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To not want to leave ds?

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doblet · 17/04/2011 19:35

We have been invited over to the neighbours. DH thinks I am being precious to not want to leave 10 week old ds alone in the house while he is asleep. I am willing to use a baby monitor when he is a bit older maybe, but for now I just don't feel comfortable.

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Newgolddream · 17/04/2011 21:23

Some people would, with a baby monitor

Im quite shocked at this - really? Im not precious or a perfect parent either for that matter but theres no way leaving any young child alone for whatever reason is acceptable, what if there was a fire?

MooMooFarm · 17/04/2011 21:27

Are you serious? I'm pretty sure this is a wind up, but just in case it isn't - NO! Don't do it!

There is no way you should ever leave a young child alone in a house. A monitor makes no difference - what protection is a monitor against a house fire; a burglar; a child falling over and hurting themself; choking - need I go on?

Posts like yours give me nightmares.

Newgolddream · 17/04/2011 21:28

This isnt related to a certain thread that got pulled yesterday is it?

thefirstMrsDeVere · 17/04/2011 21:31

Dont believe this.

Why would you need to leave a 10 week old? they re v.portable.

chocolatelover1234 · 17/04/2011 21:32

No your not being unreasonable at all.

Stick to yours guns and keep DS with you he may sleep all the time but you will know where he is, he'll be with you safe and you will enjoy yourself more.

fidelma · 17/04/2011 21:45

Oh my @:@

Never leave a baby alone are you mad? your (dh) hasn't quite got used to the responsability that comes with a new life.

If you feel like going with your baby do (mine always slept in the baby borjin and it was lovely to have them next to me)

If you are reading that book chill out a bit !!!

smokinaces · 17/04/2011 21:51

I will stick my neck out slightly and say it depends on a lot of factors.

Are you neighbours as in flats - i.e. rooms next door to each other
Would you be going in their back garden and not in the house - i.e. no further distance than if you were in your own back garden (depending on back access)

I often sat on the back patio when the DSs were babies, whilst they were asleep upstairs. I would have had no problem popping into the garden next door, as it would have been an extra 3 foot.

However, I wouldnt go round into the house leaving DS asleep upstairs. I have done it once here (DSs were 3 and 2) when I had problems with someone and went to my neighbours at 10pm for 10 minutes for some help. I still wouldnt go into her house now for socialising when they were asleep though. However, I have been known to sit out on the front wall chatting to her.

10week olds are fairly flexible. Take them with you.

NoseyMoo · 17/04/2011 21:59

Shock Horror!!! For FXXK sake don't leave the baby in the house alone!!
Take with you if you have to. You never know, what if something was to go wrong, you'd blame yourself for the rest of your existance.

exoticfruits · 17/04/2011 22:09

Just take him with you. Simple at that age.

Guitargirl · 17/04/2011 22:11

Tell your DH he is out of his mind.

Sidge · 17/04/2011 22:15

Er no. Babies are totally portable so just take him with you in his pram or Moses basket.

And don't tie yourself up in knots trying to impose a bedtime routine - I would kindly suggest that if it's taking hours to get him settled then he's not ready for it. He's still very tiny - just feed him when he's hungry, cuddle him when he wants it and let him sleep when he's tired.

All 3 of mine had their most active times from 5-9 until they were about 5 months!

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