Manshape and i made a decision not to tell his mother about our recent miscarraige.
However, i have to spend tomorrow morning with her here as manshape and his stepdad are going to work on our car which has broken down.
I happened to ask on FB for coping stratagies - as in, how to deal with her in the morning - and one of my friends happens to think that i should tell her about the mc, saying that it's her loss too, and she should be allowed to have the chance to comfort manshape.
Now, theres not much love lost between me and her, and we have had words in the past. She has also been incredibly vocal about how manshape and i should not have any more children, going as far as ringing me to make sure i've taken my pill, and telling manshape to make sure he uses condoms when i was on antibiotics.
To this end we made a concious decision not to tell her i was pregnant, not until after our twenty week scan at least.
To my way of thinking, if manshape wants her to know, then he can tell her, but he has said he doesn't. He did however confide in his dad, and he's been nothing but supportive.
I really don't want to give her any oppertunity to say 'Maybe it's for the best'.
But AIBU?