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DP says I am manky for...

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upyourdiva · 11/04/2011 08:07

  1. Washing everything at 40

2. Using water/vinegar to clean instead of anti bacterial stuff
3. Only washing outdoor windows with wiper thingy when it rains
4. Using sopa nuts instead of powder/conditioner
5. Not seperating towels/bedding/underwear in laundry.

Please tell me I am not?

I generally try to keep the house clean and tidy ( Neither of us arethe cleanest or tidiest of people though so an hour throughout the day is plenty for me!) but am sick wasting money on anti bacterial shite and polish/air fresheners that make me gag and feel like I am suffocating.

I asked him if he thought everyone died in the olden days because their was no anti bac or bloody boil washes, his reply was no but there have been advancements... yes in advertising apparently... Hmm:o
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colditz · 11/04/2011 08:09

Tell him he's free to take over and do all these things his way


AlpinePony · 11/04/2011 08:09

You make it sound as though you wash your windows on a regular basis! Shock Verdict = not manky.

People actually separate towels and pants before washing? Why? Do washing machines not work? Hmm


EricNorthmansMistress · 11/04/2011 08:11

I wash at 30
I don't use anti-bac stuff except in the bathroom
Never wash outdoor windows
sopa nuts are fine
Why would you separate types of laundry?

And....if he doesn't like the way you do it why doesn't he do it?


kreecherlivesupstairs · 11/04/2011 08:12

Of course YANBU.
The only things I do differently to you is use washing liquid, I don't know what soap nuts are.
DH is not allowed near the laundry. He put his work shirts in with a towel of unknown origin. Result was pale lilac shirts.
He does need to learn though, he'll be doing it all for himself come July.


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Kentmummy · 11/04/2011 08:13

Not manky no. I've never heard of sopa nuts(??) and I have someone clean my windows... So I don't do those things but not because they're manky. I do use anti bac but that's because I like the smell, couldn't be doing with the house smelling like vinegar!
I too wash at 40, except towels and bedding at higher but I don't seperate all those things... The whole point is they come out clean so does it matter if they go in together?!
Anyway... I don't think you're manky and if he doesn't like, let him crack on and do it just the way he likes!!


sparkle12mar08 · 11/04/2011 08:17

Tell him to do it himself then. Can't be doing with whinging men.


LornaGoon · 11/04/2011 08:18

YANBU. You're right advertising has a lot to answer for and 'air freshener' is a misnomer - it smells vile.

5. Not seperating towels/bedding/underwear in laundry. Why would you do this? Waste of time but def not manky.


DontCallMeBaby · 11/04/2011 08:27

I was everything at 30. DH does his own washing, and random bits of household/DD washing, at 40, I think. Washing gets separated into colours, not types - bedding and towels might get their own wash cos they're bulky, but they're just as likely to have a selection of pants whizzing round with them. We use washing powder but not conditioner (pointless stuff) - I would be willing to give soap nuts a try, but I think DH would be suspicious (he generally is, of eco stuff). I don't consider any of this to be in the least bit manky.

Not using anti-bac is completely sensible, and DH is well on board with this one - hygiene hypothesis and all that. We have some in, but it only gets used for, hm, 'bodily fluids', typically when the bulimic cat throws up.

I would consider myself bloody lucky to live with someone who cleaned the windows at all, with anything. The last time I did the insides of the windows I wiped off a 3yo's handprints - the position they were in, they could only have been DD's, and she was 6 at the time (she's 7 now, and I haven't don the windows since). So you see, I am manky, but I know manky when I see it, and you're not. :)


Bubbaluv · 11/04/2011 08:30

Was his Mum one of those nuts who disinfected the shopping when she came home from the supermarket? (The things you learn on MN!)
Am fascinated at the idea of washing windows after rain. Defo not manky, in fact none of your points = manky.


upyourdiva · 11/04/2011 08:31

:o Aha I knew it was'nt just me!

Enviroment is a part of it but money, stupidly sensitive skin and getting a bit wheezy when using cleaning stuff kiced it off and saving money is an issue too as we are a bit on the skint side at the mo and things like that can be cut back on, for us anyway.

To be fair to him he does do some cleaning at the weekends, he washes the kitchen/bathroom floors and if I'm having a lay in the kitchen surfaces and bathroom... although why he does the surfaces in the morning I don't know they get done at night and as far as I know I don't cook in my sleep Confused:o

I only wash my windows 3/4 times a year as if I can get away with basics I will... but generally I wait until the sky always seems to look cloudy when you look out them Blush

I was a bit miffed about the seperating too, yes apparently it is manky to put pants in with bedding etc... I assume he does not think there is an issue sleeping in his boxers and contaminating the sheets then?!

Soap nuts are fab! I have only been using them for about 2 months and have managed to convert my clean freak mother and gran to using them which I was gobsmacked by as my mum is the type to have a hoover for her shoes and clothes (sadly that is true Hmm but still it's an achievement :o

You basically buy a bag of them, and you get a big bag of sticky nut shells, take 4 out, halve them and chuck in a little mesh bag in the machine with washingand those halves get changed every 4 days. So really it is laziness because I don't even need to measure soap powder :o

Washing smells of nothing (which is fine by me) and is soo soft but you can add essential oils if you want a wiff about them. Sorry have gotten a bit attached to my nuts Wink

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MikeRotch · 11/04/2011 08:31

agree re the washing at 40.

Why can't you wash towels etc with pants?


ivykaty44 · 11/04/2011 08:32

I second what coltiz said - he is free to purchase and use said anti bacterial products, take over the laundry duties and clean to his hearts content Smile


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CadleCrap · 11/04/2011 08:36

People separate their pants from tea towels Confused.

I must be really manky - I wash socks with tea towels as well Grin!


upyourdiva · 11/04/2011 08:36

Don'tcallmebaby - you don't sound manky to me either Confused and you almost made me spit tea all over my sofa :o

Bubbla - I have swing in windows upstairs which is easier obviously. Every now and again when it rains I just swing them inside and squedgee (odd word how the hell do you spell it?) the rain off, leaves clean windows in about 45 seconds and no smears = my kind cleaning...

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washnomore · 11/04/2011 08:39

Seriously, if you've so little faith in your machine cleaning anything what difference does separating pants from towels make? Confused


upyourdiva · 11/04/2011 08:40

Altinkum can I ask why you use anti bac? I did until a few months ago but then I was told a lot about distilled white vinegar being anti-bacterial and thought of the cost and enviromental impact which is n issue to us but I get that it's not too everyone's taste.

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ShinyMoonInAPurpleSky · 11/04/2011 08:41

I have to separate towels (and bibs) from normal clothes because I have to wash the towels etc on a 90 degree wash because of all the food, wee, poo and sick they end up covered in thanks to ds. Before I had him they all went in together with everything else which gets washed at 40.

I have never washed the outside of any window every and don't plan on doing so. The insides only get cleaned if I can't see out of them! Grin.


onceamai · 11/04/2011 08:45

That's not manky. Why does DH know - my DH doesn't have a clue and dosen't care providing shirts get ironed, beds changed and all seems spick and span. I could be using lemonade for he knows.


Stangirl · 11/04/2011 08:48

  1. Seems fine to me. I do a lot at 30 and only ver occasionally bother to put all the towels in at 90.

2. i don't use any anti-bac stuff except a bit of dettol if my cat has sprayed somewhere.
3. i have owned various properties for 17years and have never washed a window.
4. No idea what sopa nuts are but i only ever use one wash tab per wash.
5. Eh? Why separate?

WhatsWrongWithYou · 11/04/2011 08:50

Bedding needs a 60 degree wash to kill the bedmites.
And I always do towels and dishcloths at 60 because they don't seem to come up clean otherwise.

I had a phase of using vinegar/bicarb etc but now I use any supermarket eco brand as I prefer the smell and they're easy to come by.

I'm not convinced soapnuts can work, if they're anything like those bloody useless washballs. I watched all our clothes get progressively greyer and more stained-looking when I was using them.


dolldaggabuzzbuzz · 11/04/2011 08:56

YANBU. You are a domestic goddess!


littleducks · 11/04/2011 08:58

I tried soapnuts but gave up after about 3/4months as they were ruining our clothes, stuff was going grey and dingy and stains didnt really shift. BUt if they work for you stick with it.

I was clothes at 40 but bedding and often towels at 60 (so seperatefrom clothes) to kill bedmites.

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