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to be a bit scared....

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YouaretooniceNOT · 07/04/2011 19:36

About 10 weeks ago, a new radiator was needed, in my dining room. The heating engineer and i struck up a bit of witty banter and i thought he might be a nice chap, until i heard his foul language during a mobile telephone call he had, with his friend. He completed the job, left and naturally i never heard from him again or expected to. He just rang my doorbell and wanted to say hi and said he always remembers nice Ladies. He also knew my name. I reminded him he told me he was married with 2 children. We shook hands and he left.

I'm feeling a bit scared he might break into my home..can't explain as to why neither!!

{although i was burgled whilst asleep upstairs once}

Tell me i'm being silly

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worraliberty · 07/04/2011 19:38

How did you get to 'breaking into your home' from having a bit of witty banter and him knocking and shaking hands?

You're being silly Smile

BeerTricksPotter · 07/04/2011 19:38

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YouaretooniceNOT · 07/04/2011 19:38

I did not invitwe him ionto my home this evening. I had the door half open as i felt vulnerable. I am single and live with my SN son.

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atswimtwolengths · 07/04/2011 19:39

He sounds a real creep. Was he working for a large company or for himself? Do you have a partner at home?

thenameiwantedwastaken · 07/04/2011 19:39

You are being silly. He was just trying it on! Be flattered :)

MaureenMLove · 07/04/2011 19:39

That's odd? Hmm Why would he come round after all this time. I think I'd be a little concerned too, tbh. Sorry I can't tell you you're being unreasonable though.

worraliberty · 07/04/2011 19:40

He may have got the wrong impression and thought you were interested in him. He knocked, found out you're not and that I'm sure is that.

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YouaretooniceNOT · 07/04/2011 19:41

yes, it felt odd and i feel a little shook up by it too. I am NO looker and cannot understand it. Although i am single amd maybe he actually thinks this constitutes a person that would sleep with a married man!! Even though he is as dish/creepo.

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YouaretooniceNOT · 07/04/2011 19:41

He works for a large company.

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YouaretooniceNOT · 07/04/2011 19:43

Yes i hope so Beer.

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summershereatlast · 07/04/2011 19:43

Do you know what? I don't think he'll be back.

Sounds like a bit of a chancer, but when he realised you weren't interested he probably counted his losses.

Take the normal precautions...and don't worry about it.

BeerTricksPotter · 07/04/2011 19:45

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worraliberty · 07/04/2011 19:46

Maybe he was touting for more work and didn't want to make it obvious by just coming out and asking if you needed him again?

beesimo · 07/04/2011 19:51

You need to listen to yourself if you feel scared it is because something is scaring you. You might not be able to articulate it but it dosen't mean it is not real. I think you can feel it when you come into contact with a hooded man-- that is one who is concealing a darkness within him -and he did revealed a unpleasant side when you overheard him on the mobile.

Put a few suitcase near your front door and if he comes knocking again tell him your brother has come to stay. Don't let him over the threshold remember you are allowed to be 'rude' just don't entertain him. NOT to frighten you but remember Lisa onEmmerdale.

squeakytoy · 07/04/2011 19:53

Most blokes, certainly in the building trade have a very strong language when talking to each other.

Was he aware you were listening to his phonecall?

Swearing does not make him a psycho.

gkys · 07/04/2011 19:54

ugh....what a creep, don't think you will get anymore visits, just on the off chance make a note of date and time, terrible about previous break in, can understand why your jangled

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 07/04/2011 19:58

To be honest I think it's very strange that he's just turned up out of the blue after 10 weeks. I've had plenty of workmen doing various tasks in the past and not one has ever turned up unannounced on my doorstep at a later date. Hopefully now he knows his luck's not in, he won't be back, but if he comes back again, report him to his employer.

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YouaretooniceNOT · 07/04/2011 19:59

squeakytoy yes i was aware he was in my dining room and i was in the kitchen (they ar enext to each other).

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YouaretooniceNOT · 07/04/2011 20:00

i mean he was aware i could hear his very loud sweary chat.

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atswimtwolengths · 07/04/2011 20:04

I would contact his company and say that you don't expect their employees to come round like that. Don't mention his language, though it sounds to me that he was putting on a crude macho front to see what reaction he got from you. But I would contact them - they need to know who they are sending into people's homes.

TragicallyHip · 07/04/2011 20:13

How odd!!

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YouaretooniceNOT · 07/04/2011 20:14

atswimtwolengths i think i will do this if he calls around again, i am sincerely hoping he will not.

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PorkChopSter · 07/04/2011 20:14

I would contact his company to ask why he came round and that you were made to feel unnerved by his inappropriate behaviour.

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YouaretooniceNOT · 07/04/2011 22:00

PorkChopSter yes i think i will do that

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