to have not let this man in my car?

[loolooskiptotheloo]

we were going to a BBQ yesterday, i was driving with my DD and had offered a friend a lift too, she mentioned that there was another girl from her work attending and could she jump in the car, this was no problem and i arranged a time to pick them both up.

When i got there the friend from work had brought her boyfriend with her "sorry i only have 2 seatbelts in the back so i can't fit you both in" i said, cue lots of moaning and general bad attitude of "ohh it's only down the road, go on, no one will stop you" i put my foot down and said i wouldn't take him so they stropped off and ended up not going, she then updated her fb status to " missed out on a bbq today cuz our lift let us down, stuck up cow"

would you have just let him in the car?

Probably just as well I don't have an active FB account!

YANBU

If your car is only meant for 4 people you should only take 4 people. If you were stopped by police, regardless of the distance being travelled, you could have been in a lot of trouble.

I refuse to have anyone in my car not in a seat belt full stop. In an accidend that person is unrestrained and will go forward at immense speed - possibly killing themselves and even pssible crushing to death the person in front of them.

I don't take car safety lightly.

I'd have to make a comment on her FB - you could keep it relatively nice though, what about "Sorry about that, if you'd have told me in advance you were bring an extra person with you, I'd have told you there wasn't room in my car so you could have booked a taxi."

Of course she'll look like an arse then or have to delete her FB status. And then defriend her. And never give her a lift again.

YWNBU. Her fb post is childish in the extreme, 'stuck up cow' - how old is this woman? Don't sink to her level by posting anything back.

I wouldn't let anyone in my car without a seat belt - it's not just that it's the law, it's the law for a reason - to the people who would have driven them all, don't you remember that information piece they used to show, where they said a child killed his mother because he wasn't strapped in? That has stayed with me.

I don't use Facebook (work of the devil, and all that) but I would have to put something on about hating lazy freeloaders. And defriend her, block her, whatever you have to do.

YWNBU and she is being rude and immature.

You must reply though. Just state your situation factually and calmly and save calling her names for on here.

thanks everyone, seems like i was not BU, although perhaps i could've offered to do 2 trips (glad i didn't though!) maybe i could write on fb "oh no sorry to hear yor lift let you down, sorry I couldn't fit you in either, sounds like you had a bad day" and just assume she couldn't possibly mean i was her "lift"

I agree with FakePlasticTrees - be nice at her and everyone will see what an rude immnature cow she is being.

YANBU

but

How can you see her FB status if you're not friends?

I assume you can see fb status if she doesn't have any privacy settings.

looloo I would not be dogmatic on this one. Act by instinct at the time cheer

That woman was being rude, immature and cheeky.

Cheeky for assuming you'd give some other random person you don't know a lift, rude for contesting you on your call for wanting to put safety first (although I'd have assumed legality too - I hadn't realised it was the passenger that gets penalties for not wearing seatbelts if aged 14+) and immature for voicing her (unreasonable) complaint on a social network website.

People like this aren't worth bothering with. It's bad enough that she doesn't seem to realise the gravity of what she demanded of you, but to post it online too? How silly. And in my experience, she'll likely hang around with people of a similar attitude - don't be surprised when she gets comments like "oh how mean"/etc since they don't know the real story.

Defriend her on FB, don't bother with her again. Life much more pleasent when you peel off people like her!

I refuse to have anyone in my car not in a seat belt full stop. In an accidend that person is unrestrained and will go forward at immense speed - possibly killing themselves and even pssible crushing to death the person in front of them

I forgot - I wanted to add that I 100% agree with this Hulababy. Did that woman even realise what she was asking the OP to do there? I suspect not - unless she really didn't give a fuck about the safety of anyone in the car?

I would have to reply with "I'd rather be the stuck up cow than the bitch who killed my boyfriend cuz she never had a spare seat belt for him in her 4 seater car!"

no. read frgrs post, and hullabys post. unrestrained bodies can hurtle forward and kill the person in front, whilst sometimes surviving themselves... don't you remember the pizza ad?

I think this says it all

if there was an accident the chap in the back could be thrown forward and kill you both in the front.

i'd FB her back and say say 'well the silly cow wasn't told there was an extra body and didn't have enough car seats/belts in her free taxi. She also didn't want to risk being killed by a selfcentred man sat in the rear in the event of an accident

OP what did your friend have to say about this other friend and her BF?

YWDNBU - to overfill your car is an offense, it would also almost certainly invalidate your insurance.

The 'friend from work' is a fool. The rules are there for a reason.

sorry not been back, she hasn't got privacy settings on her fb and a friend of hers was at the bbq so saw it and i had a nosy! hairybeaver, she was mortified, really embarrased and said to her friend "it's really up to looloo but i wouldn't be happy in my car either" and offered to get a taxi herself so that her friend and her bf could fit in - obviously i wouldn't hear of that!