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Chocolate Raffle at preschool - would it upset you?

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MarioandLuigi · 12/04/2011 14:32

I am fundraising co-ordinator for my preschool (have been for about three years as my different children have gone through). I have organised a chocolate raffle to raise some funds for Easter. We have had one for as long as I have een going (which is 7 years)

One of the parents who's child started at Christmas has complained that its a terrible idea because not all children have chocolate (her little boy included) because parents dont want them to. Aparently she is boycotting it.

Would it bother you? We dont buy our children easter eggs (but my Dad does) but I buy the tickets because I want to raise funds for the preschool. Its a charity run one so apart from funding there is no outside financial support.

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wannaBe · 12/04/2011 14:34

no, she is being a twat. If she doesn't want to participate that is her perogative, doesn't mean that the rest shouldn't though. some people are just far too precious, imho.

WalterFlipschicks · 12/04/2011 14:34

Ask the parent in question what she would prefer, rather than boycotting it, which is utterly childish imo... she could make a constructive suggestion?

WalterFlipschicks · 12/04/2011 14:35

ps. still run it!

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 12/04/2011 14:36

Boycott? Doesn't she just mean she won't buy a ticket? She's a bam.

not1not2 · 12/04/2011 14:37

No as long as it is sensible amounts

my nursery did give the children a creme egg for easter which I did think was inappropriate would have preferred a pack of buttons simply because easier for them to eat less cloyingly sweet and able to be eaten and saved IYSWIM

shesparkles · 12/04/2011 14:37

She's being a tit! If she wants to boycott, then let her, no one's forcing her to buy a ticket!

HeadfirstForHalos · 12/04/2011 14:38

No, it wouldn't bother me, she is being an arse.

She can disallow her children chocolate is she wishes, but rather than push her preferences onto others over a bit of fun she could simply choose to not join in.

HeadfirstForHalos · 12/04/2011 14:38

*if not is

wannaBe · 12/04/2011 14:38

tell her you'll raffle off wine instead. Wink Grin

mumutd · 12/04/2011 14:38

Still run it, I think it is a lovely idea. If she were to win the Easter Egg, it doesn't necessarily mean her child has to have it - and isn't the point here, that you are raising money for charity. She can always but a ticket and donate the ticket back, if it is a winning ticket then it can be put back and drawn again.

She is the one being unreasonable.

ShatnersBassoon · 12/04/2011 14:39

She's being a dick about it.

By boycotting it, does she mean 'not buying a raffle ticket'? Big bloody deal.

MrsBananaGrabber · 12/04/2011 14:39

Easter = Chocolate.

YANBU.

nometime · 12/04/2011 14:39

If she doesn't want to participate fine, that's her perogative, but don't let her dictate to the rest of you. If a chocolate raffle works for your pre-school, and has for years, then don't let her "paddy" stop it. Perhaps she might like to come up with another fund raising idea that you can run next term.

overmydeadbody · 12/04/2011 14:40

She's as loon.

She can just decline to take part, or eat the chocolate herself if she wins (which is what I would do).

Original poster
MarioandLuigi · 12/04/2011 14:40

She is boycotting so hasnt purchased any tickets - we send them out with the children and she has sent hers back with 'I am boycotting this' written on the envelope.

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worraliberty · 12/04/2011 14:42

I don't get why you're bothered?

It's not a 'boycott' she's simply choosing not to buy a raffle ticket Confused

I didn't buy a raffle ticket last week at my son's school because the prize was a trip to London zoo and we'd already been the week before...I don't feel as though I boycotted anything though.

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MarioandLuigi · 12/04/2011 14:43

I suppose I am bothered because I have to put a lot of work into fundraising and it can seem a bit thankless when people moan about things.

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worraliberty · 12/04/2011 14:45

Well I'm with your there (ran the fundraising committee for 5yrs at my son's school) but really it's not a big deal if someone doesn't want to buy a ticket...you can't force them and it's pointless taking it to heart.

onlion · 12/04/2011 14:45

So ridiculous. Who says she has to give the prize to her child?

BuntyPenfold · 12/04/2011 14:48

our pre-school does a chocolate tombola and it is always popular. Better than the usual tombola prizes of ancient bath bombs and tinned 'savers' rice pudding.
Ask her what she wants to organise instead (or just ignore her, life's too short).

GreenEyesandHam · 12/04/2011 14:49

she has sent hers back with 'I am boycotting this' written on the envelope

How funny :o

ShatnersBassoon · 12/04/2011 14:50

I understand, MarioandLuigi. It's hard not to take things like this personally.

None of the other parents will be swayed to her way of thinking, so forget about her tantrum boycott and get on with flogging tickets to everyone else.

onlion · 12/04/2011 14:51

We had a bonus ball thingy as part of our fund raising. Quite a few of us didnt participate because we are anti gambling but all we did was keep quiet and not buy a number. Making a fuss and "boycotting" is true wankerdom at ist finest.

BuntyPenfold · 12/04/2011 14:53

I am hoping for a new thread now, something about
Irresponsible wanton chocolate distribution, AIBU to boycott this? :)

MerryMarigold · 12/04/2011 14:53

She's definitely BU. She doesn't have to let her child have the chocolate if she's totally against that, it could be given to GP/s/ neighbours/ friends IF he won it!