to ask which MNer's influence you?

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I've just read a thread where a poster was influenced to buy somthing really expensive because of a poster on here.

I think BOF has influenced me by her posting style which is very funny and she deals with bad issues with OP's without being nasty and personal. I hope I have become funnier and kinder because of seeing how she is.

Also I was persuaded to go and buy a steam mop by ChippyMinton - so she's obviously imfluenced me.

And a moon-cup - but I can't remember which single OP that was.

Who has influenced you? (on here)

I say what the actual jeff now :) And I call my rubbish bins "bins" instead of garbage cans.

Gosh waht a lot of responses for my first post.

Thanks.

A few...but I wont suck up or name names :)

I get different things from different people. Some have a wicked sense of humor, the drunk threads leave me in stitches and some have down to earth practical "get off your bum and do stuff advices" which I appreciate.

I have been influenced to by a bread maker and a steam mop by a mumsnetter. I use both and are happy I bought them.

I was influenced to by a steamer by a friend. I am not happy I bought it. They are no longer my friend .

I expect lots of people are influencing me, but I'm not sharp enough to notice.

I swear more, though.

I don't know this poster's name but she was on a thread about three months ago - the one where the gay couple were turned away from the B&B - and she completely changed my view of the way gay people are perceived. I'd never realised before that it doesn't matter what my perceptions are of the way other people treat gay people, I'll never know what it's really like to feel the weight of other people's covert prejudice, because I'm not gay.

It was the poster who was talking about buying a bed with her partner... she was explaining that she could never be as uninhibited about it as I, for example, could... it really made me think and realise that legislative changes are only the start of it, getting people to really remove their perceived 'barriers' is something very different - and it's not ok for me to blindly assert that people can have their views, right or wrong, if I think something's wrong, I need to stand up for what's right.

Thank you, lovely poster of that thread, I'm forever changed by your input and I won't forget. :)

What a lovely post, LWITW

I was a celibate, teetotal virgin until I joined here.

lots of posters have made me realise that my narrow minded, small view of the world isn't absolutley right 100% of the time

(maybe just 99% )

Ah, now you see I would say that my narrow minded view of the world IS right 100% of the time, and I like to influence other MNers to see that for themselves.

tiktok, hunker and lots of others gave me "permission" to bf ds3 and ds4 for over 2 years each when I had stopped at a year with ds1 and ds2

Xenia made me realise I was not a bad mother for having a career.

dittany. Don't agree with everything she says but she has brought me back to feminism.

Lots of people have influenced me to drink more wine and get a mooncup. Not at the same time.

There are posters who always seem reasonable (aka- agree with me) and so if they post something I tend to take notice.

Hecate, Hully and Jareth fit that little list. Also, i love Getorfmoiland and Morloth because I usually find myself nodding. And i love expatinscotland because she is often on ghostie threads, and they are ALWAYS my faves.

I also take note of posters who pile on and get nasty in AIBU as i do not like it usually.

I have a girl-crush on Pagwatch. I don't know why. I'm feeling pretty miffed now that other people seem to share it. I also really admire Lingle.

I've bought some cashmere cardigans because of S&B. It would never have occurred to me - I don't think people have a thing for them here in Australia in the way that they are discussed on the S&B board. But I love them! And they are perfect for chilly Canberra weather

MN has also made me paranoid about the way my children and I are perceived by the rest of the world. I used to be blissfully ignorant, but now I'm always worried I'm being judged.

AND (oh dear, I'm starting to realise how weak I am) I took up cosleeping (a mixed blessing) because of mumsnet. Which in turn led to sling wearing etc...

Also, MN has made me feel in many ways more confident in my parenting. I tend to just shrug and say 'to each his own' - I use dummies, bottle fed and so on. I have attracted lots of criticism in my 'real' daily life for many things, and MN has allowed me to just shrug and move on.

And the best parenting quote I have ever come across was from MN. 'Remember, the good bits AND the bad bits are all just a phase'.

DS is a delightful, cheery, easy easy baby. If it were not for MN which taught me to know better, i was in danger of becoming seriously smug. :)

Funnily enough, it's made me care a nit less about how my DCs are perceived. I think I'm a good mum, fairly strict, but not OTT about anything, and with a realistic level-headedness about most things, but some people on here are so militant about their child-rearing that it makes me almost want to revel in benign neglect.

It's more that I imagine people starting a thread about me as the neglectful mother who let her dc wander around during stretching time at tumble tots/ rampage through the shopping centre/ talk non stop etc etc...

Valhalla has influenced me - I've decided when my children are a little older I'm going to apply to be a foster carer for staffies dogs

Valhalla and all the others who care about animal welfare. Also the other day my boys had weed all over the toilet seat and floor again, were really irritating me, fighting, shouting etc, I had the thought that I couldn't do it anymore and didn't want to hear them anymore. MrsDevere popped into my head and I wondered what she'd say to me. All the ladies who understand DV, really get it. Beachcomber sticks in my mind on that score.

The people who post in the feminist section give me lots of food for thought.

The house-lady (naming no names) and her mates have given me a lot of kindness and laughs.

Lots of people who post here who have views that differ from mine have helped me to see things from another point of view.

(Though I'm a bit scared of the one who washes her bedlinen every day and keeps her kettle in a cupboard - can't live up to her exacting standards. )

Oh bugger, I meant to post this on another thread (where my last line might be perceived as rather less bitchy than it looks here). Sorry.

But Fellatio, sorry but your 'care a nit less' comment made me smile. Have you got an, errm, invasion at the moment?

i love mn, i used to feel pretty alone being a mum. i had my first child in europe and felt completely isolated. every site i went on seemed to be full of tickers not relevant to me. now i have my second and feel like there is a big community of opinion. even if some of that community are determine to tell me why i am wrong - thanks ccpccp. still don't agree with you. but respect you disagreeing with me!

particular thanks to nannynick and the lovely ladies on the childminders and nannies board, who have introduced me to how the nannying world works, i am seriously v grateful. [busmile] bunny smile just because it is easter.