AIBU?
or would this piss you off too?
hormoansAplenty · 18/04/2011 13:04
Yes, I have name-changed, as I know this is going to sound really pathetic.
But here goes nothing.....
DH has just furnished me with the list of Saturdays and B/Hs he is scheduled to work for the rest of the year. He's spent all morning on the phone to colleagues sorting it out between them, juggling them about to fit in with each ones different circumstances etc. (it's very flexible)
There are a lot in April/May on his list, but I can handle that. We can always find a use for the extra cash.
But.........
For the whole of June/July/Aug he has only 2 Saturdays.
And one of those is the nearest Saturday to my birthday.
I'm really pissed off.
I gave him proper evils, he said we could do something on the actual day of my birthday, but that means anything would be child centred, and most likely not with any friends etc as they'd all be at work.
He has offered to try to change the schedule, but was grumbling about all the effort they'd put in to get it straight..............
So, how selfish am I? or is he?
iklboo · 18/04/2011 13:11
Unless it was a 'big' birthday I wouldn't be bothered about it. Until recent changes at work, my birthday always fell 'between paydays' so we couldn't afford to go out anyway. I'd still celebrate something on the actual day (nice meal at home DH cooked, pressies, day out with DS) and then we'd go 'out, out' the weekend nearest payday to do grown up celebrating.
at 2 saturdays in a month.
FollowMe · 18/04/2011 13:16
Come on, its not even your birthday, its the Saturday nearest your birthday!
Presumably that means your birthday is midweek and there is another Saturday within a few days of it! Why not go out on the other Saturday? It still wont be your actual birthday either way!
Does your DH work nights? If not, then you could still go out the Saturday he is working but in the evening? then you'll have DH around the next morning too so you can have a lie in!
hormoansAplenty · 18/04/2011 13:19
Grumpypants he is working 8 sats/BH's in the April/May period, and is also doing boxing day, it's the fact there are only 2 in summer and one of those 2 affects me that's pissed me off most of all.
see, I want the choice of what to do. I don't ask for much, really. I have lots of time with just me and the DCs, when DH is working.
I know I'm being childish.
Maybe I AM just hormonal and need to get a grip.
I'm still sad though
Rowgtfc72 · 18/04/2011 13:27
My dh works every Sat and then by choice bank holidays and Sundays as the money is too ludicrous to turn down. He gets every other Monday off. I work part time - and on Mondays! Works till ten most nights too. Starting to forget what he looks like. We pick the nearest day that were all in the house at the same time to celebrate birthdays. His birthday was on a Saturday and with work and dds school it was Wednesday before he got to blow out his candles !
GiddyPickle · 18/04/2011 13:33
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thumbbunny · 18/04/2011 15:42
Yep, sorry, YABU. He's doing well if he's only working 2 Saturdays in 3m - I initially misread your OP and thought he was only getting 2 Saturdays OFF in 3m, which would have been shite and you woudl have been well within your rights to be pissed off - but in the case as it actually stands, you have plenty of other weekends to choose from.
PlopPlopPing · 18/04/2011 16:13
It must have been very complicated to sort out ALL those days for the whole year and keep everyone else happy too (I'm assuming they all also have birthdays, partners with birthdays, weddings to go to etc). I think he probably did his best. Unless it's a special birthday I wouldn't expect him to particularly insist on that weekend off.
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