AIBU to use a sperm donor at 37, am i too old?

[YouaretooniceNOT]

I just want your opinions please.

i know i'm daft as a brush x

Go for it, good luck!

Oh would like to point out too that at my grand old age of 37 (at the time) we had unprotected sex one weekend and I took the morning after pill so I reckon the increase in fertility may be true. My DH has been away for 6.5 months so basically an only parent and has been hard going but would not change it for the world.

Users browsing this forum: Bing [Bot], Tango [Bot], Yahoo [Bot]

Happylander I had DS at 37 and was 38 four days later too! But I am definitely not going for a second. One is enough for me.

You are not too old, but agree with the other posters who say that it is more tiring.

Just be careful if you decide to go ahead, as Im sure you will be, apparantly there is a whole unregulated industry in sperm donation on the internet. Good luck!

Children are lovely, and I love mine so much but they aren't everything.

What I mean to say is don't give up on a loving committed relationship first.

Not daft, if that is what you want. And you are definitely not too old to try.

This website www.donor-conception-network.org/single_wmen.htm has some really good links and info. I've used them for info on having a donor child (in a relationship) and the site is supportive, but doesn't shy away from the issues.

Personally, I couldn't do it, but that doesn't mean that it isn't right for you. What is your support network like? Generally speaking, it's good for a child to have a non-Mum role model around (Dad/Grandparent/Gay partner/Uncle or whoever), but also it's going to be hard sometimes and I think you'll need someone to sound off to when the baby is crying again and the walls are closing in or the toddler is throwing the 14th tantrum of the day and so on... Not that that would happen to you, of course. :)

You are not too old.
I would seriously consider your support network though.

Do you have family, very close friends, other dcs etc? You have to consider what would happen to the child if something were to happen to you. I know that sounds truely horrid and I really don't want to be mean but you would need to put some sort of structure in place for the child if you are the only family the baby will have.
I know lots of children are in this situation but to knowingly bring a child into the world when you know this will be the situation is different to finding yourself bringing a child into the world who will be in this situation iykwim.
If you have an extended family or a few very very close friends who would step in then GO FOR IT!

I am already a single parent. I have never had a support network and i have coped brilliantly. i'm just naturally strong that way.

So the child will have a sibling/siblings too then - go for it! (and make sure you teach them all the delights of Still Game and Chewin' The Fat when they come of age

OP.... I was in the same position as you including PCOS that meant no periods for many years then a return to normal and subsequent unexpected
m/c that lead me to re-evaluate my life choices. I was a single parent and didnt want another relationship and had started to look into donor conception. I used a known donor in the end and DS2 was born just before my 41st birthday..... he is gorgeous even if I say so myself

Go for it!

OP I am considering this too - to have my second child. I don't see why as a lone parent we shouldn't get the same choices that other people do. I want my DD to have a brother or sister and I am desperate to have another baby (in about a years time). Let me know how it goes. Like everyone says if you have a good support network then go for it! I'm going to :)

How old are you Newbabynewmum?

I really want a family..

Go for it, don't wait around. Dd born when I was 40 and dc 2 due very soon (now 43) - it's brilliant!

Thank you - i really appreciate your post xxx

What if your Mother had told you. you were concieved as a result of a short passionate affair? Do you think you would have felt differently?

Not too old at all. :) And not gross either.

I'm 22. So younger. My DD is 7mo. Its just I don't want a huge age gap & don't want to live my life waiting around for a bloke that may or may not turn up. Have you looked at the European Sperm Bank? And London Women's Clinic? I did a bit of research the other day and both of these look good. I think they say under 40years old so you'd be fine!

Oh and I was thinking about how the child would feel. These days you can check about siblings & even get info on your biological father if you choose non-anonymous sperm. I know it'd be hard potentially at times. But if you love them and have a lovely family I'm sure you could get through it.

Newbabymewmum are you serious? Considering a sperm bank because at 22 you are already impatient about having another child when you still have a babe in arms, and you don't want to 'wait for a man that may or may not turn up?' Wow.

I hope you are completely 100% self funding then. but at 22 that would be some kind of miracle.

What planet are you on?

I am a maths teacher at a high school so yes I am self funding actually.

Also why don't I get to have a family with a close age gap between my children? And I didn't say I wanted another child now - I said in a year or so.

Sorry OP I didn't mean to high-jack your thread. You might all think I'm crazy but there you go. And I won't have anyone saying that I live of benefits because I don't. I work very hard.

How can you be a maths teacher at 22? You won't have even got your PGCE yet? and that's if you went straight from 6th form to do Maths degree with no maternity leave...