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To be offended that someone called me granny

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springydaffs · 21/04/2011 18:27

I was out shopping with my 23yo niece and her friends today and the shop assistant asked if I was 'granny'.

I am 51 and slightly porky re the menopause

I also have white hair.

But I'm dead cool, honest

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Original poster
springydaffs · 21/04/2011 18:29

I wanted to shout DO THE MATH AIRHEAD but realised this would not be in my favour Confused

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marmaladetwatkins · 21/04/2011 18:34

Technically you could be her mum

But to anyone with ok eyesight, you clearly are NOT and you should have bosom-hoiked/tutted/huffed.

ForeverNamechanging · 21/04/2011 18:35

Im 42 when mr 15 year old is bored of trailing round the shops. He shouts 'come on nana home time now' even worse since i had mu 6 month old baby, He pretends it his and they are taking me on a trip out round tesco. The looks of pure shock and judgyness make me giggle.

ForeverNamechanging · 21/04/2011 18:35

my not mr

Original poster
springydaffs · 21/04/2011 18:36

yes, her mum but not her GRANNY (mutter mutter) Angry

that would make me about late 60s

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Salmotrutta · 21/04/2011 18:37

YANBU - you would only be a granny to a 23 year old if you had reproduced very early and so had your offspring.

I'm 50 and a Gran but only to very young GCs.

LadyThumb · 21/04/2011 18:37

My brother was born when I was 19 and he lives with me. I've been called his 'mother' for years. This happened recently when we were on holiday with our Mother and someone called her 'gran'. He said "My 'gran' is my Mother and my 'mother' is my sister" and the person was quite embarrassed.

I've got so sick of it that I've dyed my white hair brown (but I bet it doesn't make any difference and they'll still call me 'mother')!!!

sloggies · 21/04/2011 18:38

I have had this, with my dd 13. Althougth it COULD be true, I do not want people to assume. It's rude.

dolldaggabuzzbuzz · 21/04/2011 18:38

Women in their 50s are great grannies where I come from.

But that shop assistant was very rude.

marmaladetwatkins · 21/04/2011 18:38

Oooh shit, yes my error!

In light of me not reading the thread properly/having mild sunstroke, YAVDNBU Grin

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springydaffs · 21/04/2011 22:59

Thank you that I am VVVVDNBU. I did the sums on the way home up the hill, looking at my reflection in all the shop windows. Even my shadow looked old...

There VVD wasn't a small child in evidence in the shop with us, so I can only assume the silly woman really did think I was their granny. I am devastated - but a little in denial (too painful) Sad

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sloggies · 22/04/2011 07:53

Ahh Springy, have a Brew. I agree, it's not nice, having had it done! [busmile]

pissedrightoff · 22/04/2011 08:10

Don't feel too bad, My 28 year old sister was at A&E with her 18 year old friend and days old baby, The nurse said to the baby ''Now, If you, Mummy and Granny just come with me.........''

My sister was NOT impressed.

Silverlace · 22/04/2011 08:18

My DH is 8 years older than me and due to an outdoor life looks a bit craggy and in the past he has been mistaken for my dad! As we now have young children he is often referred to as grandad. As long as they don't think I am grandma I don't mind Smile

CristinaTheAstonishing · 22/04/2011 08:19

An elderly lady asked me a couple of days ago "So, what did you use to do during the War?".

etyksm · 22/04/2011 12:27

When I was a teenager my divorced dad made some jokey comment about me not calling him dad when we were out as it was cramping his style, I quite liked his girlfriend so just replied back "Ok Grandad".the girlfriend and I both burst out laughing :-)

RevoltingPeasant · 22/04/2011 12:31

Cristina did she mean the Gulf War? Confused

RevoltingPeasant · 22/04/2011 12:32

And yeah, my littlest sis is 10 years younger than me and when I was in my teens and she was 3-4-5 we used to get some judgey looks Grin

WoTmania · 22/04/2011 12:36

My mum has the opposite problem. She is a very youthful 53. when I had DS1 she was 48 but looked late 30s. Once we were out getting hayfever medication and she was asked if she was BF. Other times people have started talking to her about 'her' DS. What didn't help was the I only looked about 14 so some others assumed that she had had a 'late' baby Grin

TeddyMcardle · 22/04/2011 12:40

My sister is 10 years younger then me too, I remember pushing her in the pram as a baby and a man giving me a teen mum leaflet, some Christian thing (I was 10!) and when I told him no she was my sister, he shook his head at me and told me not to be ashamed Confused

TeddyMcardle · 22/04/2011 12:41

People also think ds is my mums when we're out. That does annoy me a little, but then he'd want to feed and I'd latch him on they soon figured out who was mum!

RevoltingPeasant · 22/04/2011 12:42

Teddy that's hilarious.

I was on a bus with DSis once and there was a furious whispered conversation behind me, including such as gems as

'I'm surprised they let her keep her, at that age'
and (I was wearing a school sweatshirt from our local high)
'Don't they have to go to a special school when they have them so young?'

Grin
InWithTheITCrowd · 22/04/2011 12:47

My Mum's sister is 45 and her eldest grandchild is 14 and pregnant! So she is going to be a great granny soon! At 46! I was a first-time mum at 36, and my cousin (who is the same age) was on to her second grandchild at the same point.
I guess granny isn't what it used to be :) haha

Butterbur · 22/04/2011 12:52

I once asked an acquaintance about his daughter, who was close by, only to be told she was his girlfriend!!Shock

Embarrassment all round, but in my defence, she was young enough to be his daughter, by about thirty years.

bran · 22/04/2011 13:01

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