AIBU to be incensed by this DM article - reluctant 'housedad'

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What a juvenile, petulant, pathetic, sniveling excuse for a 'man'. Am racking my brains for what his good-looking wife sees in him.

Must give up reading the DM.

oh god i read the headline and i'm immediately angry

I read this and also made a mental note to stop reading the DM.

What is quite upsetting is the way he writes without any real affection for his children, let alone his step-daughter who is simply an inconvenience.

I can't work out if he's exaggerating and putting on an act, or genuinely is this self-centred.

I think a lot of men can relate to feeling a bit neglected and missing that primary romantic relationship when you have small children, I know my husband does, but it doesn't equate to disliking your own children and fantasising about them going away, that's the bit that disturbed me.

The adjective I was searching for was twunt!

I can't work out if he's exaggerating and putting on an act, or genuinely is this self-centred.

I think that's the issue I have with anything on the DM website - it raises some very valid points (the changing structure of households where more men choose or are forced to become SAHMPs, the need for a sense of 'self' when bringing up children, whatver)... and then their authors discuss them in such a narrow-minded, woe-is-me women-hating traditionalist manner that I refuse to read the entire content of the article I may have been interested in for a moment.

All you DM moaners

Writers are paid by the DM to exaggerate, in order to make a point, in order to outrage their readers. If the writers don't make the point forcefully enough, an editor at the DM will alter their words until they say what the DM want them to say.

It is pointless attacking anyone who writes for DM, ime they are as horrified as the readers by what appears under their byline.

If you don't like what you're reading then don't keep going back to the website. I haven't clicked on the link, because it just encourages them.

What a twuckwit ultimate selfishness

It is both parents responsibility to maintain a relationship after the kids, it normally would involved private and seperate bits but hugely sharing the beauty of parenthood and the utter joy LO's bring WTF did this man have kids then - bizzarre opening thing about mother I think this has had quite skewed affect on him.

I would save my DS, DH is old enough to fend for self DS isnt - anyway Im supermum and I would make sure my family could a) swim and b)minimise risks in life.

As for the DM....they just as bad for printing it.

mumona yes but still there story must have some basis, evens tripped back he still a selfish twunt

Lord.... raised by a deranged child hating cow to be a deranged child hating twat.

I mean seriously... who would save the grown man over the child? Even if they weren't related to you, you'd save the child! And even if you would save your husband over your child, why in the name of god would you tell the child that?

No wonder he's emotionally detached from his own kids and doesn't seem to have bonded with them at all.

DP would pick the kids over me any day and I'd bloody murder him if he didn't!

YABU to allow the DM to make you react like this.

Of course he doesn't really feel like this. It's the kind of article the DM loves to print. He's posing there with his wife and children. If he really, truly felt like that I doubt he'd write an article about it. He was made redundant four months ago - his wife works for a best selling magazine - they know people in the right places to help them to find a way to make a bit of money from some vacuous writing and a nice photo of his family (apart from him).

I am shocked by the mother saying that she would choose to save her husband, sorry as much as I love my dh it would be the kids everytime. I agree Summer I would expect him to do the same if it was the other way round. Regarding the bloke all I can say is what an absolute wanker I am glad my dcs do not have to put up with his childish, selfish behaviour he is meant to be an adult not a spoilt child

Eugh what a repugnant wanker. His poor children.

He seems to have a face the size of a small planet too.

TBH, I couldn´t get past that first picture-his face-staged much??

God, he looks a miserable git.

Also, he asked his mum when he was a teenager-why hasn´t he ever got over the answer?

He's a twat. But why on earth would you lot be incensed and enraged over a self-promoting cunt in the Daily Fail?

You could maybe not read it?

Also what a random question to ask your mother and why didn't she have the common sense to say both of you or I couldn't possibly choose or some other equally reasonable answer. I would like to blame her for all of his child issues like "I didn't choose you" erm well you chose to have the babies they were not abandoned in the cabbage patch one day

Umm words fail me. It is such self obsessed made up drivel thats its actually quite funny.

He's just plugging his blog. The article is fairly extreme, but if you look at his blog it's decently written and refreshingly honest. I normally find 'mummy bloggers' unreadably twee, but found his 'housedad' stuff quite enjoyable. I like the fact that he's being frank about how he's struggling with the situation but also obviously loves his kids.

He has the oddest moon face I have ever seen.
He sounds like an utter twat. What on earth does she see in him?

If he's logged on to Mumsnet, he'll be feeling really pleased with himself that so many, intelligent, lovely mums are spending so much of their hard-pressed time discussing the garbage he wrote. Just stop it right now!

The man and his wife are both journalists. The story has been written to sell, and is probably mostly untrue... it just makes them money. She wrote her side of it the following week.

I accept it probably must be made-up, surely no-one is that distanced from their children they view them as disposable inconveniences, but still, did he not think about how they would feel when reading about how he wishes they weren't around. It sounded very cold and very odd, and not at all how 'most dads' think.

Either he completely misjudged the tone, or he genuinely wishes he hadn't had children. He wouldn't be the first dad to wish that, but he should never have put it down in writing.

Well behind the hype and the unpleasantness of this man, I think there is a valid point that although children come first that doesn't mean its OK to complete ignore your relationship with your partner.

Its not healthy, for example, where you have a woman who allows herself to get so subsumed in her children she can't share any the responsibility with her other half, not healthy for their relationship or for the children either.

However this guy does just sound like a prat. He should try being my DH at the moment! Am 13 weeks pg and am being foul to DH as well as being unable to cook and totally off sex and not wanting him near me. I am just about managing to be kind and empathetic to my toddler and have nothing left to give once I've done that. Although I do apologise to DH and say I know its hard for him and that I promise it will be better in a few weeks when I start to feel less c**p. He is very long-suffering!

What will his children think when they grow up and read that article? :( It could well be a repeating cycle in this family.

God, if I thought that my parents had written that about me and my siblings, I'd be utterly devastated :(

DO NOT READ THE DAILY MAIL. THEY DO IT ON PURPOSE.

Is all I will say on the matter. I'm not even going to go there on actually reading the article.

The first thing that struck me in the photograph was how the SD was behind the 'family' in the photo.
And there must be some truth in the article surely?

Foul man.

I just keep scrolling back to look in gobsmacked horror at his face.