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Original poster

To not want to leave ds?

36 replies

doblet · 17/04/2011 19:35

We have been invited over to the neighbours. DH thinks I am being precious to not want to leave 10 week old ds alone in the house while he is asleep. I am willing to use a baby monitor when he is a bit older maybe, but for now I just don't feel comfortable.

OP posts:
NinkyNonker · 17/04/2011 19:36

Alone in the house?!Shock

Yanbu!

shakey1500 · 17/04/2011 19:36

Errm no YANBU. Leave a 10week old alone in the house? Really?

Or is it just me?

nethunsreject · 17/04/2011 19:37

Good god, yanbu!

magicmelons · 17/04/2011 19:37

YANBU it is completely ridiculous to leave a ten week old on their own. put him in a pram push him their he can sleep in another room and then push him home.

magicmelons · 17/04/2011 19:37

ps your dh is going to get flamed for this you know.

dontjumpplease · 17/04/2011 19:38

NO no no! YANBU!
He is being completely irresponsible. Take the baby with you, he is only little. Angry Sad

winnybella · 17/04/2011 19:38

I am very relaxed re: leaving kids alone compared to a lot of people on here, but leaving a 10 week old is too much even for me.

Definitely, absolutely not.

MissBetsyTrotwood · 17/04/2011 19:38

Absolutely don't leave him. Is he in a moses basket? Pushchair? There must be other options.

squeakytoy · 17/04/2011 19:38

Are they next door neighbours in the adjoining house?

onepieceofcremeegg · 17/04/2011 19:39

tbh I would be reluctant to leave such a small baby alone in a room, for more than a few minutes, let alone the house.

You and your dh clearly need to have some discussions fairly soon about what is acceptable and what isn't.

FlamingJamie · 17/04/2011 19:39

Some people would, with a baby monitor. I never have

AgentZigzag · 17/04/2011 19:39

It's a pretty fundamental rule to not leave the DC in the house on their own.

Your DH would be deserving of a good flaming.

worraliberty · 17/04/2011 19:40

Is it an upstairs/downstairs flat or something?

Either way, just take the baby with you in a moses basket/pram.

lettinggo · 17/04/2011 19:41

Good god no YANBU. Slap some sense into that husband of yours. Unthinkable.

HandMini · 17/04/2011 19:41

You are not being remotely unreasonable and I would do what all the other posters suggest and walk round with the pram/pushchair/moses basket and just pop him in one of their bedrooms etc. To (try to) be fair to your DH, perhaps he just has never thought this scenario through fully if this is your first child and feasibly your first outing to the neighbours since it was born?

mumatron · 17/04/2011 19:41

Yanbu. I wouldn't be comfortable leaving dd (14) weeks upstairs while I'm in the back garden. But iam very pthirdb over her.

FlamingJamie · 17/04/2011 19:41

It would be a fire breaking out that would be the issue here, for me

Original poster
doblet · 17/04/2011 19:42

Oh my god, thank you thank you thank you. I have been made to feel like an overly precious and paranoid mum today and am really quite upset.

I am trying to implement a night time routine to help him sleep (it takes hours to get him settled at the moment) so don't want any changes until he is sleeping better. Otherwise I would take him in the pram (if he slept in it!)

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worraliberty · 17/04/2011 19:43

One night won't make any difference to the routine surely?

It's nice to get out and about. I'd take the baby and enjoy yourself Smile

blueeyedmonster · 17/04/2011 19:44

I wouldn't do it but know of people who have with older children.

You are definately NBU.

JingleMum · 17/04/2011 20:37

doblet you are entitled to be precious, he is your precious son, tbh i think something would be wrong if you weren't precious. your DH is so irresponsible it's unreal. tell him to grow up and act like a parent, it's his job to protect his child.

IMO it's never acceptable to leave a baby/young child in a house alone, we now all know the dreadful things that can happen if you do Sad

saffy85 · 17/04/2011 20:42

YANBU.

Precious? Really? Like JingleMum said you're allowed to be precious with your baby. I personally wouldn't ever leave a baby or young child alone in this scenario. Can not understand why anyone would Confused

It's your call but I don't see the harm in taking the baby with you as it wont make much difference to whether he sleeps at this age, aleast ime.

Knackeredmother · 17/04/2011 20:44

This is a wind up I think

jojowest · 17/04/2011 20:45

no way, dont do it

kaumana · 17/04/2011 20:47

My neighbours popped over for an hour recently and brought their monitor. TBH as we live so close (apartments) we would have heard crying anyway. They were probably closer to their child than those who live in a two story property.