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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to be livid with this grumpy old man?

39 replies

disgustedtunbridgewells · 17/04/2011 19:26

Namechanged cos I've already had a good old bitch on FB.

Myself and a friend were sitting in the garden in the sunshine this afternoon, and our kids were playing in a paddling pool and chasing each other with a wee watering can and a water pistol. They're 2 and 3 and were having great fun.

The garden faces directly onto a road, and suddenly a passing car slammed on its brakes, reversed really fast (almost hitting another car at a junction) and stopped at the fence, so thinking it must be someone needing directions I went up to it and asked if I could help.

The bloke shouted at me that the kids had got water on his car. I hadn't noticed the drips on the rear window until this point. I said "I apologise but they're only little and it was an accident." He said "You should have been taking better care of them then". So I asked him if the water had actually gone in the car (his sunroof was open) and he said "No, it's just as well it didn't ..." so I walked off and he left.

I didn't even see what happened but there was a tiny splash of water on one of the back windows of his car, which he must have heard or noticed in his mirror as he was driving past. It seems like a crazy overreaction to me and I was furious that he suggested I wasn't looking after my child adequately. If they'd been deliberately spraying water at passers by then I'd have put a stop to it immediately, of course, but there's no way it could possibly have been intentional and that must have been obvious to him given the layout of our garden in relation to the road, and the size of the children.

So, WIBU?

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StuckinTheMiddlewithYou · 17/04/2011 19:28

No. He's a nutter.

nethunsreject · 17/04/2011 19:28

He was being an arse. Probably having a bad day and taking it out on you for no good reason.

bibbitybobbityhat · 17/04/2011 19:28

I think you probably need to let this go now.

goodbyemrschips · 17/04/2011 19:28

There are some funny people about.

YANBU

AgentZigzag · 17/04/2011 19:29

Some people are just miserable old buggers.

He might have been having a right shitty day/week/year and is in the habit of taking it out on other people I suppose.

I think he was probably just in need of a hug Grin

cheekeymonkey · 17/04/2011 19:29

Bet he felt a right tit later -Blush

TheArmadillo · 17/04/2011 19:29

well you do know that water is deadly to cars don't you? One drop and they have to be written off.

What the hell does he do when it rains Confused

he's a wanker - think no more of it YANBU

cuttingpicassostoenails · 17/04/2011 19:29

What the hell does he do when it rains?

HecateQueenOfTheNight · 17/04/2011 19:30

He's bonkers. Just let it go.

Ormirian · 17/04/2011 19:31

Oh good lord! Shock

Ignore, ignore, ignore!

StayFrosty · 17/04/2011 19:32

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disgustedtunbridgewells · 17/04/2011 19:33

I knew it. The friend I was with seemed a bit anxious about it (if you're reading this C, I don't mean that in a bad way, just it seemed to rattle you a bit!) and was thinking he was going to complain about us to the police or something. My thoughts were that the police would tell him to fuck the fuck off and when he got there fuck off some more.

Thanks.

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LaurieFairyCake · 17/04/2011 19:34

Clearly he's an arse

However, unexpected (unlike rain) water or stuff landing on cars does cause people to panic and have accidents - I've nearly driven into a hedge when a kid threw an egg at my car - it made a massive noise (like when a stone comes up and cracks the windscreen). Maybe he was unnerved by it. This does NOT excuse his behaviour as I've already stated he is clearly an arse.

FlamingJamie · 17/04/2011 19:37

Maybe he got a scare thinking the children were going to run out in front of him and for some reason made it about the water. I know it's not nice to have someone criticise your parenting, but maybe that was it.

sue52 · 17/04/2011 19:39

How does he cope when it rains?

disgustedtunbridgewells · 17/04/2011 19:40

Nagoo Grin

Laurie, if a big splash had landed on his windscreen or something then I'd have total sympathy with him. But taking into account the garden border, fence, pavement and assuming he was driving in the usual bit of the road these tiny kids were at least 8 feet away, and there was only a tiny dribble on the nearside rear window which I'm surprised he even noticed TBH.

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disgustedtunbridgewells · 17/04/2011 19:41

Jamie, the kids were behind a fence which is about 4ft high and tops a wall!

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FlamingJamie · 17/04/2011 19:42

Oh, right. Very strange then ...

blondebutonlyfaking · 17/04/2011 19:48

Doesn't he have one of those squirty things on the back window of his car?

Which would splash it with water?

Oh BTW he's was an arse.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 17/04/2011 19:59

I hope he does go to the police, your children should be under control, not wrecklessly endangering lives and damaging cars.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 17/04/2011 20:00

Simply because I'd love to hear them wetting themselves laughing from here! Grin

What an absolute NOB.

I'd love to see him standing in the street shaking his fists at the sky when it rains!! :)

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 17/04/2011 20:01

He must live a very, very sad & miserable, lonely life.

FunnyBumbleBee · 17/04/2011 20:02

Some men just really really love their cars. Don't worry about it!

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 17/04/2011 20:03

I hope to hell he doesn't have kids already or in the future - can you imagine how awful their lives would be. ..... actually, you didn't get his reg did you? He may well be one of the ex twunts posted about on here!!