To go to London with my baby?
neepsntatties · 15/04/2011 13:10
I have an interview just outside London in a couple of weeks. Dd will be three months and is ebf. I live in Scotland. I was going to take her with me. I know the journey will be stressful as will getting around London but feel dd needs to be with me.
Dh wants me to leave her with him and give her expressed milk. He is worried about her being dragged around London.
Will it be too awful on the train/getting round London with a baby in a pram?
SisterCarrie · 15/04/2011 13:16
YAB a wee bit U, taking a baby to an interview. Not good for your prep, if you're up all night beforehand, added to the logistics of taking a baby away.
Can't your DH go with you if he's going to take time off to look after your DD anyway? What are you going to do with your DD when you are having your interview, surely she's not going to be in the pram outside the room?!
On your LDN question, don't take a pram, take a sling. DS has been to London about 10 times since he was born (now 9mo) and has only ever been in a sling as lugging a pram about public transport is not worth the hassle.
kenobi · 15/04/2011 13:16
What are you going to do with DD while you're in the interview? Despite the fact that London's excellent transport links mean that it's really easy to get around with a buggy, I think that having a 3 month old with you might be a real distraction from the interview. Plus obviously everything will take longer.
One major suggestion if you do go: practice getting on and off escalators with a buggy. There are hundreds in the tube network and Londoners will give no quarter if you get it wrong and get in their way. Plus I broke the escalator in Holborn tube for 10 mins the first time I did it
Onetoomanycornettos · 15/04/2011 13:17
It depends who you are leaving her with when you get there. I think going for a big and important interview with a baby in tow might be a mistake, you need to focus and concentrate on the issues in hand, not be mopping baby sick of your interview outfit. Plus presumably you would have to leave your baby with someone for the actual interview, which might mean expressing milk anyway.
If it's a more casual affair (e.g. interview for college you are likely to get in anyway), then it's less of an issue. But if you don't travel normally around the Tube or major rail terminals and so on with a baby, it would be quite stressful, much more so than say walking to the park in the London suburbs as most London mums would probably be doing (when I lived there, I didn't race for the chance to travel on public transport with a three month old unless I really had to).
Tangle · 15/04/2011 13:18
I took DD to London a few times when she was little - and I'd 2nd NinkyNonker's suggestion of a sling. Made life a LOT easier (although plenty of women do cope with babies and buggies - depends how compact your pram is, really, and how adept you are at getting it on/off buses and trains.
If your DD goes to London with you, what will she do while you have your interview? Is DH coming with you? Can you do there and back in a day or will you be stopping overnight?
Have to say I'd have been very reluctant to leave DD1 (also EBF and would never take a bottle) for a whole day, and wouldn't have left her overnight at that point. By about 4 months we'd got her to take a little milk from a cup so I could go out for a couple of hours, but if I left her for much longer than that I'd need to feed her or explode .
ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 15/04/2011 13:19
London really isn't this scary hell hole that people make it out to be tell your DH! Dragging her around London, fgs, it's not like you'll be sleeping on a park bench is it?
I don't know why you think the whole thing will be stressful - it will be if you think it will be though! If you think it will be fine - it will be.
Of course you will be fine, but to make life easier for you I'd use a sling or at least take a sling and a very light weight buggy that folds up easily.
However, it wont do either DD or DH any harm to have some time together, so why don't you consider leaving her at home with DH and enjoying a little time out by yourself.
Mahraih · 15/04/2011 13:20
I drag my baby around London! Have done since he was a couple of weeks old. Then again, we do live IN London.
If you do go, suggest you don't take baby anywhere near the tube in rush hour. I've taken DS on the tube and someone has always helped with the stairs, but it's stressful. And remember the buses can only take 2 prams at once (not bendy buses, they can take 4 I think) so leave time, just in case a bus is full.
Make sure you know exactly where you're going and try to locate as many baby changing opportunities as you can before you go - nothing worst than being stuck in central London with no idea where the nearest loo is.
But TBH - your DD is 3 months old and can be fed EBM - do you really want to be schlepping her round a city when there is no need? She will be ok without you for a day, surely? It's difficult getting from 'argh the baby' mode to 'interview' mode in such a short space of time ...
Laquitar · 15/04/2011 13:24
I wouldn't worry about the baby.
But if it goes to stress you that much it might affect the interview.
Personally i don't see the big deal about stairs and buses but it doesn't matter how easy we find it. If you are stressed you will not make the most of it. You can leave the baby with your dh and treat it like a short childfree break . We can recommend things to see and do.
If you do take the baby then planning will probably ease your nerves so check the tube stations which ones have lifts etc.....
Where the baby will be when you attend the interview?
ChippingInMistressSteamMop · 15/04/2011 13:24
Lots of cross posts!
Do what you have planned, take your friend. You and your friend can share 'wearing' DD - it will be fine.
Are you staying over?
People are making this sound harder than it needs to be, a baby in a sling is no trouble in London (or anywhere else), you can change a 3 month old baby on your knee - you don't need to have a map of all the baby changing facilities. It's a city, that's all. It's not another planet.
Two women, one baby.... all you need to do is plan where you are going to have lunch and enjoy the day! :)
SisterCarrie · 15/04/2011 13:27
I guess if you are going to your interview outside London, all you will have to do is change from your first train (via the tube/buses?) to the one taking you to your end destination - so could you time it not to be at rush hour and get a wee folding buggy that's suitable for small babies?
Good luck in your interview!
kenobi · 15/04/2011 13:29
Oh well, if there's two of you, you'll be absolutely fine, buggy or no buggy.
But a previous poster suggested you don't travel in rush hour and I do second that - you won't be able to get on buses because of space and people will push past you on the tube (they're not deliberately being rude, it's just everyone want to get to work and off public transport as quickly as poss) and if you're not used to that, you will find it stressful. After 9am or before 4pm you'll have a lovely tim. Go to the British Museum or something and enjoy yourself!
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