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To keep the children off school tomorrow

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 21:08

We got back home at 4am this morning from holiday. We landed at just turned 2am but there was a delay as the coach to the airport parking was full and we had to wait.

The holiday was booked before the royal wedding was announced. Tomorrow was originally an inset day but when the friday bank holiday was annouced the inset was cancelled and re-arranged to may so originally we thought they would have 2 days to recover.

Ds slept for a couple of hours on hte plane, dd only napped for about 30 mins. Ds was up at 8.30am although dd slept in til 10am.

They both went to bed at 7pm tonight but now at turned 9pm neither are asleep, ds has just been crying, dd is struggling to get to sleep.

They are 7 and 9.

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A1980 · 25/04/2011 22:39

they'll be fine elpha
They're 7 and 9. If they were reception age I'd worry.

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GloriaSmut · 25/04/2011 22:40

You are now dwelling in the world of Wild Hypothesis.

usualsuspect · 25/04/2011 22:40

If they seem really knackered in the morning keep them off ...I would

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 22:42

and i've got mum, mil and dh telling me that if i send them in tomorrow ds will be exhausted and I am not being fair sending them in and they will flag during the day and end up being ill

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GloriaSmut · 25/04/2011 22:43

I still don't see why you are making such a mountain out of this, elpha. They are, presumably, fit and healthy children who have just had at least two weeks off school so they aren't exactly suffering from chronic fatigue. Why do they need more time off?

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 22:43

i'm not blaming the school, plenty of other schools kept thier inset day. I'd rarther they went in on friday to behonest, lots of other independent schools are according to various threads on tes

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 22:46

in term time they go to bed at 7.30pm. The last 3-4 days of a holiday are spent getting them back into routine as they don't cope very well eith late nights unlike many of their friends whose normal bedtime seesm to be 9.00pm on normal days.

Whilst away they stayed up one night til 11pm to watch the hotel entertqainment so the following night they went to bed at 8.30pm or they wouldn't have coped.

They are kids who like their sleep lol

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pixipie151 · 25/04/2011 22:47

Keep 'em home, what's the harm for one day?!

Pancakeflipper · 25/04/2011 22:48

Shall we phone Bucks Palace now? The wedding should be cancelled and the Inset day reinstated for tomorrow at the school, then the OP can stop asking each member of her family if the kids should go to school and her DD can go dancing. Sorted.

lilackaty · 25/04/2011 22:49

If they are that worried, then maybe one of them should stay at some with them. I would (if possible) let them sleep in tomorrow and then take them to school when they wake up. I took my kids (7&10) to a football match and we got back at midnight - they were in school by 10 the next day and were completely fine.

AnnieBesant · 25/04/2011 22:49

How strongly does your DH feel about not sending them in? I'm wondering why you are the final arbiter.

I would send them, BTW.

TheOriginalNutcracker · 25/04/2011 22:52

This happened to us once. Booked a sunday-sunday holiday, flying home late sunday night. The Monday was originally an inset day but then got changed. I still gave my dc the monday off and was glad i did as they slept til nearly lunchtime.

A1980 · 25/04/2011 22:52

"in term time they go to bed at 7.30pm. they don't cope very well eith late nights unlike many of their friends whose normal bedtime seesm to be 9.00pm on normal days."

That's very early for 7 and 9. That's almost 12 hours sleep. 9pm for 9 year olds at least doesn't seem too bad as assuming they need to be up at 7am that's still 10 hours sleep.

But all DC's are different and yours like to sleep. Just see how they are in the morning.

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 22:53

I am the final arbiter because he is leaving at 5.30am tomorrow and returning Thursday evening.

Mil has already offered to come and sit with them.

We went on holiday with my parents and slept there last night (well this morning!) I did not ask their advice she just kept saying I'd let them have a day off if I was you ds is knackered.

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SoftKittyWarmKitty · 25/04/2011 22:55

Oh god, the melodrama Hmm. They will not become exhausted or get ill from going to school for 6 hours when they are a bit tired, ffs. It doesn't matter what other schools do - irrelevant. It doesn't matter whether other parents keep their children off school tomorrow - irrelevant.

Just get them up as normal, get them to school as normal and if DD is ok for dancing then she goes. If she is too tired, no dancing.

How hard is it to understand, really?

TheSkiingGardener · 25/04/2011 22:56

So the problem is your family really.

I would send them in, with a note stating the situation and that you are to be contacted if the school feel they should go home. See how DD is when it comes to the time for her dance class. Tell your family to butt out, parenting isn't about being soft and wrapping your kids in cotton wool the whole time.

AnnieBesant · 25/04/2011 22:56

If you're worried about it, and your childcare is sorted, then keep them off. Or 'til lunchtime maybe? I took DS in after lunch one day because we'd been in hospital with DH until the early hours. School was fine about it, and put it down as medical IIRC.

worraliberty · 25/04/2011 22:59

You really sound as though you're making excuses now and that you'd already made up your mind not to send them when you started this thread.

Did you just want everyone on here to say keep them home? Confused

trixymalixy · 25/04/2011 22:59

YABU I would send them in. They've had a whole day to recover. Don't post on AIBU unless you ate prepared to be told YABU.

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elphabadefiesgravity · 25/04/2011 23:00

They all baby ds partly becasue he is so small for his age. He is 7 but strangers assume he is about 4 or 5.

They think that I make them too independent and that I should still be washing and dressing them and stuff.

reality is they get up and make their own breakfast (allowed to use toaster and microwave but not kettle)

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SoftKittyWarmKitty · 25/04/2011 23:02

Not the same Annie - these children have been on holiday, where they've likely relaxed and had fun, then have had a full day to get over it. They have not been in A&E until a few hours before they were due at school. Hope your DH was ok, BTW.

trixymalixy · 25/04/2011 23:03

We booked our last holiday sat-sat but the flight time changed and we got in on the Sunday at 3am. We all went to work, nursery etc on Monday and were fine.

bonkers20 · 25/04/2011 23:06

That's a LONG dance class!