Bit of background. My dad died when I was in very early teens. My mum re-married very soon afterwards and they had another child. I was 13. Me and the new husband really didn't get on, he was a twat, very immature and took great delight in making me unhappy. My mum took his side over everything, god forbid anything come and spoil her new happy family. I was kicked out at the age of 16. Found life very difficult from then on, had children of my own very young (17) and have never lived anywhere but shitty, rough council estates. The one time I did ask for their help it was to be a guarantor for a little cheap house in a nice area, they said no as it was "Too much of a risk" to them. I am good with money, NEVER miss a payment so this, tbf was a load of shit.
Anyway I eventually sorted myself out but it's been bloody hard, I slogged my way through uni as a single parent living in a little council house, 2 young kids and no money - I'm now working and earning an ok wage (£20k a year, which is good for someone like me )
My sister is now 18. Last year she was GIVEN £4k from her grandmother. She blew it ALL within months buying TOYS such as xboxs, macs, mac-books, i-phones etc = none of which she actually uses, she wanted to buy them because she had the money. This year she's been given another £7k from her grandfather. She's in the process of blowing that too buying more toys.
OK, my mum is nothing to do with that money, not her fault nobody ever gave me that when I was a teen but I can't help feeling a bit bitter even so.
Now what has really pissed me off is that a few months ago my mum was saying how my sister wanted a place of her own. She was at college at the time (well, on the odd occasion that she could actually be arsed to turn up) and had no job and no intention of getting a job. I said to my mum "oh? and how is she going to do that when she isn't working?" my mum said "she'd be able to with a guarantor". This obviously pissed me off because it was something they'd refused to do for me when I AM good with money yet they'd just watched my sister blow £5k+ on toys. I said "oh? you're ok with that now? only when I asked, you said no". She went a bit quiet and finally replied "oh no, we wouldn't do it, I was just saying she'd need to find one."
I've just found out that not only have they now signed papers to be her guarantor for a 3 BEDROOMED HOUSE IN A LOVELY, QUIET AND EXPENSIVE VILLAGE but they have also paid her month's rent in advance AND deposit and are no doubt preparing to pay something towards her rent each month. My mum has delibrately kept this from me, I've found out from another family member.
AIBU in being really, really fucked off about this?? I struggled on my own for 13 years and they KNEW I was struggling and did absolutely nothing to help yet sister gets it all handed to her on a plate.
Yes I'm in my 30s and probably should be more grown up about it but it is unreasonable of me NOT to want to be reasonable about this??
(It's not a case of different circumstances, when I asked for help they DID have money, probably more than they do now).