sleep in a bit, ds woke at 7.35am and dd at 7.50am.

So we ended up just being half an hour late for school. Giveing them that extra half hour meant they were refreshed rather than tired and grumpy.

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SE13Mummy · 26/04/2011 21:10

That sounds like a very sensible and reasonable thing to have done. I hope they survived the day and that your DD made it to dancing.

seeker · 26/04/2011 22:45

Nobody has yet told me what sort of ill you get if you go to school a bit tired.....

animula · 26/04/2011 22:49

Personally, I'd keep them off. Rather wish I'd kept mine off today, just so that we could have had a day pottering at home. Holidays are exhausting, aren't they? not that we went anywhere other than gps.

animula · 26/04/2011 22:49

Oops. Should have read thread.

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elphabadefiesgravity · 27/04/2011 00:21

well me personally seeker i get a blinding headache. Dd tends to go pale and dizzy (it happened whilst we were away afer a late night.) Ds gets grumpy and every little thing upsets him, his eyes go red and bleary and he also gets headaches.

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elphabadefiesgravity · 27/04/2011 00:22

and at work today my mum (who came away with us) was very tired and nauseous due to lack of sleep.

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rockinhippy · 27/04/2011 12:03

I've had the same happen before with my own DD due to flight delays,

I e-mailed the school when we got in saying I would see how DD was in the morning, but expected she wouldn't wake up as early as needed & with jet lag on top didn't want to get her up if she was going to be too exhausted for School, but would try & bring her in in the afternoon.

DD wasn't okay in the morning - I too needed the lie in so didn't get up & ring until later, & did take her in for the afternoon session - DDs head was more than understanding of it, though saying "off the record as I'm not allowed to say its okay" she would have done the same thing with her own kids -

so go with how you feel - one morning, or day extra off School won't kill them either if the genuinely need it :)

rockinhippy · 27/04/2011 12:04

oops, I should have read too Blush that sounds a good compromise too :)

SurreyDad · 27/04/2011 12:34

Perhaps when they re-arranged the inset day, you could have advised the school of your predicament and got the day off authorised.

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elphabadefiesgravity · 27/04/2011 14:14

With hindsight yes surreydad but naively I thought that

a. we would be home earlier than 4am and
b. they would sleep on the plane

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