AIBU to be incensed by this DM article - reluctant 'housedad'

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What a juvenile, petulant, pathetic, sniveling excuse for a 'man'. Am racking my brains for what his good-looking wife sees in him.

Must give up reading the DM.

Whoever 'shopped his head in that picture really needs to go on a photo manipulation course. Terrible job.

goodness.... am inclined to believe it's not real, or at least horribly exaggerated for the purposes of this article.

I believe you have a choice in life - make the best of what you have or whinge and moan and feel every bit of pain as sharply as possible. If you choose to create children or marry someone who is already a parent (nobody forces you to do this!) then yes it's a lot of work. i don't particularly enjoy wiping poo off clothes or mopping sick out of the carpet, then being screamed at when i won't read the squeaky book for the 5th time in a row. But I signed up for this. And actually I really enjoy being one of two people my son wants when he's upset, someone he wants to read to him, someone who gets to hold him close as he falls asleep and see the joy on his face when he spots a bus or a dog or a favourite CBeebies show. And being part of a team in running our family life (however you split the earning / housework / childcare) means my husband and i are on the same side and working towards the same goal even if we don't get a lot of couple time or time for our own hobbies and interests.

If you always focus on the drudgery and exhaustion you can forget to enjoy the great half of the deal, the bit that you can take so much happiness from, and really the reason you chose to have children in the first place.

Plus, he is obviously a knob. :grin:

Miss Verinder - LOL !!

Poor woman ! Poor Kids ! but yes alarm bells were ringing, when he was talking about her first born. What an utter complete tosser !

What an absolute c*ck. What he's saying I think would be fair enough if he was explaining why he had chosen not to have children. But to say all this now, when he is a father of 3 beautiful children is rather too late and utterly repellant.

He should never have married a woman who already had a child if this was how he felt and should certainly never have had kids of his own.

If he is the kind of father to write a book about how he resents his own children, then I think he is the kind of father his kids could do well without

Personally I think his mother did him some serious mental damage.

His selfishness started when his Oedipus complex was shot down by his mother saying she would save the father first if they were both drowning. He wants a mother and sex partner, that's it. You can hire people for those roles.

Erm, I used to work at DM for a while, so just a few observations - this bloke is trying to sell his book and will most probably have been severely pushed, re-written etc to make this piece as outrageous as possible. To me, it reads as though he's been massively shafted by the editors there one way or another. I bet it's not all is own words, nor anything like what he wanted to say. But he will have probably been paid quite a few grand by them to say it.
From the DM point of view, anything that gets 480 people to comment online and its own thread on MN is a roaring success. I feel very sorry for him and even worse for his wife - but at least they are adults and should have, just by flicking through the DM from time to time, have seen this coming. What's horrendous is the teasing etc in store for the kids.
I bet the book itself is nothing like this and is completely tame and probably quite sweet. He's just cannon fodder in the circulation wars, poor silly man.

The guy is clearly a twat but then so is his mother for 'without hesitating' choosing his father over him. I have had this theoretical discussion with my dh and we both agreed 'without hesitation' that we would save our son over each other. Even if she thought she would save her husband why did she ever say it that should have been answered with a "I can't answer that, I love you both" surely?

Ha ha. He is a knob BUT I fear many men feel this way. And I'm pretty sure two or three of my friends gave husbands just like him

They just don't write articles about it

HAve husbands even

YANBU to be incensed by ANY Daily Mail article. Ever. :o

It can't be real. He needs to top up his half empty glass.

Surely he is just a turnip

Pathetic little man

Hope she dumps him asap

When I first read it I thought his wife needs to kick him in the cock and divorce him immediately. However, I think AcornAntique has a point that he probably didn't start out as nearly such a self-obsessed whinyarse. I can't remember the name but not long ago a woman sued the DM for writing a piece about her which misrepresented what she had said to the point she was practically getting spat at in the street - and she won.

But why did his wife marry him in the first place??? She must hold some responsibility for marrying this idiot, inflicting him on her daughter and then going on the have more children with him.

Apart from the fact he bares a striking resemblance to Humphrey Cushion (showing my my age there. Humphrey Cushion - Miserable cushion with big jowls in Hickory House), how could she have married a man who showed so little interest in her first child??? That would have sent me running for the hills from the outset?

I di accept he may have used a bit of poetic licence to sell a book but it still shows what a selfish k*ob he is to have allowed the article to be printed in the first place for his poor children to read.

Firstly, i giggled a bit at the complaint that his wife went to bed 'early' at 10pm. God bless the woman, she has three kids, a big job and a whingey husband. I'm surprised she's not asleep by 9.30 4 nights a week. Then i got a bit freaked out by the commenter who seemed to be suggesting that reluctant housedad was likely to go postal and kill the lot of them...

yeah I think his mother was a horrible woman which is why he's so rubbish at grown up relationships. He probably craves love and approval he never had from her, and has remained in a childlike state needing constant affirmation and attention. Wazzock.

What a whiny knob. Yes it's sometimes frustrating when your kids are small, incessantly needy and you don't get to do loads of things you'd rather be doing. But it's just a phase of life. He'll get his wife back soon enough, and in the meantime he's wasting his children's tiny years by being resentful. How very sad.

complete tit he should do them all a favour and go away,his mum sounds like a tit as well probably the root of the problem

For what its worth this guy was briefly editor of Loaded magazine. Not a crime, but if he sounds like a petulant overgrown toddler then possibly its because he's a professional w.

jeckadeck

Oh that explains a lot!

i reckon this fella is a complete and utter douchebag